Rorschach64 Posted July 30, 2011 Share Posted July 30, 2011 I just got out of a relationship over a year long. She, age 22, lived in Singapore and me, 26, living in the US. It was the picture perfect relationship, I've went to see her numerous times and around the one year mark I decided to give her my mother's grandmother's engagement ring letting her know I always wanted her in my life. Then things got slightly weird from there. She would go out with friends to party and drink, when I asked who she was going out with out of curiosity she told me "just a friend". This continued for awhile till I went to my two week drill session in June and usually she texts me and messages me a lot during these sessions but this time she barely answered me what so ever and deleted some of my posts on Facebook, but after the training she was totally fine. I went to visit her in Singapore, after her friend had to convience her to let me go see her, after 2 weeks from the training event I mentioned and I arrive and she is totally fine and cool, the girl I grew to love during the first day, we also had sex. Second day and third day she was totally cold to me, she wouldn't even come near me! I ended up telling her friend over there that she has been acting weird and if she noticed it, which she did and her friend confronted her about it, which I wish she didn't, and she came on AIM the next night, I didn't see her because she had work the whole day so she says, and tells me over the internet while I am no more than 20 minutes away from her that she thinks we should take a break and single again to respark the relationship, I was so devestated and felt cheated by this move because she could have told me this awhile ago when it became an issue. So I agree and then the next day we meet up she is still acting pretty cold towards me, she totally stops saying I love you and hugging me and kissing me and all that, and sometimes nice behavior. I feel like crap at this point. This behavior goes on for most of the trip and I tell her I didn't want to be single but we can still be on break. She agrees, but it didn't seem like she was too happy with that. But yeah pretty much she was more on her cell phone than paying attention to me, acted mostly cold towards me with random moments of being totally fine and normal. I lend her my laptop because her MAC broke and I go home. The day I got home I had a FB conversation that I discussed with a female friend our relationship issues and i was joking around with this girl, but my ex some how saw my conversation and took it as I was cheating on her, she approached the situation with a text of "we need to talk" and she started our IM conversation with "is there anything you want to tell me?" She proceeds to reem me out to the point I actually believe I actually did cheat and she breaks up with me over a conversation on FB while I beg her to let me explain and I deserve a second chance but she decided to be a total psycho about it. Next day she did the same thing to me but she admitted her own doubts in her choice and that she might be at fault for this, then the follow day she starts acting totally normal like the girl I knew and loved!!! It freaked me out and she expected me to smile on web cam and be all excited she was on web cam. I eventually went NC with her for about 4 days where her one friend contacted me and told me not to give up hope and he is trying to help me out with this and it got my hopes all up in a tizzy. So basically I talk to another friend trying to get her to convience my ex to hear me out and her friend tells me to break NC and try to reel her back in while she talks to her to hear me out. Once I broke NC my ex was rather cold and weird, she told me she moved on already and is moving forward and forgot about me. I told her friend that suggested I break NC this and she was like what the hell? and said that there might be someone else, so she inquired my ex about this and claimed that my ex said she is seeing someone already. So I get told this and I freak out and send my Ex a calm but dagger to the heart email saying I know why you broke up with me and all that which prompted her to fire back 10 fold in cruelness saying she regrets spending any time with me or meeting me etc etc. So basically after that me and my ex sit down and settle this out once and for all. I clear my name of being a cheater, her reasons to break up with me and gave her my reasons as to the email, but during the conversation she just saught blame on me and neve rlooked at herself and she basically came up with another excuse along the lines that she has had relationships in the past like this one, apparently she has many dudes that she thought were the one because thats what she would tell me, and that there is too much hurt. It seemed like to me she wanted out no matter what logic I threw in there even though I kept asking for that second chance. Is this G.I.G.S at work or what the hell happened here? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Rorschach64 Posted July 30, 2011 Author Share Posted July 30, 2011 (edited) Oh also I forgot to mention the fact she used my laptop to search for dirt on me, in the email she sent me at the end was full of insults along the lines that I am an idiot, the most pathetic person she has ever met and that I should wallow in my own ****, and during her arguements I had with her during the break up her logic was unreasonable and contradictory at best. Edited July 30, 2011 by Rorschach64 Link to post Share on other sites
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