Do the really bad days ever stop?

[ScienceGal]

I posted yesterday about pushing myself to get out and date. I read the pros and cons that people offered in the replies. I felt pretty good about the idea of dating, and then this morning... BAM! I wake up in tears and cry my eyes out for an hour because I miss my ex.

 

Do the really bad days ever stop? Right now I feel just as sad/angry/frustrated as I did when we split 6 weeks ago. I can't believe I am hitting this low again.

[marqueemoon4]

It definitely gets better... please believe me. I know its work but try and be as positive as possible.

 

 

hugz

[ScienceGal]

Thanks. I do realize it is my reluctance to let go that is keeping me in a bad place, but I also don't feel I have control over it. Slowly I hope to think of him less and less and one day wake up and not miss him at all.

[thelovingkind]

Don't worry, I was in the same place not too long ago and wondering the same thing. But they do stop. Even looking back at your progress from the immediate break up you can probably see that the good days are starting to nudge out the bad ones, or at least compete for ground. It's a very topsy turvy process, not a smooth, streamlined emergence into the brightness. Good days, bad mornings, surges of optimism, crushing sadness. In the midst of it you can feel as if it's all just a random lottery of emotions and no clear movement in any direction is taking place, but try to take a step back and you'll see that your state of mind is, on the whole, improving. I remember thinking that the heavy mournful sensation first thing upon awaking in the morning would never go. It just seemed to have become too much a part of my life and imprinted itself in my daily routine. But it's gone. I don't miss him anymore. You will get there too

[Bito]

I am at the exact same place you are science gal. Its been 6 weeks since the breakup and I thought I was doing better but then the last couple days I fell back into a slump of sorrow and pain. I think we both have to realize there is a light at the end of the tunnel and we are almost there!

 

I cant wait till I can go the whole day without having her get me down. Im not sure ill ever be able to go threw a whole day without thinking about her but as long as it doesn't affect me like it does now I don't care.

 

Just rememeber you are not alone and you can get threw this!

[ScienceGal]

Thanks Bito!

 

Something funny... I just found an old journal from about 10 years ago. I was flipping through and read about how sad I was due to my ex at the time and how I was going to miss him forever...

 

But, I haven't thought about him in years! And now that I am, I don't miss him one bit! He is not the one for me and I can't believe I ever thought he was!

 

I think in matters of the heart, we are not always the best judge of what is truly good for us. I've coined the phrase "my future self would disapprove". It makes me laugh

Edited July 24, 2011 by ScienceGal

[reimeivn]

sometimes you just feel real low, sometimes. it happens. but it will stop in the near future. i am three months out, the breakup was worse than just its not working out, lets just breakup. but whatever, you need to clear your head soon for the new person to come to your life.

 

hug hug hug

[Karala]

... I've coined the phrase "my future self would disapprove". It makes me laugh

 

Great, love that ^^

 

It does get better. I'm 4 months into my b/u, 2 months NC, and lately, for the first time, I've had mornings when I woke up and did NOT think of him first thing. It does catch up after about 5 minutes but well. lol. Not nearly as painful as it was months ago.