Creep Posted July 31, 2011 Share Posted July 31, 2011 I was in an affair with a mm. the husband asked for a divorce. she went to his boss. they transferred his orders. we stop communication for about a month. we are now talking again. is it possible that we can continue this relationship although we are miles away? is this a sign that he still care? plans are being developed to meet each other in a small time half way. I truly want to be with this man. We had so much fun together. There is a chemistry when we see each other. "I love him" should I give him up or should I continue this relationship even with him going through a divorce Link to post Share on other sites
MissBee Posted July 31, 2011 Share Posted July 31, 2011 (edited) You put that you "love him" in quotations and you say you have fun and chemistry. Wellll....from what you're describing, it doesn't seem that deep, and not something that you yourself are even sure about. What do you guys talk about when you communicate? You asked if the communication means he cares...you're in a better position to know. What do you all talk about? Has he ever expressed an interest in continuing your relationship? Does he "love you" too? Or do you not know? Basically, are you all on the same page (I assume not, since you're not even sure if he cares). I suggest you make no plans to restart this relationship without deciding what you want out of it and communicating with him (since you're going to need to do that anyway if you plan to be in a relationship with him) about what he feels/wants/where he sees things going. You can't plan to have a relationship with a man whom you are uncertain of yourself and where you don't know how he feels about you.... Edited July 31, 2011 by MissBee Link to post Share on other sites
fooled once Posted July 31, 2011 Share Posted July 31, 2011 I was in an affair with a mm. the husband asked for a divorce. she went to his boss. they transferred his orders. we stop communication for about a month. we are now talking again. is it possible that we can continue this relationship although we are miles away? is this a sign that he still care? plans are being developed to meet each other in a small time half way. I truly want to be with this man. We had so much fun together. There is a chemistry when we see each other. "I love him" should I give him up or should I continue this relationship even with him going through a divorce so this MM asked his wife for a divorce, she went to his boss and what? How do you know she called his boss? because he told you? So you think he moved away with his wife and now talks to you that it means he is dying to be with you? Do you know for a fact that they are divorcing? If they are divorcing, why did he move with her? tell him to call you when he is divorced. Don't want on any man. Life is too damn short, and there are too many other people out there. Why waste your life being 2nd fiddle to a long distance MM? Link to post Share on other sites
TurboGirl Posted August 1, 2011 Share Posted August 1, 2011 Transferred his orders? If this guy is in the military, he can get kicked out for having an affair. You know the answer to your question in your heart. You are in a state of lust, IMHO... trust me, it will fade... let him go. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Creep Posted August 2, 2011 Author Share Posted August 2, 2011 Turbo Girl, you sound like you understand. something similar has happen.but this is beyond lust. he is making arrangements to meet. she is continuing to tell him lies that she has talked with me and have not. any call that comes in on the phone with a private or restricted number she thinks that it is me and confronts him about it . I do not call him he calls me daily. The passion is there with the both of us. do you think i should play this out? i definitely have continued my life and I am not sitting around sobering over him NO Link to post Share on other sites
bentnotbroken Posted August 2, 2011 Share Posted August 2, 2011 Turbo Girl, you sound like you understand. something similar has happen.but this is beyond lust. he is making arrangements to meet. she is continuing to tell him lies that she has talked with me and have not. any call that comes in on the phone with a private or restricted number she thinks that it is me and confronts him about it . I do not call him he calls me daily. The passion is there with the both of us. do you think i should play this out? i definitely have continued my life and I am not sitting around sobering over him NO Sure, play it out. I can see how much he will love you once he lays the blame at your feet once he is found out and is kicked out of the military. Will he be right in his assessment...no. But since he has shown the maturity level of a two year old hiding his crappy pants from his mom. He will blame you, he won't take responsibility for his own actions. And if you think his wife won't out you and him.....she has already proved she will. Link to post Share on other sites
TurboGirl Posted August 2, 2011 Share Posted August 2, 2011 Turbo Girl, you sound like you understand. something similar has happen.but this is beyond lust. he is making arrangements to meet. she is continuing to tell him lies that she has talked with me and have not. any call that comes in on the phone with a private or restricted number she thinks that it is me and confronts him about it . I do not call him he calls me daily. The passion is there with the both of us. do you think i should play this out? i definitely have continued my life and I am not sitting around sobering over him NO Seriously - first, he's married - and if in the military, they will kick him out with a dishonorable discharge (I think but not 100% there) and then he will have no job! I think he is being weak... And really, if he has no job then BOY that will really be not fun. Play it out ?... no way. There is more drama coming your way if you want to do that. The wife can and may come after you if she is freaking about every phone call that he receives. Do you need that!? You have to take control here and tell him to quit calling. The End. Yes, I know it is hard. BUT there are other guys out there, single guys, who are free to be with you and you won't have this drama. Yes I know you feel it is beyond lust... but whatever there is will evaporate if he loses his job and/or the wife comes after you! So not worth it! Distance yourself from this and in a few months you will see... there is so much more out there for you and you don't need this MM and the trouble he brings! Link to post Share on other sites
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