Another "Jealous of my girlfriend's past" thread!!

[kyle b.]

Okay, I'm new to the forum and i'm having issues hence why I joined the forum.

 

I found the "Another "Jealous of my girlfriend's past" thread!!"" online because I finally worked up to courage to look because of my problem. I read this whole article on the "bazool" and how his gf's past was really affecting him. I could really relate to whole thing.

 

I know that the article has been down since 2008, but I was hoping to recall all who helped bazool to help me with some of that advice if there still around. The advice that was given was great. All though my story has some similarities there are a few thing's that are different.

 

So maybe if I could connect with some of the members that helped bazool or any current members could pleas help me out ill proceed to begin my story. Hope to talk with you soon.

 

PS bazool if your out there, I wouldn't mind seeing how your doing and if you got past this whole thing. Because i'm on the brink of self destruction.

 

I hope I can seek some guidance because once again im really struggling with this.

 

Double standard aside, I have never had any intention of feeling this way. But i'm struggling and i'm scared and i'm thinking crazy.

Edited July 23, 2011 by kyle b.

[kyle b.]

Okay....so is my retroactive jealously, is this cause by me being absolutely in love with my SO? I mean I have never been so twisted inside about a someone before. I am absolutely fall on my face flat in love with my girlfriend. I read the the whole article about bazool. I'm just curious if I can be cured.

[RepairMinded]

Typically in these situations the guy has trouble getting women to have sex with him.

 

When he finally succeeds in doing so, it's because the girl in question is the promiscuous type that has a history of having sex with a lot of different men in an indiscriminate way.

 

So there's the dilemma--what does a guy do, if the only woman he can get to have sex with him, has sex with him only because she has sex with pretty much anyone?

 

She's totally non-selective which forces him to be totally non-selective if he wants to have sex.

 

The trick is to find a very selective, non-promiscuous woman who is willing to have sex with you, but not with every other guy on the block, because there is something special about you.

 

You're not there yet.

[April72]

Well I don't know anything about Bazool.... I'm pretty knew to this website myself. But my retroactive jealousy is what brought me here. And I am a female. It's not gender specific. It sucks. And all our stories sound the same. Those who get it really get it. And those that don't really don't understand.

 

I do think you can get past it. With time and effort and deep soul searching. It is with out a doubt the suffers problem... not the SO's.

 

I try to tell myself that all of that was in his memory bank from our very first meeting. First date. First time. It was all there. I just didn't know any of it. I try not to dig for details. I tell myself that knowing or not knowing doesn't change why and when it happened. It seems to be helping. I'm not there yet completely. But I'm better then I thought I would be. I have several post on here.... not sure if any will help. But I do understand and will listen if you need it.