Crapdiem Posted July 26, 2011 Share Posted July 26, 2011 Question for other BS: what did you do to handle the neediness you may have felt? For me, it is like if he is not CONSTANTLY texting me he loves me or telling me he loves me or hugging me/holding me, I freak out. I feel lost. I start wondering if it will work. I start wondering if he was happier with her. It is hard as I dont knwo where the line between being righfully needy and obsessive needy may be. I know we have to "rebuild" our relationship. What did you interpret this to mean? We have a date night at least once a week now, we cuddle on the couch together, we have sex about 3x a week, he holds me when we sleep, we talk about his day/my day, we do stuff together as a family. And if this was preA, I would say taht we are doing great. But now, 2 months after dday, is this what we should be doing???? What makes us repair what got broken?? Link to post Share on other sites
reboot Posted July 26, 2011 Share Posted July 26, 2011 Sounds like you're doing everything right, but as was mentioned in your other thread, you need TIME. 2 months is absolutely way too soon to expect much more than you've already accomplished. Be patient. I realize that's easy for me to say, but it's the truth. All you can do right now is take one day at a time. Link to post Share on other sites
Kidd Posted July 26, 2011 Share Posted July 26, 2011 Try reading the books, "Surviving An Affair" and "His Needs, Her Needs." More importantly, make sure he reads them. At least he doesn't have to open up by reading. Link to post Share on other sites
Tech_E Posted July 26, 2011 Share Posted July 26, 2011 Your mind is playing tricks on you. You are playing the "am I as good as she was game". It is a no win situation. Your mind will eventually stop playing this game, but it will take time. Link to post Share on other sites
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