Brain scattered.

[s0methingelse]

Three years ago I met this guy who is quite a bit older than myself. For two years we constantly flirted, but never disclosed our feelings for each other, due to us both being very introverted. Time has passed and I now have a steady boyfriend.

 

For the past few months I've noticed something strange. The times when this guy (who I used to like) has been single, he's ambiguously asked me out on dates, which I agreed to go to since I assumed they weren't dates at all. However, as the date day gets closer, he'll suddenly not respond to my emails and calls about where we're meeting, at what time, etc. Afterwards he'll give me excuses about how he suddenly got too busy to contact me, when in reality he ends up going with either guy friends or one of his family members. This has happened a couple of times.

 

When he's IN a relationship, he tends to not talk to me for the whole time he's in it, and we don't speak for months on end. But when he's single, he comes back to me and does weird things like asking me to go places with him, which he never follows through with.

 

Is he just really scatter-brained or what? Anyone have any familiarity with this? The only reason I ask is becuase we still have unresolved past issues, and I'm wondering if these on-off date things might be a sign of something. I could just ask him myself, but I'd like some opinion before I might get egged in the face

[bluechocolate]

Honestly, this guy kind sounds like a flake - breaking a date off once or twice because you're busy, fine. But it sounds like a habit. Don't make any more dates to see this guy alone, just things like "...me and so and so are going out for a drink, feel free to tag along.". And don't expect him to show up.

 

 

I don't know about your past issues with this guy but if you're happy with your steady boyfriend - leave those issues in the past.

 

Cheers