Bulldog23 Posted July 25, 2011 Share Posted July 25, 2011 Hello, My wife of 5 years (together 11) and I are about to go through a separation. I've come to a conclusion with the help of our marriage counselor/family that my wife has been a very manipulative/verbal abuser for our whole relationship. When I think back on MANY situations I can't believe I've beared it this long--Guess I never saw it in that perspective. We have two small children which now is why I am questioning myself so much and scared to go through with this. My question is, Do/Can people honestly change? Through counseling, she now knows what just kills me every day and has gotten me to the point I am now. A few weeks go by and can tell she is trying, but after that, its completely back to where it started. I tell her about it (while it happens) and the same thing happens. 2 weeks ok, then back to normal, etc. Is it possible that she has scarred me from all of this? When she tries now I just don't have any feeling/emotions left like I don't even care she's trying. I know this isn't right, but is it a valid excuse that maybe this has occured? Just really feels this way right now. She's to the point now that she'll ask non stop if I'm mad or why this or that. Its almost TOO much now because its so overbearing. I truly want to be happy in my life, but really don't know if its possible with all the back/forth personalities I'm seeing with her. Anyone had this situation before? Link to post Share on other sites
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