cantaloupe Posted July 29, 2011 Share Posted July 29, 2011 My boyfriend of 5 1/2 years broke up with me... 2 days before my birthday. He had been studying for the bar exam and very stressed out. He had developed bad anxiety over the past couple of months, which he would take out on me through arguments and intermittently telling me not to talk to him until the exam was over/ breaking up with me. This behavior would only last a couple hours and then go away until his next bout of anxiety. (He apologized about 75% of the time this happened and I willingly forgave him.) Once he finished the bar (Wednesday) I was so excited because I thought he would be back to normal. I automatically started trying to make plans with him, etc. He told me he was still too stressed out to make plans or discuss anything future related but I didn't really listen. I fully accept the blame for that and have since e-mailed him an apology. We started arguing, he kept hanging up on me, I kept calling back, etc. Then he broke it off with me for good and has not tried to contact me. He blocked my phone number! I e-mailed him a bunch of times after and then I officially stopped. He clearly needs space. I'm so sad because I put my all into supporting him the past few months and truly do love him. This is the first tough break up I have ever been through. How do I get over this- especially on my birthday? I'm sad to lose my best friend. Is there any hope of getting back together or should I just try and move on? I'm devastated and need advice. Link to post Share on other sites
xeros Posted July 29, 2011 Share Posted July 29, 2011 The first thing would be to enjoy your birthday as much as you can! Surround yourself with friends and do your best to focus on the positive. As for getting back together, I honestly couldn't tell you due to not completely knowing the specifics but it sounds like he needs some space for a while, so give him that. It'll give you both time to get over him as well as maybe letting him cool down, either way you'll be fine eventually. Stay strong! Link to post Share on other sites
replicator Posted July 31, 2011 Share Posted July 31, 2011 Only thing you can do is look forward. It's never easy losing a best friend. I know the feeling... You feel like you're losing a part of yourself. Just know the sun will come up... You're going to be okay regardless. You don't need to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you. You deserve better. Link to post Share on other sites
reimeivn Posted August 1, 2011 Share Posted August 1, 2011 cry all you can, think all you can, hurt all you can, dont hide from it. it gets better after you let it all out. bottom line, cool, now you can find the one who wants to be with you, and even in the process itself, its better to be alone than to be with somebody that say he loves you and live to you every signle time he says it. watch some comedies and classic animations. Link to post Share on other sites
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