i should just give up on love

[reimeivn]

So i have been NC for 2 months and a half from my first love of 2 years. I am doing fine. Sometimes I even feel like I forgive him. Really whatever. I did get hurt a lot though. Still cry sometimes.

 

I feel like giving up on love. I want to feel different ways but I cant. People tell me the right guy will come to me when its time, well right now I need him, and I dont have anyone with me. it is incredibly lonely.

 

I guess its just that fear of putting yourself out there and then being humiliated and taken advantages of, and abused just does not leave me alone. If I date somebody else, that person one day tell me that hey I dont love you anymore, its just gone, why would I get into relationships anymore? I mean I dont need boys to buy me things, I am too busy with my own things already. You know when my ex told me that his feelings just gone the same day he yelled at me for asking if he wanted to break up with me or not, I just have this emptiness inside me. SO he didnt really love me to start with, and he has been lying to me. And most of the guys are just the same.

 

I have been feeling incredibly skinny and unattractive lately. When I was with my ex he told me that I look disgusting so I felt even worse. But right now I just somehow care more about my personal appearance and I dont like it very much.

[reimeivn]

I dont feel like anybody is gonna like me anytime soon. Its like me trying to go out and make friends and feel like there is nobody really cares about me at all.

[broken-and-lost]

It's normal to feel this way but your relationship ending is not a reflection on you remember that, your still young first loves always seem this way at first just give it time a year or two down the line and you will feel different again

 

Trust me i'm 37 had my heart broken more times then i'd like to remember if i'm honest every time i've thought my life is over but it hasn't been only difference now is i've taken a good look at my own problems and looked to address them hopefully it's not too late for me to meet that special someone don't give up on yourself or love

[replicator]

Hey Reimeivn,

 

I know it may seem that nobody can understand, but as someone who has been there. I think it is safe to say things are going to get better. Two months after a break is too soon - it takes time.

 

You need to focus on yourself. What does Ms. Reimeivn want to do today? Go and do it. Have your haagen das, buy yourself a new bag - whatever it is - get out and enjoy the sunshine! Try something new - join a club or something.. Anything to keep yourself busy.

 

I'm at 3 years plus after my breakup, and even though I have no problem finding women to date, and I still feel broken up about my last relationship. I feel that emptiness even when I am in a relationship, and I'm not quite sure that that means.

 

I find that it is when by yourself, things get most difficult. I travel a lot for work, so I find myself in hotels in big cities alone, so I know the feeling. But still, it's an important thing to be OKAY when you're alone. You need to be happy in your own skin.

 

Hang in there.. And remember, go outside.

[FinOuch]

I am exactly where you're at. Although I tend to feel too fat despite my friends joking that they're going to start force feeding me hand burgers if I get any skinnier.

And every insecurity I have ever had about myself is magnified to extremes. I'm probably the most self conscious I have ever been.

 

It's all about your image of yourself...which has been beaten up a little as of late. I'm told this will pass.

 

 

But if it's any consolation, I think you look adorable in your avatar and I don't think you'll have any problems finding love again.