zlatnapolja Posted July 26, 2011 Share Posted July 26, 2011 A guy that cares more about his family and the love of his life, than about his frkn ego. A guy that sees it when other girls are pretty, but will never be sexualy interested in anyone else but me. A guy that isn't stressed out all the time. A guy that supports you when you need it. A guy that 'generally' answers or otherwise returns his phonecalls. A guy that is comfertable with himself, and isn;t insecure all the time wheather he is 'manly' enough A guy that loves me when I'm with him, but still has me in his heart and on his mind when I'm not with him A guy that thinks about my feelings before doing something A guy that doesnt lie A guy that's very sensual and loving. Where can I find this guy???? Link to post Share on other sites
SteelWall Posted July 26, 2011 Share Posted July 26, 2011 Hmmm...you find out where these men are....PLEASE let me know:) Pretty tough list. I have been brought up with men who your list describes, so they are out there and have dated a few. It just was not the right time for me to commit long term. Although it is asking too much that a "man' not have at least fleeting sexual thoughts of others...same as with women, but you are right in actually not engaging in the wayward thoughts. I had a man, I had not seen before at work and giving pretty heavy signals... he was tall, kind, and cute, and seemed like a 'maybe'...but looked at his FB, and there he was with who I believe was wife and kids! Ugh:( Link to post Share on other sites
Author zlatnapolja Posted July 26, 2011 Author Share Posted July 26, 2011 Hmmm...you find out where these men are....PLEASE let me know:) Pretty tough list. I have been brought up with men who your list describes, so they are out there and have dated a few. It just was not the right time for me to commit long term. Although it is asking too much that a "man' not have at least fleeting sexual thoughts of others...same as with women, but you are right in actually not engaging in the wayward thoughts. I had a man, I had not seen before at work and giving pretty heavy signals... he was tall, kind, and cute, and seemed like a 'maybe'...but looked at his FB, and there he was with who I believe was wife and kids! Ugh:( Ahh I hate those guys:( But you say you've been brought up with the right type of men? Where was that? I dont care about money, I do care about looks, but not so much as long as he can make me feel like I'm 'on top of the world'! Link to post Share on other sites
Challenger Posted July 26, 2011 Share Posted July 26, 2011 A guy that sees it when other girls are pretty, but will never be sexualy interested in anyone else but me. Where can I find this guy???? Sorry but this will NEVER happen. -Challenger Link to post Share on other sites
xisnotx Posted July 26, 2011 Share Posted July 26, 2011 I score 5/10. Honestly, I can't think of any of my guy friends who fulfill everything on your list. good luck though.. Link to post Share on other sites
Author zlatnapolja Posted July 26, 2011 Author Share Posted July 26, 2011 I score 5/10. Honestly, I can't think of any of my guy friends who fulfill everything on your list. good luck though.. Which ones did you get right? Some of them, I dont mind as long as its not all the time. Like being stressed out or insecure. And returning a phone call, you dont have to do it right away, but just try to do it within a few hours. And everyone lies, but i mean about big stuff. Link to post Share on other sites
xisnotx Posted July 26, 2011 Share Posted July 26, 2011 I couldn't do these that naturally/consistently. A guy that isn't stressed out all the time. A guy that supports you when you need it. A guy that 'generally' answers or otherwise returns his phonecalls. A guy that is comfertable with himself, and isn;t insecure all the time wheather he is 'manly' enough A guy that doesnt lie I'm always stressed..though you wouldn't be able to tell from the outside. Sometimes I need my alone time...I just need to get away and not be around anyone or anything. If someone "needed me" during one of these times, it would cause friction. I hate phones...I wouldn't have one but you basically need one to function these days. I'm always trying to improve myself...so I'm very rarely comfortable with myself (or rather my situation..) I wouldn't lie about big things..but stuff like "how was you day?" "fine"..even if it wasn't fine...simply because it doesn't matter to me much how my day was. Link to post Share on other sites
SillyS Posted July 26, 2011 Share Posted July 26, 2011 Your list is pretty awesome. I always thought I wanted a man that loved his family, till I got my ex who couldn't stop talking ****e about his sister and mom but trusted them with intimidate details of our relationship and let them advice him on our relationship and yeah now he is my ex. Humans tend to lie. And I don't think that support is too broad. Sometimes I just need someone to listen to my bad day or hear my complain about my horrible winter coat. I'm not asking someone to buy me a coat or to advice me to cut people out of my life, but rather just let me vent. And thus I think support could be replaced with someone that is connected to you perhaps. That remembers what you say usually, and that knows when to hug or be there emotionally. No one is perfect, but there is someone out there that will love us for exactly the people we are, I hope so anyway! Link to post Share on other sites
Author zlatnapolja Posted July 26, 2011 Author Share Posted July 26, 2011 I couldn't do these that naturally/consistently. I'm always stressed..though you wouldn't be able to tell from the outside. Sometimes I need my alone time...I just need to get away and not be around anyone or anything. If someone "needed me" during one of these times, it would cause friction. I hate phones...I wouldn't have one but you basically need one to function these days. I'm always trying to improve myself...so I'm very rarely comfortable with myself (or rather my situation..) I wouldn't lie about big things..but stuff like "how was you day?" "fine"..even if it wasn't fine...simply because it doesn't matter to me much how my day was. Aha no, the support is really important, even though I understand the idea of needing alone time (But lets face it everyone need their alonetime, but that doesnt mean you cant support the people you love). As is being comfertable with yourself, because chances are you'll act it out on me, if you're not happy with yourself. And I would love to know how your day was (allthough you dont have to say everything of course!) simply because that gives me a good idea of what to expect. If your day was horrible I want to be there for you. Or if you-re upset with me because you had a bad day, but you didnt tell me about the bad day, I would feel bad because Id think you're really angry with me. Link to post Share on other sites
Author zlatnapolja Posted July 26, 2011 Author Share Posted July 26, 2011 Your list is pretty awesome. I always thought I wanted a man that loved his family, till I got my ex who couldn't stop talking ****e about his sister and mom but trusted them with intimidate details of our relationship and let them advice him on our relationship and yeah now he is my ex. Humans tend to lie. And I don't think that support is too broad. Sometimes I just need someone to listen to my bad day or hear my complain about my horrible winter coat. I'm not asking someone to buy me a coat or to advice me to cut people out of my life, but rather just let me vent. And thus I think support could be replaced with someone that is connected to you perhaps. That remembers what you say usually, and that knows when to hug or be there emotionally. No one is perfect, but there is someone out there that will love us for exactly the people we are, I hope so anyway! Hehehe! Well I know that humans tend to lie, I do too sometimes. But dont lie to me about seeing people, or other important stuff. Thats not cool. But yea the list is pretty awesome huh? I would like to add to the list: dont manipulate! Its horrible! Did you find your perfect guy yet? Link to post Share on other sites
SillyS Posted July 26, 2011 Share Posted July 26, 2011 Yeah it is! If I got a dime for everytime one of my girls said one of these lists and just said only physical traits of guys, I would be rather rich! So i applaud you for atleast having things on there that aren't too much to ask, and that will bring you alot closer than, he has to have nice muscles. My bf just broke up with me about 2 weeks ago. I know mr. "perfect for me" is out there, but I don't really think I need to find him at the moment. I think about that sometimes though or used to think about that anyway, I wonder what my future husband is doing at this very moment! Probably thinking about me as well! Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted July 26, 2011 Share Posted July 26, 2011 zlatnapolja, that's a pretty serious list. Do you honestly believe that you meet every singe one of those criteria? Link to post Share on other sites
linwood Posted July 26, 2011 Share Posted July 26, 2011 A guy that cares more about his family and the love of his life, than about his frkn ego. A guy that sees it when other girls are pretty, but will never be sexualy interested in anyone else but me. A guy that isn't stressed out all the time. A guy that supports you when you need it. A guy that 'generally' answers or otherwise returns his phonecalls. A guy that is comfertable with himself, and isn;t insecure all the time wheather he is 'manly' enough A guy that loves me when I'm with him, but still has me in his heart and on his mind when I'm not with him A guy that thinks about my feelings before doing something A guy that doesnt lie A guy that's very sensual and loving. Where can I find this guy???? He only exists on your head. This guy is a myth. Link to post Share on other sites
Badenov Posted July 26, 2011 Share Posted July 26, 2011 The question you should be asking: Do I deserve a guy like that? It never ceases to amaze me that the ones who demand the most are the ones willing to give the least. Link to post Share on other sites
Author zlatnapolja Posted July 27, 2011 Author Share Posted July 27, 2011 A guy that cares more about his family and the love of his life, than about his frkn ego. A guy that sees it when other girls are pretty, but will never be sexualy interested in anyone else but me. A guy that isn't stressed out all the time. A guy that supports you when you need it. A guy that 'generally' answers or otherwise returns his phonecalls. A guy that is comfertable with himself, and isn;t insecure all the time wheather he is 'manly' enough A guy that loves me when I'm with him, but still has me in his heart and on his mind when I'm not with him A guy that thinks about my feelings before doing something A guy that doesnt lie A guy that's very sensual and loving. Where can I find this guy???? I'll adjust the list - A guy that sees it when other girls are pretty, but will never be sexualy interested in anyone else but me. And if he is, he shouldnt let me know about it in any way, and he shouldnt act on it simply because he thinks our relationship is more important. - A guy that isnt stressed out all the time. Everybody is stressed out sometimes, but I cant deal with someone thats stressed out the whole entire time. - A guy that supports you when you need it, this to me is a natural thing. If someone needs support, you give it to them. - You dont always have to answer phonecalls, but in general: try to, if you cant talk let me know. If you missed a call, call back within a few hours. - It's not terrible if one is insecure about some things. But it anoys me if a guy keeps talking about how he needs to hit the gym, when he already looks like Victor Webster. Also anoys me when you keep saying things like 'I feel like such a loser, a man should be able to have sex with someone hes not in love with, but I cant do that' Its a retarded thing to say. - A guy that thinks about my feelings before doing something - A guy that doesnt lie, about important things - A guy that's very sensual and loving. Sometimes you're tired that's fine, but its important to me that you're a loving person in nature. - Dont manipulate!! (forget to add this one before) Link to post Share on other sites
Crabbies Posted July 28, 2011 Share Posted July 28, 2011 I think the list is good... What do you have to offer to this guy, he will be very popular w/other women as well... What does the list describing you look like? If your list correlates with what you want, it might be able to happen... Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
Author zlatnapolja Posted July 28, 2011 Author Share Posted July 28, 2011 I think the list is good... What do you have to offer to this guy, he will be very popular w/other women as well... What does the list describing you look like? If your list correlates with what you want, it might be able to happen... Good luck! Well thank you! Right now I'm very insecure, but not ussualy. I'm not perfect so sometimes I lie, but not often and not about important stuff (I sometimes lie if someone asks me: do you like my shirt 'yea sure its very nice', stuff like that). I think I do a pretty good job with the rest. So yea hopefully I'll find the guy. But in the end its more about ones intentions! Its important that he wants to do these stuff, even if he fails sometimes. Link to post Share on other sites
Forever Learning Posted July 29, 2011 Share Posted July 29, 2011 Work on developing your own personal integrity. Look for this characteristic in the man you are seeking. Along with basic attraction and liking his personality, integrity will save you alot of heartache and grief in the long run. http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/integrity Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted July 29, 2011 Share Posted July 29, 2011 Well thank you! Right now I'm very insecure, but not ussualy. I'm not perfect so sometimes I lie, but not often and not about important stuff (I sometimes lie if someone asks me: do you like my shirt 'yea sure its very nice', stuff like that). I think I do a pretty good job with the rest. So yea hopefully I'll find the guy. But in the end its more about ones intentions! Its important that he wants to do these stuff, even if he fails sometimes. If you yourself admit that you aren't perfect, why do you think you deserve a guy who is? Link to post Share on other sites
gaius Posted July 29, 2011 Share Posted July 29, 2011 So you want a guy who won't lie but also won't let you know if he finds another girl sexy? It seems like you're looking for a man of steel who's life is going to revolve around you, usually those two qualities are mutually exclusive. Link to post Share on other sites
Author zlatnapolja Posted July 30, 2011 Author Share Posted July 30, 2011 So you want a guy who won't lie but also won't let you know if he finds another girl sexy? It seems like you're looking for a man of steel who's life is going to revolve around you, usually those two qualities are mutually exclusive. I said, dont lie about the big stuff;) Somedude: No one is perfect. The name of my post may be confusing, but I dont expect someone to be perfect. But these qualities to me are really important and I want to be with someone who also thinks these qualities are really important. Everyone makes mistakes! And I have a (too) forgiving nature, so if the guy makes a mistake or 2 (depending on the mistake of course;)). I'll forgive him and thank God I'm with such a beautiful imperfect humanbeing! But these are characteristics I find really important, way more important than muscles or a succesful career;) Forever learning: integrity is a really good one. I think that integrity is a sign of maturity. Integrity is really a great thing, but also difficult for a lot of people. I'll add it to my list hehehe! Link to post Share on other sites
sitting Posted July 30, 2011 Share Posted July 30, 2011 Oh the list is almost about me. Sad that i dont find alot of girls ^^ "A guy that is comfertable with himself, and isn;t insecure all the time wheather he is 'manly' enough" I fail on that one, i do find me good looking (we all do have bad days also) but im very shy when it comes to talking to new people, and i do find myself without humor or really i do have humor but at the sametime i dont know what kind of humor it is. Its feels like a lost part of myself which makes me nervous when talking to people... the problem is that i can be very quiet and people may see me very booring because of this, i dont even know what to say this is when talking eye to eye or over phone. one day i will have fixed this problem of mine, i swear! Link to post Share on other sites
Author zlatnapolja Posted July 30, 2011 Author Share Posted July 30, 2011 Oh the list is almost about me. Sad that i dont find alot of girls ^^ "A guy that is comfertable with himself, and isn;t insecure all the time wheather he is 'manly' enough" I fail on that one, i do find me good looking (we all do have bad days also) but im very shy when it comes to talking to new people, and i do find myself without humor or really i do have humor but at the sametime i dont know what kind of humor it is. Its feels like a lost part of myself which makes me nervous when talking to people... the problem is that i can be very quiet and people may see me very booring because of this, i dont even know what to say this is when talking eye to eye or over phone. one day i will have fixed this problem of mine, i swear! Dont worry to much. You're like superman allready. And about your humor: Just laugh... The reason people enjoy humor so much is so that they can laugh. Sometimes humor doesnt have even have to be that funny, as long as it natural and it relaxes you both its fine;) Me for instance, I remember one time laughing out loud while i was a sleep over a stupid joke I myself had made in my sleep. Its absolutely retarded I know:p But whenever I tell people about this weird incident it always makes them laugh (at me:p). You sound great! Wish I knew you! Link to post Share on other sites
PelicanPete Posted July 30, 2011 Share Posted July 30, 2011 A guy that cares more about his family and the love of his life, than about his frkn ego. A guy that sees it when other girls are pretty, but will never be sexualy interested in anyone else but me. A guy that isn't stressed out all the time. A guy that supports you when you need it. A guy that 'generally' answers or otherwise returns his phonecalls. A guy that is comfertable with himself, and isn;t insecure all the time wheather he is 'manly' enough A guy that loves me when I'm with him, but still has me in his heart and on his mind when I'm not with him A guy that thinks about my feelings before doing something A guy that doesnt lie A guy that's very sensual and loving. Where can I find this guy???? Hey! That describes me, except I tell the odd white lie. Link to post Share on other sites
sassybetch Posted July 30, 2011 Share Posted July 30, 2011 im dating a guy with all your criteria right now! so guys like that DEFFF exist! also, i don't think they are too rare to find. good luck Link to post Share on other sites
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