Cheated on BF but did think I made things worst by laughing

[Nabely]

I'm only 16 (my birthday was on June) and it was just making-out. I admit it was funny seeing my BF cried when he saw the kiss. It's not like I sleep around. I was trying to be as serious as possible but end up laughing that I almost lost my balance.

 

I never understood how anyone can cry over a kiss? Ok don't get me wrong, I do feel terrible but not to the point of ''Oh it's the end of the world, I done the worst thing ever, will you ever forgive me'' thing. I feel bad but not that extreme.

 

Anyways I didn't mean to laugh but couldn't help it. I did apologized afterwards but he hasn't really talked much. Will he be ok again?

[Nabely]

So can someone tell me a way to make him feel better? I'm running out of ideas.

[Equinox]

Try laughing at him again. Do a little jig.

 

Nah, I don't know. Give him some space, and if he wants to talk to you, then talk.

[Nabely]

Nah, I don't know. Give him some space, and if he wants to talk to you, then talk.

How much time do I give him? Will he be ok by a week from now?

[HardknockLife]

One thing you did right, by searching for some answers. Just talk to him about it and be honest. One thing you should know, never play with peoples hearts.

[Nabely]

One thing you did right, by searching for some answers. Just talk to him about it and be honest. One thing you should know, never play with peoples hearts.

I've called him twice and he won't pick up. So he's really hurt that badly?

[ilovedhim]

Leave him a message telling him how sorry you are and that you wont keep bugging him. And for him to call you when he's ready.

[Nabely]

Leave him a message telling him how sorry you are and that you wont keep bugging him. And for him to call you when he's ready.

Ok. I'm sure he'll call within a couple days, I think.

[Bryanp]

Imagine if the roles were reversed. What would you want to hear from him?

[carhill]

Run your scenario past your parents. Inquire how your father would feel and react to your mother kissing another man and making out with him. Listen.

 

Yes, the young man will be OK again. He may or may not be interested in kissing or making out with you again. Men are very visual. He will carry that image of you kissing and making out with another guy in his head like a photograph; if the event was sufficiently painful for him to have such an emotional reaction, that memory is probably burned in there pretty good.

 

You apologized. Leave him alone and accept the results. Good luck.

[Nabely]

Imagine if the roles were reversed. What would you want to hear from him?

I'll probably be upset that day and unless he said it was a mistake not to be repeated then I might let it slide just once.

[Nabely]

Run your scenario past your parents. Inquire how your father would feel and react to your mother kissing another man and making out with him.

I think he'll probably end up in a big argument (or fight) with the other man.

[thatone]

I think he'll probably end up in a big argument (or fight) with the other man.

 

which is why you don't do such things.

[carhill]

I think he'll probably end up in a big argument (or fight) with the other man.

That's possible. The exercise is actually having the conversation and asking the question. It's the interaction which is crucial. Communication. It's an example to carry forward as you begin to have more serious relationships and friendships. At your age, you'll likely have many boyfriends, so enjoy it and learn. Youth is brief.

[Professor X]

I don't see why you care, it's obvious your feelings for this person are at minimum to non existing.

 

You cheated on him than you laughed at him and than you asked yourself "what's the big deal - why cry".

 

You lack sympathy big time; I think you deserve someone doing the same thing for you so you feel how painful it can be - yes, even "just" a kiss.

 

 

**Clearly, you 2 should break up.

[rafallus]

You're 16, therefore a child. Stop worrying about that and worry about getting ****faced and drawing penises on faces of friends who passed out. Or having ones drawn on yours...

[vsmini]

Yea - you're really young but even at 16 I knew better than to kick someone while they were down (IE - laughing at my boyfriend's reaction after I've just cheated on him).

 

It really isn't the end of the world but I hoped you learn from it. Don't cheat on people - it will most likely happen to you at one point and you'll understand how crappy it feels.

[Chi townD]

obviously his feelings for you ran deeper than what yours did for him. You're a teenager and just coming into yourself. You've just witnessed how fragile the male ego is and you've crushed it even further by laughing in his face when he caught you making out. Let me ask you this, when he caught you and you saw him begin to cry, did you laugh and continue to make out?

 

And you don't understand why he isn't talking to you?

Really??

to be honest, I think your actions just ended your relationship. You may never hear from him again, and to be honest, I wouldn't blame him.

[Nabely]

Let me ask you this, when he caught you and you saw him begin to cry, did you laugh and continue to make out?

I did not continue making out with the other boy but did laughed some more. The laughing wasn't intented, it just came out. I couldn't help it but yes I feel terrible about it.

And you don't understand why he isn't talking to you?

Really??

to be honest, I think your actions just ended your relationship. You may never hear from him again, and to be honest, I wouldn't blame him.

That's because I didn't think that was so big of a deal and thought he would get over it by the next day or so. I was mistaken.

[Nabely]

I was thinking it was something that he would get mad at first but done and over with, then it'll be back to normal again.

[Professor X]

I was thinking it was something that he would get mad at first but done and over with, then it'll be back to normal again.

 

Oh wow, you need to do some serious growing.

Try and get out some more, see how the real world is with real people who got real feelings.

 

You're quite a cold person, aren't you.

[Nabely]

You're quite a cold person, aren't you.

Actually I do feel terrible now.

[Chi townD]

Yeah, but what you thought was no big deal was obviously a big deal to him. No one wants to see someone that they love and care about being intimate with someone else. Then, you made a display by laughing at him which shows absolutely no remorse for what you did at the time. And I'm sure that the other guy was still there? Did he get a big kick out of it too? Did you two laugh together about it? I'm speculating that he didn't keep his big trap shut which only adds insult to injury.

 

If your wondering why people are jumping down your throat so much about this is because you've come to a site where a lot of people have been cheated on and their SO has left them. You have to take the good with the bad. What's bad is what you've done to your Ex-boyfriend. What's good is that even though you're young, you came here looking for constructive criticism on how not to conduct yourself in a relationship. Hopefully, lessons learned.

 

So, when did you open your eyes that what you did probably wasn't the brightess thing to do, when he wasn't answering your calls? Light bulb come on then?

[Nabely]

No the other guy didn't laughed. He didn't even know my boyfriend and seemed confused. When I told him, he had a WTF expressed and just said ''Ok I'm leaving, bye''.

 

I think I ruined it all. But is there some possibility he might come back (he hasn't told me ''It's over'' yet)? Can I win him back?

[Chi townD]

To be honest, you cheated on him, he caught you in the act of cheating, you laughed in his face about it and when you tried to apologize to him about it you laugh to the point that you almost lost your balance.

 

So, to answer your question as to if you can "win him back"? if he has a shread of self esteem left, then in a word.......no. You won't.

 

A kiss just isn't "just a kiss" there are adults here that have their wives, husbands, boyfriends and girlfriends that were in full blown affairs and some did everything and anything with the other person....except kiss. Becuase to a lot of people, kissing is the most personal and intimate thing you can do with another person. Kissing connects two people together physically and emotionally more so than anything else.

 

Sorry, but chances are, you lost him. You could try to write him a letter conveying how sorry you are, but don't expect a response, you probably won't get one.