2sunny Posted July 31, 2011 Share Posted July 31, 2011 if his sister is nice - be her friend. just tell her you prefer to never talk of him - as his actions aren't what you are looking for in a man and you are moving forward. do not allow her to discuss him. you deserve much better than what he offers. don't settle. Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted July 31, 2011 Share Posted July 31, 2011 I love all these sweet words! He just send me a message, asking me if I want to come with them on vacation:confused: I didn't respond, since I think its retarded. He also called me a couple of times, I didnt answer. I dont think he takes me serious. I asked him to leave me alone. I dont want to talk to him, because I know that if I do I'll end up feeling horrible. Huh, this is so weird! You're certain he knows you're having surgery, right? How can someone with an IQ above a hamster's expect someone to go on vacation a couple days after major surgery? I really don't get it. You keep doing what you're doing, hun, and stay strong. Link to post Share on other sites
Author zlatnapolja Posted August 3, 2011 Author Share Posted August 3, 2011 Huh, this is so weird! You're certain he knows you're having surgery, right? How can someone with an IQ above a hamster's expect someone to go on vacation a couple days after major surgery? I really don't get it. You keep doing what you're doing, hun, and stay strong. ooo guys I'm so frustrated, NC thing isnt really working... he asked one of the people thats hes going on vacation with, to give me a call. I told him dont do this! So fortunately that didnt happen. I'm talking to him right now, but he honestly doesnt seem to get it. He keeps saying: 'why dont you understand, i was really enthousiastic blablabla. And it's taking such a long time before your results get in.' He swears he wants to be with me and no one else that he loves me so much. I know I shouldnt believe this, but its hard for me right now, I could use some advice.. Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted August 3, 2011 Share Posted August 3, 2011 that he doesn;t keep his promisses. And than she said: 'yeah I know that! and he'll even blame it on you'. So she knows her brother pretty well. I told her I cant deal with that. just remember these words from his sister! his character is lacking - as he doesn't even keep his words... sooooo, he COULD just make lots more promises without the intent to keep his word. he sucks! at best he's selfish, self serving and a liar. you just don't need those qualities in ANY man... in fact - i wouldn't even try to be his friend at this point... my friends don't do those things to me. my friends keep their word, help me as much as i help them, i can count on them, and they bring my life joy instead of misery. you don't need him - or to even respond to his manipulative ways right now. i'm not sure i'd ever feel inclined to speak to him again much less ever see him in person. start allowing your friends to understand that you don't want to talk about him, hear about him or have his name mentioned. that might send everyone a clear message about your boundary that is in place for you to heal and move forward. block him, his email, facebook and phone number. can you do that? Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted August 3, 2011 Share Posted August 3, 2011 ooo guys I'm so frustrated, NC thing isnt really working... he asked one of the people thats hes going on vacation with, to give me a call. I told him dont do this! So fortunately that didnt happen. I'm talking to him right now, but he honestly doesnt seem to get it. He keeps saying: 'why dont you understand, i was really enthousiastic blablabla. And it's taking such a long time before your results get in.' He swears he wants to be with me and no one else that he loves me so much. I know I shouldnt believe this, but its hard for me right now, I could use some advice.. Ask him, then: 'If you truly love me so much, where were you when I needed you? At vacation. Is that what you call love?' Link to post Share on other sites
rightfield Posted August 3, 2011 Share Posted August 3, 2011 After reading this entire thread, I fear that this guy is a variety of sociopath. I'm not saying that he's the serial killer brand of sociopath, but if you do some Internet research on this topic, you will find close descriptions of the behavior this guy is displaying. Some of them are: master of manipulation inability to experience emotion (but they can develop the capability to fake it when they know it's expected) the desire to control others tendency to treat those they "love" as objects projecting their own bad behavior onto others (this is where he blames you for bad things he is doing) Bottom line, run from him, don't walk. What he has cannot be cured. If you do the research and conclude that you are dealing with a sociopath or narcissist, do not tell him that's what he is. He will just research it and figure out how to be a better one. I have dealt with an individual like this, and he is doing many of the same things I observed. These people make everyone around them miserable. You will feel much better when you have cut ties. I wish you the best. Link to post Share on other sites
dispatch3d Posted August 3, 2011 Share Posted August 3, 2011 Before the sister call, fk this guy after the sister call, fk this guy, but his sister is probably nice. Link to post Share on other sites
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