Curious-One Posted July 26, 2011 Share Posted July 26, 2011 For guys, the hotter the women, the more intimidating it is to approach. Is it the same for women? I am assuming so. Fenales, imagine the hottest guy you ever see walks in and you have to talk to him, are you intimidated? Link to post Share on other sites
threebyfate Posted July 26, 2011 Share Posted July 26, 2011 No, looks don't intimidate me. But then, not much does. Link to post Share on other sites
Enchanted Girl Posted July 26, 2011 Share Posted July 26, 2011 Of course it's intimidating the more I am attracted to a guy. And yes, I've done the approaching more than once before and been rejected before, so I know how much all that sucks! Link to post Share on other sites
Ruby Slippers Posted July 26, 2011 Share Posted July 26, 2011 I'm not intimidated to talk to an excessively handsome man, but I would be skeptical of him for a relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
runner Posted July 26, 2011 Share Posted July 26, 2011 For guys, the hotter the women, the more intimidating it is to approach. hmm.. for some men i suppose. i'm typically not impressed with 'model' looking girls. Link to post Share on other sites
zengirl Posted July 26, 2011 Share Posted July 26, 2011 I'm more intimidated by a guy if I'm more attracted to him (+ don't know him). That doesn't always equate with how handsome he is. And it doesn't usually stop me from talking to him. Link to post Share on other sites
LittleTiger Posted July 26, 2011 Share Posted July 26, 2011 No, I'm not intimidated by good looking men. I'd probably walk straight up to him and start a conversation. He's an ordinary human being just like me. Link to post Share on other sites
sm1tten Posted July 26, 2011 Share Posted July 26, 2011 I'd only be intimidated if I was legitimately attracted to him but it wouldn't stop me from approaching him. Link to post Share on other sites
temporaryvisa Posted July 26, 2011 Share Posted July 26, 2011 Honestly, a bit. Just a bit. Link to post Share on other sites
Bullet Proof Posted July 26, 2011 Share Posted July 26, 2011 I'm not intimidated to talk to an excessively handsome man, but I would be skeptical of him for a relationship. Agreed. I feel the same way. Link to post Share on other sites
red19mn Posted July 26, 2011 Share Posted July 26, 2011 Hmm... this is a pretty interesting thread. It's like, men are afraid to approach women (most of them, for the most part) and it seems like women aren't like this at all (from what I'm picking up on, at least). Very interesting thread... Link to post Share on other sites
mo mo Posted July 26, 2011 Share Posted July 26, 2011 Hmm... this is a pretty interesting thread. It's like, men are afraid to approach women (most of them, for the most part) and it seems like women aren't like this at all (from what I'm picking up on, at least). Very interesting thread... Yeaaaa I don't really believe the women on here. Link to post Share on other sites
Ruby Slippers Posted July 26, 2011 Share Posted July 26, 2011 Yeaaaa I don't really believe the women on here. I've been on several dates with ridiculously gorgeous men in the past year or so, and I wasn't the slightest bit intimidated about getting to know them on the date. What made me pause was them giving the impression that they wanted fast, easy sex, and me assuming it probably wouldn't go beyond that. At this point, I'm more open to sex only (provided I verify he is STD-free), but at the time of the dates, I wasn't interested. Link to post Share on other sites
snug.bunny Posted July 26, 2011 Share Posted July 26, 2011 Fenales, imagine the hottest guy you ever see walks in and you have to talk to him, are you intimidated? Raises hand. Yes. Unless I have a few drinkie poos in me, then I have courage. Link to post Share on other sites
Nexus One Posted July 26, 2011 Share Posted July 26, 2011 (edited) Yeaaaa I don't really believe the women on here. To be honest I was doubtful about their answers also. Not because I think they're lying, but because I'm wondering about how well they know their own behavior. There's a difference between answering this question theoretically on a forum and actually fearlessly approaching a beautiful man you have a crush on when you see him standing. I've been on several dates with ridiculously gorgeous men in the past year or so, and I wasn't the slightest bit intimidated about getting to know them on the date. But that's not the scenario we're talking about. In the case of a date the approach has already been made and the ice has already somewhat been broken. When you look at the numbers, far more men approach women than the other way around. I think statistically girls/women feel far more intimidated by beautiful men and that's why most girls/women let guys do the work and wait passively. It of course depends on her character. I absolutely believe/know that there are fearless and very confident women out there when it comes to this, don't get me wrong, but statistically seen the numbers are not tipping the scale in the favor of most women not being intimidated, on the contrary. Edited July 26, 2011 by Nexus One Link to post Share on other sites
mo mo Posted July 26, 2011 Share Posted July 26, 2011 To be honest I was doubtful about their answers also. Not because I think they're lying, but because I'm wondering about how well they know their own behavior. There's a difference between answering this question theoretically on a forum and actually fearlessly approaching a beautiful man you have a crush on when you see him standing. But that's not the scenario we're talking about. In the case of a date the approach has already been made and the ice has already somewhat been broken. When you look at the numbers, far more men approach women than the other way around. I think statistically girls/women feel far more intimidated by beautiful men and that's why most girls/women let guys do the work and wait passively. It of course depends on her character. I absolutely believe/know that there are fearless and very confident women out there when it comes to this, don't get me wrong, but statistically seen the numbers are not tipping the scale in the favor of most women not being intimidated, on the contrary. I know from experience and observation that a lot of women get so intimidated by good looking men that they can't even focus on what is going on. The dude could be trying to break the ice with them and they end up totally looking clueless or unreceptive, partly because they aren't expecting it. Link to post Share on other sites
mo mo Posted July 26, 2011 Share Posted July 26, 2011 I'm not intimidated to talk to an excessively handsome man, but I would be skeptical of him for a relationship. Just an FYI a lot of women have this skepticism. Which means handsome man may not be getting nearly as much play as you assume. Link to post Share on other sites
spiderowl Posted July 26, 2011 Share Posted July 26, 2011 Yes, I'd feel intimidated and probably wouldn't talk to him unless it seemed impolite not to. I would try to remember that he might look good but he is a person and may or may not be a nice person. It is up to me to find out what kind of person he is, not to assume he's anything special because he looks good. I think I'd chat with him and if he seemed charming and friendly I'd maintain a 'just friends' tone to everything. I wouldn't flirt. For a start off, I'd assume he wouldn't be interested as I'm not a stunner; and for seconds, I'd find it hard to trust a guy who must be used to having influence over women. I wouldn't want to be one of many. Some really attractive guys I've met haven't been all that nice. Those I've seen or chatted to online seem to have 'looks, looks, looks' in their profiles - they have come to expect that in a woman in so they put that at the top of their list. It shows really that they have become accustomed to thinking that looks are what matters and personality is an add-on. Someone like that would soon seem shallow and boring. Link to post Share on other sites
Lil1 Posted July 26, 2011 Share Posted July 26, 2011 Even though I am a confident self assured woman I have to be honest and say that yes, I do get intimidated if I am talking to a drop dead gorgeous guy I am attracted to (note: ONLY IF I'M ATTRACTED TO HIM... lots of variables play into this since looks aren't the only thing that will create attraction for me). That doesn't prevent me from carrying on a conversation with him but it definitely makes me feel like a shy school girl lol! I have yet to meet a super hot guy I feel attracted to who doesn't want to hit the skins right away though... must be something inherent in good looking men I guess:o Link to post Share on other sites
Ruby Slippers Posted July 26, 2011 Share Posted July 26, 2011 But that's not the scenario we're talking about. This was the original question: Fenales, imagine the hottest guy you ever see walks in and you have to talk to him, are you intimidated? And my answer stands. Gorgeous men have been busting moves on me since I was a teenager. Just about any woman in a club will get hit on by quite a few gorgeous men who want to take her home. When I go out dancing with my friends, I am always approached by some absurdly good-looking man -- who obviously wants to get laid. This is especially true in the big city, where I live. This city (Chicago) is lousy with gorgeous men who want to sample every kind of candy in the candy shop. I just dance and flirt and have a good time. Link to post Share on other sites
nyc_guy2003 Posted July 27, 2011 Share Posted July 27, 2011 But that's not the scenario we're talking about. In the case of a date the approach has already been made and the ice has already somewhat been broken. Agree with this. I'm a pretty confident guy but if I'm approaching really hot chicks in casual settings I sometimes get a little nervous, even if I'm not interested in dating them. Given that I'm married, I never approach women with the intent on asking them out, yet I still get nervous around random hot chicks. However, if I am going out with a hot chick I already know, then I don't feel nervous at all; on the contrary I feel very confident knowing that other people are probably thinking I'm a total bad@ss for hanging out with hot chicks. Link to post Share on other sites
mo mo Posted July 27, 2011 Share Posted July 27, 2011 Even though I am a confident self assured woman I have to be honest and say that yes, I do get intimidated if I am talking to a drop dead gorgeous guy I am attracted to (note: ONLY IF I'M ATTRACTED TO HIM... lots of variables play into this since looks aren't the only thing that will create attraction for me). That doesn't prevent me from carrying on a conversation with him but it definitely makes me feel like a shy school girl lol! I have yet to meet a super hot guy I feel attracted to who doesn't want to hit the skins right away though... must be something inherent in good looking men I guess:o Look for late bloomers. There are guys that hit their peak in their late teens and early 20s. They are naturally hot rather early in life but don't have the maturity to maintain a healthy relationship, so they try to rack up numbers for bragging rights to other guys (which is pretty homo-erotic if you ask me). Guys who didn't really become attractive until their mid 20s or 30s are going to be much more trustworthy because they haven't had the experience of dating many women so they are more likely to hold on to whatever they can get. Link to post Share on other sites
Lil1 Posted July 27, 2011 Share Posted July 27, 2011 You make a good point Mo Mo. Yes I have found that most of these gorgeous guys I encounter are at least 5 years younger than me and tend to want to rush me into bed with them (banking on their good looks alone), which never sits well with me because I know then, that they're only interested in hitting and quitting The very few times (maybe 2 or 3 times in my life!.. I usually only attract younger dudes) that I have been approached by an older good looking man however I have found myself feeling very nervous, unable to hold eye contact, fidgeting, and I know I probably blush the entire time they are speaking to me (again, I feel like a silly school girl!). So in the end I'm assuming I come off as too young or immature for them since nothing has come out of such encounters (even though they were the ones to approach me first). I'm not sure why this happens with me. I think it may be a combination of their extremely good looks, the confidence and manliness these older men exude, and the fact that they are older and thus are more likely to be looking for something more concrete than just a one night stand (though I'm probably fooling myself in this regard). Link to post Share on other sites
ScienceGal Posted July 27, 2011 Share Posted July 27, 2011 I consider myself to be attractive and successful, but I am in my late 20s and looking for a long term relationship. To be honest, I stereotype really attractive men. I either think they are a player/cheater, or that I will never keep them because they can have any woman they want. I know this is wrong, but it just happens. One of my friends was looking at an online dating site and I wouldn't even consider the guys that were extremely good looking. She even met one of the "hotties" and he ended up being a jerk. But, I would give a really attractive man the benefit of the doubt if he were to approach and talk to me. And, for the record, personality has a lot to do with it. I may have not considered my exes to be drop dead gorgeous in the very beginning, but there was always an attraction, and once a relationship was formed and intimacy develops, they could make me melt just by smiling at me. I still think my most recent ex is so handsome, and my good friend thinks I'm out of my mind. If I love you, I'm the girl that doesn't care if you put on 20 pounds Link to post Share on other sites
Nexus One Posted July 27, 2011 Share Posted July 27, 2011 OKCupid has actually done a study on this using their data. It seems that the guys who are rated highest in terms of attraction get the LEAST amount of messages from women. Guys that are rated as slightly below average in terms of looks get the most messages. Seems like most women apply the same kind of reasoning regarding attractive men. Just an FYI a lot of women have this skepticism. Which means handsome man may not be getting nearly as much play as you assume. Bingo. Link to post Share on other sites
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