Star Gazer Posted July 27, 2011 Share Posted July 27, 2011 More discrediting. Disappointing but not surprising. People would rather be right than show compassion for ES. Unbelievable. Right about what, exactly? Do any of us, including ES, know the truth?? No. Not even you, as much as you want to act like you do. Just sick to death of the lack of compassion on LS. I see compassion every day all over LS... maybe there's just not much left for ES, after...well...everything. That said, no one is forcing you to stay, or to be the sole-arbiter of what's appropriate or not in ES's threads. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted July 27, 2011 Share Posted July 27, 2011 As for how bizzare his story is - ex is in a certain country in Eastern Europe where people are desperate to get out of there. The girls would do anything for a shot at Australian citizenship so it's not surprising this girl is willing to move so quickly. He is most likely being played but he soooooo deserves it. Not bizarre to me. In fact, I was expecting to read this at some point. Desperate not so much in Russia/Ukraine/Belarus, but more likely in one of the other CIS down in the Caucasus. You're from FSU/CIS, yes? I'd suggest spending some time with your parents. This will all blow over soon enough. He'll return alone and will come crawling back. I'd suggest resisting that. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted July 27, 2011 Share Posted July 27, 2011 I hope he gets AIDS. I know you're hurting, but that is a HORRIBLY reprehensible thing to say. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted July 27, 2011 Author Share Posted July 27, 2011 I did something pretty desperate and asked him for a Skype conversation. I just want to ask some questions and see him look at me when he tells me this. I feel like it's not fair to me to get one shocking text message and just let him off the hook after everything we have been through. He agreed to come on Skype in 3 hours. He is probably just not going to show up Link to post Share on other sites
torn_curtain Posted July 27, 2011 Share Posted July 27, 2011 I'm so sorry, ES. I can't even imagine how you're feeling. Link to post Share on other sites
threebyfate Posted July 27, 2011 Share Posted July 27, 2011 Not sure what to say beyond suggesting that you don't have this convo with him. At this point, he's not going to be honest with you whether he avoids the truth in order to avoid drama or he may feel free to be cruel. You wanted to dump him. Just let him go. You know he's not the one for you and the way he handled it was terrible. All along your gut knew he wasn't being honest and this final text message proves it quite clearly. Link to post Share on other sites
soulm8 Posted July 27, 2011 Share Posted July 27, 2011 Why? Just go to his apartment, get your stuff, leave your key and lock the door. Done. You were ready to break up with him. :/ Link to post Share on other sites
Hot Chick Posted July 27, 2011 Share Posted July 27, 2011 I think if you were really crazy about him in the first place, you would have gone on the trip with him like he wanted you to do. I am sure he felt really rejected and sensed your internal ambivalence toward him, which lead to him reaching out to someone else who perhaps offered more warmth and enthusiasm about being with him. I wouldn't bother with a Skype conversation with him....like I said, you weren't that crazy about him in the first place, so just move on. No biggie, really. Plus you said you've had plenty of offers in the short time he's been away, like 2 weeks? Pick yourself up and go out with hot chocolate guy. Link to post Share on other sites
threebyfate Posted July 27, 2011 Share Posted July 27, 2011 I think if you were really crazy about him in the first place, you would have gone on the trip with him like he wanted you to do.Did you know she asked her boss for the time off and he refused to give it to her? Link to post Share on other sites
Nexus One Posted July 27, 2011 Share Posted July 27, 2011 Did you know she asked her boss for the time off and he refused to give it to her? Maybe that has been a good thing in retrospect, because when she would have gone on vacation with him they would quite probably still be together, but given the fact that he now bailed on her with some fling that he met in a club it would only have been a matter of time that the relationship would have crashed, as him doing this proves he wasn't into ES that much after all. ES would have been wasting her time if this relationship would have lasted any longer. So in that respect her boss did her a service, or at least that's a way to look at it. Link to post Share on other sites
threebyfate Posted July 27, 2011 Share Posted July 27, 2011 Maybe that has been a good thing in retrospect, because when she would have gone on vacation with him they would quite probably still be together, but given the fact that he now bailed on her with some fling that he met in a club it would only have been a matter of time that the relationship would have crashed, as him doing this proves he wasn't into ES that much after all. ES would have been wasting her time if this relationship would have lasted any longer. So in that respect her boss did her a service, or at least that's a way to look at it.Considering how everything went down, it was for the best. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted July 27, 2011 Author Share Posted July 27, 2011 Why? Just go to his apartment, get your stuff, leave your key and lock the door. Done. You were ready to break up with him. :/ The problem is: I have his copy of the keys as well. He can't enter the apartment without them. I think I will ask him for an address to mail them to. Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted July 27, 2011 Share Posted July 27, 2011 The problem is: I have his copy of the keys as well. He can't enter the apartment without them. Why can't you give the keys to one of your mutual friends? If not that, he can get a locksmith. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted July 27, 2011 Author Share Posted July 27, 2011 Not sure what to say beyond suggesting that you don't have this convo with him. At this point, he's not going to be honest with you whether he avoids the truth in order to avoid drama or he may feel free to be cruel. You wanted to dump him. Just let him go. You know he's not the one for you and the way he handled it was terrible. All along your gut knew he wasn't being honest and this final text message proves it quite clearly. My mum said this as well; that he is either going to come off as nice with more lies or he will be deliberately cruel. The whole conversation is probably pointless Link to post Share on other sites
soulm8 Posted July 27, 2011 Share Posted July 27, 2011 The problem is: I have his copy of the keys as well. He can't enter the apartment without them. I think I will ask him for an address to mail them to. I agree with Star Gazer... not your problem. Don't go out of your way to return his keys. Hand them over to one of his friends. Simple. Link to post Share on other sites
torn_curtain Posted July 27, 2011 Share Posted July 27, 2011 this guy honestly sounds like a bit of a sociopath...i mean i can't imagine how that text he sent you wasn't sadistic Link to post Share on other sites
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted July 27, 2011 Author Share Posted July 27, 2011 On a foirum if yo ususpect "attention drama story" it's best to just say nothing, but....if yo udo want to say something, treat the story as true, because you never know what is going on the other side. Telling the OP that her story is bogus could make her feel worse if the story is actually true. Yes Jet_Intake. It does make me feel worse that people are doubting if this is true. I am trying to skip over those posts but they just make me sad. Link to post Share on other sites
Cracker Jack Posted July 27, 2011 Share Posted July 27, 2011 I really hope you heal from this and have a nice healthy relationship next time. I honestly think the relationship ending is for the best. And I'm sorry for calling your story fake. Link to post Share on other sites
torn_curtain Posted July 27, 2011 Share Posted July 27, 2011 personally I'd flush his keys down the toilet Link to post Share on other sites
Mme. Chaucer Posted July 27, 2011 Share Posted July 27, 2011 No matter what, do NOT go to the airport! For all that is holy! DSL them to where he is, or give them to your mutual friend. Link to post Share on other sites
Citizen Erased Posted July 27, 2011 Share Posted July 27, 2011 I know how it is to have a place like this as your "escape" and we tend to say the same thing over and over, because we have no other to say it too, after a while people think "attention whore" "troll" "broken record", and my favorite, "man-Bitch" ,cause it's the same thing day in and day out. It's something you will encounter and just have to ignore it, but understand why people would think like that toward you. Uh you have been trolling this forum for years, you have nothing in common with ES. People are frustrated with her on here, she hasn't said abusive and racist things to other posters which has lead to their attitude to her threads. How about you don't take the attention off the person in need of actual help and compassion so you can begin another woe is me ramble. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted July 27, 2011 Author Share Posted July 27, 2011 personally I'd flush his keys down the toilet Hehe that made me smile. I like your attitude Link to post Share on other sites
Rita86 Posted July 27, 2011 Share Posted July 27, 2011 Doesn't he know you post on here? Maybe he finally decided to come and Check this site and read this thread and proceeded to break up with you first *shrug* Link to post Share on other sites
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted July 27, 2011 Author Share Posted July 27, 2011 Nope, he doesn't know. I am very careful not to mention LS, log in on LS or even visit LS at all when on his computer and with him. Noone in real life knows that I post on here. Link to post Share on other sites
Rita86 Posted July 27, 2011 Share Posted July 27, 2011 ^Thanks for clearing that up. Stay strong! Link to post Share on other sites
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