roxy_silver16 Posted April 26, 2004 Share Posted April 26, 2004 Well, my story is very complicated, but I'll do anything for some solid advice from outsider's who don't know the whole situation. I met my ex boyfriend of 1 and a half years at a dance club. We started hanging out quickly after we exchanged numbers and we hit it off right away. I had never had a serious relationship before him and he had never had a serious relationship since High School. The relationship progressed fast, we said we loved each other about 3 months in, had sex (he was my first) about a month in, and he moved back home with me to my parents for the summer. (I met him in the town I attend college in) In the beginning, he was the more serious one about our relationship. I still had feelings on wanting to be free but I loved him so much that I stuck it out with him. I never cheated. The only thing I did to betray his trust was to chat online with strangers, talk on aim to 2 guys I had done stuff with, and I told him I wasn't going out clubbing with the girls when in fact I did. (He is pretty jealous and didn't want me going clubbing without him, which caused alot of fights.) We bickered every now and then but we got along pretty good. This past 7 months I fell even crazier in love with him, he is my everything! He proposed, we were planning on moving into an apartment this summer, I thought my future was set! Then about 3 weeks ago eveything changed. One day he said that he wanted a "break" that he didn't know who he was anymore and he was tired of all of our drama, he can't trust me and he needs to think about whether he wants to be with me, if I'm the one, ect. Since then, I've had a really hard time dealing. Every other day I go over to his house, cry, scream, throw a fit and beg him to come back to me. But he doesn't. He says he loves me with all his heart and he knows there's a chance for us, but right now he only wants to think about himself. He doesn't want me to be anything more than his friend while he figures stuff out. We have been having sex post breakup and this had made it extremely hard. So now, I don't know what to do. I want him back so much. All I want is for things to be how they were before. I know it is out of my hands and I should give him time, but I don't buy his exscuses! I don't know if I should move on the best I know how and pretend we are over or wait for him to come back? Either way I'm depressed and upset. Any suggestions would be wonderful![color=cyan][/color] Link to post Share on other sites
average guy Posted April 27, 2004 Share Posted April 27, 2004 My humble advice would be to first, stop having sex with him, second, let him go. I've read many posts that basically say when someone asks for "space" it's over. Don't try and hang onto him by having sex with him, you are better than that, and you deserve better than that. Best of luck A.G. ps. I just gave someone else some advice to keep yourself occupied - go see "Love, Actually" about 3-5 times and cry your heart out! Link to post Share on other sites
Author roxy_silver16 Posted April 27, 2004 Author Share Posted April 27, 2004 I stupidly went over there again tonight, and of course ended up having sex. I know I need to let him go deep down in my heart because I am better than him. Those who love another person don't hurt them by needed "space" I need to move on with my life and try and establish myself and gain the independence I once had. I was so wrapped up in his controlling world for the past years that I feel I can't survive without him but I can and WILL! It's going to be harder than I ever thought possible to take my own advice but I have to do it for me. I guess if we are meant to be then we will work out. If not, he came into my life to teach me something. I have good friends, a great family, college, and other things to keep me busy! Any other advice would still be apreciated though Link to post Share on other sites
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