collegeguy_24 Posted July 26, 2011 Share Posted July 26, 2011 I miss my ex, not just for the romance, but I miss her presence. I miss talking with her, seeing her smile, I miss going to the movies with her, I miss listening to her talk about her math and physics homework. You know I am fully willing to be just her friend. I have no intention of ever perusing her romantically, not again. If she wants romance she can pursue me, other that that all I want is friendship. I want to see her in public without the both of us feeling awkward. I miss her voice and her intelligent words and conversation and meanings. I want her back in my life, even as a friend is enough for me. I do miss the good times we had, I have many fond memories of our time together. I have forgiven her for all the pain shes caused me, as I found it was long past due for me to do so. I discovered that there is no need to carry around the hurt and anguish when it is no longer needed. I would love it if she read this, and I would love it if she was willing to work on being friends, that's all I want, all I want. Link to post Share on other sites
2011 Posted July 26, 2011 Share Posted July 26, 2011 Friendship is not good with your ex just now as you have obviously not healed and it will hurt 100 times more when she tells you about any other BF. Other than that if you can take watching her smooching up to other guys then go right ahead. If you have to try and convince her to be your friend then it is definitely something I would not pursue. 2011 Link to post Share on other sites
Author collegeguy_24 Posted July 27, 2011 Author Share Posted July 27, 2011 Thing is, I would rather hear her talk about her new BFs, then to not have her in my life. I can deal with it, that is not a big problem for me, I just want to be in communication again, to be friends, to hear her voice and see her eyes. Thats all I want, I can deal with her BFs. Its a fair trade to me. Link to post Share on other sites
0hpenelope Posted July 27, 2011 Share Posted July 27, 2011 Thing is, I would rather hear her talk about her new BFs, then to not have her in my life. I can deal with it, that is not a big problem for me, I just want to be in communication again, to be friends, to hear her voice and see her eyes. Thats all I want, I can deal with her BFs. Its a fair trade to me. I knew I recognized you: I do want to pursue a friendship and that old feelings won't come to the surface. My new GF does approve, it was her idea. Anyways, I just got a response from the ex. She once again changed things around, saying she needs a friend who does what they say and accuses me of saying that I told her I would wait till she contacts me and then I don't wait, I contact her, and to please don't contact her again. I remember it clearly, I told her to never contact me unless I contact her because I needed to heal from the all the lies and pain she caused me. I find it quite funny actually, and a bit hypocritical of her. She stays friends with exes all the time, and she has a rather long list of ex BFs and FWBs, but she won't be friends with me. It hurts a bit, but you know what, I can move on. I wish things were different, but oh well, you take what life give you. Edit: She just untagged herself from our one picture together, and she blocked me on Facebook. How mature. She blocks me, yet she keeps herself tagged in photos where the guy who didn't treat her well at all, at least from what she told me. Again, this hurts, a lot. That photo was all I had left of her. But you know what, fine. I'll move on, eventually karma is going to come back and bite her in the butt. She has to grow up eventually, otherwise the consequences she faces will be something she will regret. (This is not a threat to her from me, just a fact of life.) By the way, I know she is reading this. Your not going to ruin me, your going to only ruin yourself. How many men actually care for you the way I did? Bet you can't answer that, considering your relationship history. But know this, I will always be here for you. In what capacity, thats unknown, but most likely friends. Do you believe that the reasons for her not wanting to talk to you still stand at this very moment? If you haven't tried again, what's the harm of giving it a shot, then? If she turns you down again, you know you'll keep moving on. You have a girlfriend, you have friends that are still around, and you have other people that you can also befriend. At least you'll be able to tell yourself that you tried. Or are you nervous about getting her annoyed? Link to post Share on other sites
Hakuryu Posted July 27, 2011 Share Posted July 27, 2011 It just sound like you're thinking and waiting that maybe one day she'll pursue you romantically again. I have a girl telling me about the BF she have and it just bittersweet. For me I'm kind of happy that she found happiness, but at the same time it hurt. I wouldn't put myself through that if I were you, I don't think anyone deserve that. But if you already set on it I wish you good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
Author collegeguy_24 Posted July 27, 2011 Author Share Posted July 27, 2011 I am not going to try again, she asked to not contact her again, and if she wanted to she would contact me. I agreed and will leave it at that. But interaction is not going to stop between us, I mean we live in a small town, and now that she is back from Europe chances are very good we will run into each other at some point. I will be nice and polite, I have no reason anymore to be mean and angry. If I see her and the situation is appropriate I will try to talk to her, maybe a Hi how are you kind of thing. I have no hopes or illusions that she may persue me in the future, it would be nice, but I'm not going to even consider it unless she actually does it. It would only raise my hopes and there is no need for that to happen when I know that in reality its not going to happen. Plus if I contact her again, she would have cause to consider me a stalker, which I am not, by any means, and the last thing I want is a restraining order. I am not one of those people. Link to post Share on other sites
0hpenelope Posted July 27, 2011 Share Posted July 27, 2011 I see. You were just letting out how you're feeling. It's good that you're respecting her wishes: a friend of mine has asked me to not contact her again because we got in a disagreement and I'm going on 3 years of not speaking to her, so I can relate. I also remember you mentioned on a previous post that your ex reads LS from time to time. Here's hoping that you two will be friends, as you desire to be. I am not going to try again, she asked to not contact her again, and if she wanted to she would contact me. I agreed and will leave it at that. But interaction is not going to stop between us, I mean we live in a small town, and now that she is back from Europe chances are very good we will run into each other at some point. I will be nice and polite, I have no reason anymore to be mean and angry. If I see her and the situation is appropriate I will try to talk to her, maybe a Hi how are you kind of thing. I have no hopes or illusions that she may persue me in the future, it would be nice, but I'm not going to even consider it unless she actually does it. It would only raise my hopes and there is no need for that to happen when I know that in reality its not going to happen. Plus if I contact her again, she would have cause to consider me a stalker, which I am not, by any means, and the last thing I want is a restraining order. I am not one of those people. Link to post Share on other sites
Author collegeguy_24 Posted July 27, 2011 Author Share Posted July 27, 2011 I see. You were just letting out how you're feeling. It's good that you're respecting her wishes: a friend of mine has asked me to not contact her again because we got in a disagreement and I'm going on 3 years of not speaking to her, so I can relate. I also remember you mentioned on a previous post that your ex reads LS from time to time. Here's hoping that you two will be friends, as you desire to be. Yeah,I just felt the need to put it down, as it makes me feel better at times. I do hope she reads this, cause i do want to be friends, I want to talk again and to get over the awkwardness. I know I've have done some pretty bad things post break up, and even she has acknowledged that she broke up with me in an evil manner, but I just want to put that behind us and try to start over, to have a new beginning as friends. Just let the past be the past, and let us be friends for the present and the future. Link to post Share on other sites
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