Am i been lead on to thinking theres hope?

[Ladyfuzz]

(i believe i cant spell in that title, sorry xD)

 

Its been three months since we broke up, maybe more, which is a good sign since i stopped counting the days.

I feel im at that point where, yes im thinking about them still, but they arnt my only thought.

 

So i began to move on, i have been getting close with someone else, but what happens? my ex comes sniffing back around, he says that me moving on makes him feel crap, because he now realises he messed up so bad and wishes it had worked out, and that he knows they will make me happier than he did. Feels guilty he ever hurt me, says he feels more mature now and everything is begining to hit him all at once.

 

I asked him if this was true why didnt we ever try again? he said i didnt think you wanted to. I mean come on, yes i have been nothing short of a bish these past 3 months, but ive been giving clear signs, - if you ever want to get back together im there - yes i turned into the depserate dog.

 

He says he misses having me there, i was the only person who ever really understood him, he blames himself for it ending because he messed up his oppertunity so bad, he wishes it had went different, he should have stayed instead of running scared. We have been talking alot more, laughing together again, everytime we talk we usually end up laughing about the times we spent together, him trying to serenade me etc:

 

Now heres the big butt, he left me because of one argument to go back with his ex because she had less problems, he was most likely setting this up during our time together. He broke my heart twice, one for leaving me, second when i tried to be his friend and he told me he hated me and dropped me like there was no tomorow. He only started saying these things because im getting with someone else.

 

My question, is he just realising what he lost? regreting his mistakes,or is the jealous dog coming out to play? He can move on but i cant, he didnt want me but no one else is allowed to have me?

 

I have another question, if we ever were to get back together, what is the odds he would leave me again for her, would i be setting myself up for more heartache?

Edited July 29, 2011 by Ladyfuzz

[Desert Rose]

The question is what do YOU want?.. are you still having feelings for him? are you ready to take this ride again?..

[Jdw_Icequeen]

Don't fall for it... You gave him clear signs and I have seen this one to many times. It's not that he wants you back its that he dosen't want anyone else to have you.. People can be

so

selfish he is feeling jealousy and grasping at straws..

 

Its normal for him to feel jealousy of you moving on alot of exs do..

But if you try to go back I can gurantee he will ditch you again.

Why? Its pretty plain that you have strait told him if he ever wanted to get back together you would be waiting. Did he try? No..

 

But now that your moving on with someone else your not waiting for him to come back anymore and of course thats what he wants.

Options! He will always have the option to go back to you.

Don't give him the option. Take it off the table. Wether he does feel guilt or regret is moot and is very likley brought on by the jealousy he is feeling.. Don't move backwards!