ScienceGal Posted July 31, 2011 Share Posted July 31, 2011 I feel like it is the week after my ex separated from me, but it's been 7. Sick to my stomach all day, in tears, can't get a grip for the past several hours. I have been doing everything that I know to do in order to move on (no contact, staying busy, counseling) and I just feel terrible. I am a sensitive person when it comes to relationships. I give my all and put a lot of faith in respect and communication between me and my partner. When that breaks down, I get really hurt. I am in my late 20s and have loved several men. I know the age thing is bugging me too (thought I'd be married by now). I am not in a rush to settle down, I just hate thinking about how many more times I will have to feel like this in my life before I meet someone that will treat me well. Sometimes it feels so hopeless. My question is, how many bad breakups have you been through? Do you usually feel the same? Any good stories from the other side? Link to post Share on other sites
moontiger Posted July 31, 2011 Share Posted July 31, 2011 I feel like it is the week after my ex separated from me, but it's been 7. Sick to my stomach all day, in tears, can't get a grip for the past several hours. I have been doing everything that I know to do in order to move on (no contact, staying busy, counseling) and I just feel terrible. I am a sensitive person when it comes to relationships. I give my all and put a lot of faith in respect and communication between me and my partner. When that breaks down, I get really hurt. I am in my late 20s and have loved several men. I know the age thing is bugging me too (thought I'd be married by now). I am not in a rush to settle down, I just hate thinking about how many more times I will have to feel like this in my life before I meet someone that will treat me well. Sometimes it feels so hopeless. My question is, how many bad breakups have you been through? Do you usually feel the same? Any good stories from the other side? Hi there ScienceGal. I've been through four breakups. I'm 32. I am also sensitive and also feel scared about how much more I will have to go through before I find someone. I feel the same way you feel. But the only way to guarantee failure is to not keep on trying. I guess you just have to do your best, being careful not to rebound, to look at red flags early on, and to end relationships that aren't working. Hugs at you! Link to post Share on other sites
emby Posted August 1, 2011 Share Posted August 1, 2011 I feel at least some of your pain, but it's been 6 weeks for me instead of 7. I still cry most every night if not every day. But I'm getting better. It still hurts, what he did, but mostly how much I miss the guy. I'm only 19 yet I've been through a lot of breakups...I had my first boyfriend at 13 going on 14. Obviously some have hurt a lot more than others. I sometimes wonder if I've had one heartache too many and won't be able to love and trust again- I started dating my ex when I wasn't over the ex from before. I was strongly against dating and only wanted to meet as friends as I was still transfixed on my ex, but in the end my most recent ex won me over. He was there when I was going through a really difficult time and showed me I could love again. He said he would never hurt me or end it...yet it's just happened. I think right now it's okay to feel like this- not sick to your stomach but as though you're not ready to see other people, to believe that it just won't work out with anyone else. But one day, we'll both wake up and feel okay, I just know it. Please don't worry about your age, because you're still young. In many ways better to be in your situation than married young and stuck in an unhappy marriage, or divorced. You can start afresh Link to post Share on other sites
HeartOfAPhoenix Posted August 1, 2011 Share Posted August 1, 2011 How many bad relationships can one heart take? As many as it takes to find the person that won't break your heart, or you theirs. Link to post Share on other sites
reimeivn Posted August 1, 2011 Share Posted August 1, 2011 3 major ones? i think. after that you just kind of, settle down with the person before you start loving them. and it s a different kind of love. Link to post Share on other sites
reimeivn Posted August 1, 2011 Share Posted August 1, 2011 but again, thats just me. remember that each tim eyour heart get broken, it becomes so much stronger that when it happens a gain, most of the time its not that bad. you survived one, why wouldnt you do it again. some relationships are just mean for a period of time, so its not you, or your fault, even though that person cut ties with you. in the future when you change, and your life change, you think see that the relationship was not mean to be with you for longer thatn that period of time. i hope you will take it easier. and love comes and go. it will come again to you. Link to post Share on other sites
Sugarkane Posted August 1, 2011 Share Posted August 1, 2011 I'm also wondering the same thing. I'm 24 and started dating when I was 15. I've been heartbroken 3 times. If I meet another assclown I'll scream! Link to post Share on other sites
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