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The 26 year old guy at work says he has a crush on some other Indian chick.

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temporaryvisa Established Member

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Yeah I have work to do.

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Now I understand why the guy prefers the other girl...he made the right choice

 

LOL, I kinda have to agree. She's kinda psycho.

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I need to defend my honour from you meanies!

ilikesunita Established Member

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but in the OP, you said you thought that the other girl was better than you. Do you somehow select times to be confident?

thehead Established Member

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Gah. temporary, please stop. Take a minute then re-read this thread. Do you see how easily you were provoked? What your hot button issues are? Work on those. It's not about what Hotchick wrote. How you responded is partly why people see you as "weird" (your word) and why you have trouble with dating. Your insecurity is brutal to read.

 

Pierre's doing you a solid here. He's given good advice. Slow your roll and take it in.

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I would also get pretty offended if somebody (who doesn't show themselves) "rated" me and called my nose a penis nose here.

 

The person who did this on your thread just made themselves look like a jerk.

 

OP, I assure you, you are adorable looking. I believe that's a given, regardless whether somebody is personally attracted to you or not.

 

I do believe, though, that your ego and attitude need some adjustments. I do understand the little jab one would feel if they thought somebody (who they weren't particularly interested in) was very into them - and then figured out that the person really preferred somebody else.

 

Such a jab, however, needs to just be slightly acknowledged within yourself, and then completely put away and never revisited again. NOT worthy of any real attention and certainly not a whole thread on LS.

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I think she's only like 19, so I am really hoping the OP grows out of this behavior, because damn... that was an epic trainwreck.

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Dude i am just trying to prove that lady wrong. I saw her posts where she calls some other girl a 5/6 out of ten, I mean, is she seriously an authority on hotness? I have a simple nose, a bit bulbous.

 

But under all that, I completely get what you guys mean.

I do.

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Dude i am just trying to prove that lady wrong. I saw her posts where she calls some other girl a 5/6 out of ten, I mean, is she seriously an authority on hotness? I have a simple nose, a bit bulbous.

 

But under all that, I completely get what you guys mean.

I do.

 

Don't.

 

Recognize her as irrelevant and move on.

 

A real woman knows, she is sexy, regardless of what other say. And this is sexy on its own.

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While your energy level could be attractive to guys, you do seem to be erratic at it, in the way that you seem to be channeling it in nearly every direction rather than focusing it on one point. You kind of seem all over the place.

 

Perhaps meditation would be helpful for you to gain some control and discipline over your mind. Or if you're one of those people that can't calmly sit, then perhaps a sport like long distance running or something would do you good.

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TV, it is alarming to witness how unraveled you become, when a stranger on an internet forum, says something offensive. Yes, it was offensive and inconsiderate. But like someone else pointed out, you are no better, when you yourself put someone down in a not so nice fashion. You started that "journey" so you're going to have to own it.

 

My comments are not meant to put you down, I felt genuine concern when I read how you overacted in such a harsh manner, and I think it would be really helpful for you to find the underlying reasons for that and hopefully make some positive changes so that you don't feel the need to react so harshly.

 

You are going to encounter "meanies" in all walks of life, not just on here, but out in the real world more importantly. Reacting the way you displayed on here, will not cut it.

 

So, pull up your grown up panties and march on! :)

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@temporaryvisa I am around your age range, 20s. I think that aesthetically you're a very pretty girl.

 

I believe that the other poster felt that you were vain and attempted to bring your ego down. Put you back in your place.

 

However, the fact that you let those comments get to you is the problem. The more comfortable you are with yourself, the more sexy you can be. Modesty is key.

 

You have to realize that what beauty is to one person, may not match up to others. I won't be everyone's type, and I am okay with that!

 

If you focus your life around looks, you will be very disappointed in the end. We can't all be flawless forever.

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Honestly you all are right.

 

It just hurts sometimes because I base so much of my confidence on how I look :(

 

I want so badly to change.

Afishwithabike Established Member

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Don't focus on your looks so much. You're looking for men to validate your existence and that's the wrong way to go about life. There will always be someone smarter, prettier, wealthier, taller, hotter, sexier, funnier, wittier, (add any adjective) than you. That's just the way life is. Even if you're the pretty, smart, funny girl, a guy you like might find some other girl attractive even if to you she seems "less than" you. Why? Because beauty is ultimately in the eye of the beholder. To you she might not be as great as you, but to him she's perfect.

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Honestly you all are right.

 

It just hurts sometimes because I base so much of my confidence on how I look :(

 

I want so badly to change.

 

What other strengths do you have?

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Honestly you all are right.

 

It just hurts sometimes because I base so much of my confidence on how I look :(

 

I want so badly to change.

 

That is okay I base a lot of my self esteem on my witty personality and my sense of humor...

 

 

 

 

 

That is why I have such low self esteem.

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I can't even explain the sitch at work or u guys would shoot me.

 

He actually said he'd haaad a crush on that chick, that he had gotten ove it by the yne he met me. He said now that he's met me he realised that I am way better, etc etc.

 

I asked him, who's better looking ?

He said both of us are equal.

 

 

That made me mad honestly.

 

 

I know I'm ****ed, but seriously.

Audrina Established Member

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Who cares? Maybe she is as pretty as you.

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

Rinas Established Member

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I don't see why you feel the urge to one up this girl in looks, in his eyes he sees you both as appealing. I would move on.

 

It's unhealthy to constantly compare yourself to others, be happy with what you have.

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I think she has a very lame, common look and I fancy myself to look unique.

 

I want the guy I date to think I am damned stunning.

Like my first bf did.

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I think she has a very lame, common look and I fancy myself to look unique.

 

I want the guy I date to think I am damned stunning.

Like my first bf did.

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I think she has a very lame, common look and I fancy myself to look unique.

 

I want the guy I date to think I am damned stunning.

Like my first bf did.

 

So how is that relevant to this situation? He isn't trying to date you and is trying to date her. He isn't your boyfriend.

 

People have different tastes in women. You do know there are women that look like this:

http://api.ning.com/files/lAbNIxhUyNs41glIoop2YHCnqs04nDsJlhGjv8abmiFH55dgUG-a-T8lierMKBu-IAcd2kLfb0S3Sq-YXci9Iy901CcElQB2/KateUptonSportsIllustratedSwimsuit201111.jpg

 

Maybe his tastes are different than what you look like and that is why he thinks she is prettier.

Rinas Established Member

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I think she has a very lame, common look and I fancy myself to look unique.

 

I want the guy I date to think I am damned stunning.

Like my first bf did.

 

You're doing it again, let go of the ego. You can't be everyone's cup of tea.

 

There are various types of looks, perhaps her's does it for him.

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I think she has a very lame, common look and I fancy myself to look unique.

 

I want the guy I date to think I am damned stunning.

Like my first bf did.

 

This guy didn't say that you AREN'T, just that she is pretty too. Trust me, you're not the prettiest girl in the world, neither am I, and while we like to feel like we are that comes with being in a relationship and getting to know the persons personality. I really don't understand why it matters since you're not dating.

 

You have to get over yourself.

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I don't get it. You keep going on and off with the ego. When we remind you about the ego, you tone it down a bit, then you're right back up again talking about how you're Mrs. Divalicious.

Honestly, I think you should wear one of those rubber bands around your wrist, so that everytime your ego goes out of hand you hurt yourself, except it shouldn't be a rubber band but some barbed wire.

You're not the hottest thing around. Even if you're that blonde in the picture ptp posted (who is incredibly hot, btw), some guys won't find you attractive.

And like pierre said, your insecurities are targets for extremely volatile boys.

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