What to do about another girl hitting on your bf??

[katy_katt]

Ah...apparently you didn't read the last part of this thread.

[jmargel]

Most of the time we go out, when we walk past a guy, more times than not he turns his head to look at her. I think it's great. lol.. I told her that too. It makes her feel good, but then I think 'Yep, he can look all he wants, but i'm the one who gets to touch!'. She got a laugh out of that. If some guy were to come upto her, I wouldn't mind, since guys already have and she turned them down. It's not her fault guys come upto her. It would be her fault if she flirted back. To me, that's disrespectful.

 

When females have come upto me and flirt, I let my fiancee know. Not to brag, but out of respect. I'll be polite and flattered, but I wouldn't take it any further. If some chick sat in my lap, that I slept with before, my ass would be out the door. He is crossing the boundries by letting this happen, and you were giving excuses for it.

 

Also his past, even though it reflects a person on who they are at times, should never be a reason why a current relationship succeeds or fails. He needs to realize that you are not her. I have a tendancy to do that at times. Especially when my fiancee is upset, I start thinking back on how I was treated with the ex and whether its the same thing that is happening all over again.

 

If you are thinking negative, it's perhaps a insecurity which can be dealt with. I could understand why you would be insecure in some of the things he's done. If he was aware of your feelings, he needed to take the extra steps to help you with this. That is what a relationship is about. Being there for the other person.