Chrissy21 Posted April 27, 2004 Share Posted April 27, 2004 Jenny: I'm sorry that I am incapable of that kind of regret, but I simply don't regret it at all. We all make our own choices in life and our own mistakes. How can you judge someone from "the outside looking in" when you don't know the situation? I wish the circumstances would have been different sometimes, which I'm sure all OW do, but they weren't. You seem to put yourself on a pedestal. Maybe your the kind of person that makes ALL the right choices. But maybe your going to look back one day and wish you would have made that one mistake that you wanted to make but didn't have the courage to. Regret comes in so many forms. I think that the worst kind of regret is not taking a chance, and wishing later that you had. I glad I took the chance because I found something great. And for me it wasn't a mistake. Link to post Share on other sites
shoefanatic Posted May 6, 2004 Share Posted May 6, 2004 [font=century gothic][/font] I would not do it again. I can only speak for myself right now. It was great while it lasted and I learned alot about myself and faced my insecurities head on. I alson learned that I am beautiful and that any man out there single would love to get to know me. I can say that [color=darkred]I wouldn't do it again [/color]only because i've experienced it. It was not bad however it was not forever and i was not going to allow my life to pass by and possibly miss the opportunity of Mr. Right for him. To make a decision like that takes actually being the OW to know. I use it as a learning experience and apologize for my actions and the fact that I was the OW. I wasn't raised that way coming from a home where my parents have been married 4ever (i'm sure there were problems there but) never saw that at home. And experiencing my husbands infidelities doesn't give me the right to do it either. Link to post Share on other sites
JBoz0605 Posted May 6, 2004 Share Posted May 6, 2004 Simple answer...Yes, I would do it all again. Even with the pain, he was/is worth it. Link to post Share on other sites
hollygirl Posted May 7, 2004 Share Posted May 7, 2004 How do you ever move on? I am at the point now where we love each other very deeply, but I do not know If I can live with the aftermath (ex-wife, children , my guilt etc). He is not sure how he will feel after leaving his children. We keep telling each other that we know it is over, but neither one of us can end it. He has never been with any other women. This is something that neither one of us ever thought would happen. I never intended to become involved with him. We knew each other for 2 years prior to becoming involved. Now I can't seem to even think about a future without him. We have been together for 4 years. We are trying to distance ourselves from each other, but have not been able to end this. The pain is terrible for both of us. Link to post Share on other sites
shoefanatic Posted May 7, 2004 Share Posted May 7, 2004 [font=courier new][/font]I know exactly how you feel. Nobody can tell you that you are wrong for feeling this way. I think that the repercussions of moving on and making yourselves happy would destroy a whole string of other people especially children, and ex-wives. I struggle with that everyday. I made a choice and hard one..i've since divorced my husband (not because of the MM) but because we had problems before and it was just not working. I also told my MM that i could not be his side dish anymore as much as i loved him. He has since seperated from his wife but it seems like now that we are both single we are not as eager as we were when it was forbidden. It's a double edged sword...hard decision. Just balance the repercussions of any decision you plan to make before making a final decision. Link to post Share on other sites
littlemissomg Posted May 8, 2004 Share Posted May 8, 2004 I'm not exactly an OW, I guess I could be in the near future.... or maybe in a way I am in a EA way more than a PA way and every time he speaks to me he cheats because we know how we feel? Anyway... (still struggling with that one!!) as things stand now YES I would repeat what has happened so far. That could change in time of course. Becc x Link to post Share on other sites
unluckylady Posted July 26, 2004 Share Posted July 26, 2004 Having the opportunity to do it all over again? If I had known when we got involved that he was married, I'd say NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO. But he didn't give me that chance... Link to post Share on other sites
1Yoyo Posted August 16, 2004 Share Posted August 16, 2004 I would have to say No. I would not want to go through this again, nor would I recommend it for anyone! I stayed away from my MM 2 years and kept my sanity and cried a lot less! HaHa Once the feelings get involved, its a lot harder to walk away. Yo Link to post Share on other sites
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