keepsmilin74 Posted August 3, 2011 Share Posted August 3, 2011 I did not and do not want my husband to leave me. However, I will accept whatever his choices are in the future regarding this situation. When he's dealing with this, I answer EVERY question. I sit with him and yes I do hold him. Even though I don't deserve to. I am completely an open book. I have nothing to hide and am trying to hide nothing. I think I will have to be this way always in order to bring back any hope of trust. The forgiving can take years and forgetting never. You seem to be doing the right things to help the healing but you still probably need to go to marriage counselling (find one who specialises in infidelity) if you can afford it (and I think it would be worth it if you value your marriage!) Why you need a 3rd party counsellor is because it's recent, he doesn't really know if he can trust what you're saying or doing to try to repair the relationship. It would be easier for him if if someone else is verifying he's not going crazy, and that someone else is not the person who cheated on him. And take note, some counsellors are better than others. They're not all the same... so if one doesn't fit, don't give up, look for another. Goodluck! Link to post Share on other sites
Author mrsbigmc226 Posted August 3, 2011 Author Share Posted August 3, 2011 My husband and I have started marriage counseling. Thanks for all the advice, those of you that were productive. I appreciate it. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted August 3, 2011 Share Posted August 3, 2011 I commend you for not blaming it on the alcohol. So many others do and that's just a bunch of bull. I also think you did the right thing by telling your husband what you did. You are just going to have to do some major arsekissing for the next 3 years. I wish you luck. Link to post Share on other sites
Untouchable_Fire Posted August 4, 2011 Share Posted August 4, 2011 My husband and I have started marriage counseling. Thanks for all the advice, those of you that were productive. I appreciate it. Great. What was causing marital strife before you cheated? Do you see the choices you made that lead to cheating? Did you spend the night out? Did you tell your husband in advance where you were going and who would be there? Link to post Share on other sites
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