kasey Posted April 27, 2004 Share Posted April 27, 2004 [color=darkred][font=arial][/font][/color] This is my first post to this forum so please bear with me! I was in a 5 year relationship about a a year and a half ago and I still have feelings for my ex. We broke up due to career moves and still keep in contact every few months or so by email. It has been several months since we had written each other, and today we began to chat on a chat line. Feelings that I thought had faded came rushing back to me, and he admitted that he felt the same. We are both in committed relationships and live far apart from each other. I care very much for the person I am with now and really do believe that my current boyfriend is the "one" for me, but I just can't get rid of these feelings I have for my ex. I do not want to lose contact with my former boyfriend because we were also best friends, but I just can't seem to let these feelings go I have for him. Even though it's been a 1 year and 1/2 since the break-up and haven't seen each other since, since he moved a far distance from me, I still feel the pain just as I did a year ago. How do I move on from all these feelings and begin to heal? People tell me that time will heal all wounds but it just doesn't seem to be working for me! What is my next step?! Link to post Share on other sites
bluechocolate Posted April 30, 2004 Share Posted April 30, 2004 You say that you broke up because of career moves. Does this mean that if it weren't for these moves you two would be still be together? If so, then there's your answer. You still love this guy. And you say he feels the same way towards you. I care very much for the person I am with now and really do believe that my current boyfriend is the "one" for me, but I just can't get rid of these feelings ... There seems to be a contradiction here - you and your ex still have strong feelings for each other yet you really do believe that your current b/f is the one for you. How do I move on from all these feelings and begin to heal? If it is impossible for you and your ex to be together then I would recommend that you stop torturing yourself AND your current boyfriend. He is involved here as well and he deserve to be sure on what your feelins are. Break off all contact with your ex. I know you say you don't want to do that because he is your best friend. Can't you be best friends with the man you have now? Aren't there other friends in your life? It seems to me that you have to decide who it is you really want to be with. Link to post Share on other sites
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