Stella44 Posted July 31, 2011 Share Posted July 31, 2011 I don't get it. One minute, I am loving being single, enjoying getting to know myself again and delighted to be living in my own place I have done up for myself. The next, I am utterly depressed and lonely and miss my ex. What is with this rollercoaster of emotions? It's been almost 10 months since we separated. I have a new job in a new city and a new flat that is gorgeous. I love my new life and feel much happier than I have for a long time. But then a moment or a memory hits and life seems endlessly sad. I made the decision to split up and it was absolutely the right one. Why does it still hurt so much? When will it freakin' end?? Link to post Share on other sites
Eddie Edirol Posted July 31, 2011 Share Posted July 31, 2011 It takes time, even longer than ten months. It will end when you dont WANT to miss your ex anymore. You also have to get out there, start talking to guys, check out personalities, start scoping. That way you will eventually be ready to be swept off your feet. Or at least tripped. Link to post Share on other sites
Lucid1 Posted July 31, 2011 Share Posted July 31, 2011 Stella44, Maybe you should buy a Mustang convertible too... Seriously, I'm right there with you. A little different, since she instigated the divorce, but the swings are the same. I have a nice little brick house with a garage and a yard in a nice little town and I'm getting settled in and it's kind of nice to putz around the house and do what I want. Or go drive the new car. Then I think about what I might be doing in my old house, now hers, and I think about her with someone else or I think about what was lost and once again, it's like eating glass. Self-torture. I don't know how long it takes, I'm sure it's different for everyone and every situation, but unfortunately it ain't gonna be quick. Hang in there and let your friends give you support. Link to post Share on other sites
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