2011aug Posted August 12, 2011 Share Posted August 12, 2011 You are NOT to harm, hurt, touch her harshness, be mean spirited or abuse her in way what so ever. Those are crimes son and you will pay dearly. I'll take the bait for now... How is being mean-spirited a crime? Link to post Share on other sites
Disillusioned_Wife Posted August 12, 2011 Share Posted August 12, 2011 I'll take the bait for now... How is being mean-spirited a crime? In Ontario (Canada for that matter) she can counter claim emotional and mental abuse in the divorce proceedings. Link to post Share on other sites
itmustbeme Posted August 12, 2011 Share Posted August 12, 2011 You are NOT to harm, hurt, touch her harshness, be mean spirited or abuse her in way what so ever. Those are crimes son and you will pay dearly. He should not physically harm her in anyway. I did not notice anyone telling him that he should but maybe I missed it. Now you also said he should not be mean spirited or abuse her in any way. Well I think going to Cuba and screwing another man and leaving him home would fall in the "being mean spirited and abuse category". So if I were him I guess I would make her pay dearly. In cases like this he is the one that should be very worried. Next thing he knows he will be defending himself of physically abusing her to get him out of the house. Then he will be accused of molesting his kids. This is the exact thing that happened to my brother. My brother had a voice activated recorder on him at all times and even though he was removed from his home eventually that evidence mattered. He now has custody of his kid. His wife may already be planning getting him removed from his home so she can move a new man in. In my opinion this is the biggest problem with cheating wives. They think they can get the house, kids, husbands paycheck and move a new man in and that is their goal. He needs to be very careful and watch out. Any woman cold enough to do what she just did cannot be trusted to be honorable. His very life could hang in the balance if he is not vigilant. Link to post Share on other sites
Miky Posted August 12, 2011 Share Posted August 12, 2011 She can definitely claim that but he can counter claim exactly the same and for every claim you make you need to have the proof and from what I understand he has that proof, she does not Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted August 12, 2011 Share Posted August 12, 2011 In Ontario (Canada for that matter) she can counter claim emotional and mental abuse in the divorce proceedings. Forgive me if I sound stupid but, I don't know anything about Candian law; however, wouldn't she need proof? I mean, Van will have records, e-mails, PI report and pictures. So, not only will he have proof of adultry, if anyone can proof emotional and mental abuse it would be Van. Her testamony would be nothing more than hearsay. Link to post Share on other sites
itmustbeme Posted August 12, 2011 Share Posted August 12, 2011 In Ontario (Canada for that matter) she can counter claim emotional and mental abuse in the divorce proceedings. I am not arguing on this I was just wondering something. Would going to Cuba and screwing another guy while you are married and leaving your husband at home fall under the claim of emotional and mental abuse? Or would it not matter to the court? And if this is not considered abuse well I just am not sure what is I guess? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Vanhandle Posted August 12, 2011 Author Share Posted August 12, 2011 No, no, no! I was just venting when I wrote about having sex, etc. I am not a mean-spirited person and that is the last thing I would do...even under these painful circumstances. I'm not contemplating anything of the sort. Just want to clarify that. She just texted me that she landed and is on the way home. Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted August 12, 2011 Share Posted August 12, 2011 She can definitely claim that but he can counter claim exactly the same and for every claim you make you need to have the proof and from what I understand he has that proof, she does not Sorry Miky...didn't see your post! Link to post Share on other sites
GorillaTheater Posted August 12, 2011 Share Posted August 12, 2011 She just texted me that she landed and is on the way home. What's your plan, Van? Just remember: you can handle this. Link to post Share on other sites
Miky Posted August 12, 2011 Share Posted August 12, 2011 Are you heading back home ? Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted August 12, 2011 Share Posted August 12, 2011 Christ dude...I'M nervous for ya! I hope that you got that recorder. Link to post Share on other sites
Miky Posted August 12, 2011 Share Posted August 12, 2011 Van Please Don't go home without a VAR on you, make a stop on the way to a Futureshop and get one, this is very important! Link to post Share on other sites
Tech_E Posted August 12, 2011 Share Posted August 12, 2011 Hang in there Van. We're pullin' for you. I live not far from you, if you need a couch to crash on I have one . I bet she arrives with a sweet as pie innocent story. I'd tell her to get stuffed personally. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Vanhandle Posted August 12, 2011 Author Share Posted August 12, 2011 And NO, I would never physically harm her. At the end of the day, she is the mother of my children. They would never forgive me...ever! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Vanhandle Posted August 12, 2011 Author Share Posted August 12, 2011 Thanks Tech, I'll keep that in mind Yeah, she called me and was oh so sweet. "is everything honey?" "are coming home early from work". When my answer short and to the point she wondered why do I sound "mysterious"? I mumbled something about running to a meeting cut the conversation short. Wow, I don't know how I'll behave when I see her at home. Link to post Share on other sites
Disillusioned_Wife Posted August 12, 2011 Share Posted August 12, 2011 Van Please Don't go home without a VAR on you, make a stop on the way to a Futureshop and get one, this is very important! Considering that Canada is a one party knowledge recording country for private conversations, great advice! He is allowed to voice record her without any repercussions and still use it as evidence in the divorce too, mind you supplementary evidence. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Vanhandle Posted August 12, 2011 Author Share Posted August 12, 2011 ****! Sorry but I'm typing on my iPhone and my last post was terrible... Link to post Share on other sites
Sh0t Posted August 12, 2011 Share Posted August 12, 2011 Still following this thread. Still wishing good luck to you OP, especially as her return and the PI's report near. Condonation exists in Canadian family law but it's pretty moot because Canada is no-fault already for the most part, especially with regards to dividing assets and custody. Link to post Share on other sites
StoneCold Posted August 12, 2011 Share Posted August 12, 2011 what time is she due at home? Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted August 12, 2011 Share Posted August 12, 2011 She sounds a bit worried to me. In my opinion, she gonna try to smooth things over as best she can by being overtly affectionate. Don't buy into it. You know what she did. Question is, how are you going to play off her affections? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Vanhandle Posted August 12, 2011 Author Share Posted August 12, 2011 I'm not heading home yet but she was nervous asking if I'll be home. You see after she left I had a lot of time to see what was missing, etc. Among my findings, other the lingerie and vibrator, was that she didn't take our camera. She hid it in one of the closet. I know why. She took her "friend's" camera so that she can hide any evidence from the trip. She learned from the first trip I guess. Secondly, she took a USB stick with her which means she'll meet with her and hand off the photos so that I never find them at home. Devious. But i' m even more devious...from a investigative perspective Link to post Share on other sites
Author Vanhandle Posted August 12, 2011 Author Share Posted August 12, 2011 She should be home by now. Chi, that's what I'm trying to figure out. How to play it smooth while faced with her affection "blitz". Remember I can't argue or discuss this until I have my PI stuff. Till then, I'll have to grind my teeth and bear it. Link to post Share on other sites
dreamingoftigers Posted August 12, 2011 Share Posted August 12, 2011 Good for you man. I outsmarted my husband many times too. It kind if makes you feel that inkling of self-esteem that they snagged from you. Link to post Share on other sites
Tech_E Posted August 12, 2011 Share Posted August 12, 2011 Atta boy Van. I REALLY hope she is completely blindsided when you unleash shock and awe on her. I only wish I could see her face. What a complete and utter pile of stinking horse____ she is feeding you! Thankfully you are not buying one single bit of it. Have that VAR, no question, in fact I'd be ubber careful, there is not telling how she is going to react when she realizes you aren't putting up with her. Not even my wife and I am steaming mad...... Let us know how it all goes. When do you expect to hear from the PI by the way? Link to post Share on other sites
Miky Posted August 12, 2011 Share Posted August 12, 2011 Thanks Disillusioned, I am using these quite often in my line of business and it did proved to be very valuable... Link to post Share on other sites
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