Infidelity Board Attack

[Spark1111]

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Funny how? I think it's ridiculous to blame the OW or the BS for what the MM chose to do to either of them.They BOTH get lead on,they BOTH get lied to,they BOTH get manipulated and they BOTH get hurt.

 

Isn't that the NATURE of an affair?

 

Some BS's act as though thier H's are victims of OW's.

I think that's very rare if it happens at all.And they take them back as

though they somehow "won" because he came home and claimed all he wanted was sex from his OW and that he LURVES his wife!

 

Pullease!!!!!! If he loved his wife....he NEVER could have betrayed her.

 

 

 

 

Unfair is an understatement.Whomever sticks around and "fights" for the "winning" position in the MM's triangle is the one most in denial if you ask me.But the reality is,the MM/MW don't typically wind up alone and they really should considering what they did to both parties.'

 

 

 

No sh*t! If a MM wants to betray his vows,it could be ANYONE he lies to and manipulates into thinking his wife is the problem and he needs a third party to make him feel better!

 

I'd like to know where the forum is with the MM who feel so guilty,ashamed,remorseful and willing to make ammends to ANYONE for the problems he has caused women in his lie.

 

All I've see is them feeling entitled to going home or leaving thier wives without any conscience because it's all about them!~

 

 

 

 

 

 

OMG! Really? OW's are INVITED into someone else's marriage!

Actually, we are manipulated in with pity ploys about how horrible the BS is and even if we know they are married,we fall prey to thier incessant complaining about you.

 

Mine BEGGED me to never leave him despite the fact that he refused to commit to me or her! HE caused the pain!Actually my xMM's wife NEVER found out and he expected me to stay silent as he didn't want to give HER the right to make the choice to dump his cheating a$$!

 

And I didn't WANT him so I was more than happy to walk away after seeing what he was capable of doing to people who trusted him!

 

And...the person who is trying to get a piece of A$$ from someone who is OFF limits to him is the MM! You are villifying the WRONG person in this.

 

But that's so damn typical! Men are somehow excused for thier behaviors and women they use or betray get left holding the bag everytime!

 

Like I said,the triangulation they created continues!

 

And again...off goes the MM into his future without anwering for anything and WORSE being defended by someone who must be daft to have it that mixed up!

 

This kind of message makes me want to inform his wife and ruin his life as he did mine, all the more! Sometimes,I can't believe I fell for his manipulations...others I think....people just don't understand Narcissism!

 

It's so much easier to stay with a MM when you blame the OW for his actions...isn't it?

 

This is harsh for you HeartOn.

 

You sound, for all of your education, links, and insight, as STILL the victim.

 

Yes, you were lied to. But you still willingly fell for his pity ploys about his loveless marriage. You allowed your vulnerability to talk you out of your common sense, which I believe you have a lot of. It is WHY you are so angry.

 

I'm sorry. That sounds to me like such an excuse. You were attracted to him allowed the pity ploys to help you justify the boundaries you knew you should not be crossing.

 

Many, many people would recoil if a married person started the unhappily married spiel, despite an attraction. You need to examine WHY you were so susceptible to a con man to heal. That requires personal accountability for your actions.

 

I had to examine WHY I too allowed unacceptible behavior during my H's affair. Because I loved him? Because I wanted his happiness over my own? Because I became a doormat? Yes, to all of the above.

 

People who successfully reconcile do NOT blame the OW. We question her vulnerability, maybe, that allowed herself to be deluded for so long as we were. We do NOT just take this lying, broken WS back no questions asked. Some might, but I doubt they are posting here at LS.

 

I put the man through hell and he had to examine and introspect and change. Otherwise, who would want a relationship with THAT MAN.

 

LS is a microcosm of world court, a jury of your peers, so to speak. And yes, many people DO have equal anger towards the OM/OW. I am not saying it is right or fair or enlightened.

 

It just is. Not just here on LS, but IRL also. Fifty percent of those who would NEVER cheat, not for love or money or circumstance or attraction or flattery or validation, will never fathom the fifty percent who do.

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