thanos Posted August 2, 2011 Share Posted August 2, 2011 i need advice on my part in this role.my first love and i were childhood sweetheartsfrom age 8 that dated at age 14(when our parents let us)until her senior year of high school. At 18 i had moved out of state to live with my mom but had promised id be back for her and had asked my best hs pal to make sure she didnt stay lonely .well the best laid plans of an 18yr old fell thru and didnt have the maturity or the experience to get a place of my own or provide for her and i didnt go back for a year only to find out my best friend was then dating her.after heated words feeling defeated i walked away and she ended up marrying and rasing 2 kids with him.i hadnt talked to her in 24 1/2 years .about two years ago we became fb friends and this past holiday we seen each other for the first time in years .the chemistry was so intense you would have swore there was a tesla coil in the room.that was 3 months ago .since then we talk everyday all day.weve both confessed our love for one another, but both know we would not have sex due to moral convictions on both parts.that was until today when i saw her again. we didnt have sex but did have an intimate moment that was in apropriate . i understand that we are having an emotional affair .but my question is do i abandon somebody ive always loved twice in my life because of my moral compass or do i bend my moral backbone in order to make myself happy ? im to old for puppy love and although i didnt stay in her life her ghost stayed in mine. if we continue that line will keep getting blurred but stopping means losing so very much a second time. Link to post Share on other sites
skywriter Posted August 2, 2011 Share Posted August 2, 2011 thanos, your story is very sad and romantic as well, given you two have reconnected. I just know from my own poor choice that you should never get involved with someonewho's already in a committed relationship. Someone always gets hurt. You said that your hs sweetheart has children with her husband.You've asked should you walk away. I have to wonder is she willing to walk away form her marriage and the life she has created with her husband and children? Link to post Share on other sites
alexandria35 Posted August 2, 2011 Share Posted August 2, 2011 but my question is do i abandon somebody ive always loved twice in my life because of my moral compass Well when you put that way it almost sounds like it would be wrong NOT to have an affair, LOL. Nice way to spin it. I see your brain is well on it's way to making justifications for doing something you know is wrong. What is the plan here? Are you married? Why do you have to lose each other a second time? I would think she should be able to get a divorce if you are her one true love. Link to post Share on other sites
Author thanos Posted August 2, 2011 Author Share Posted August 2, 2011 in response . i know its my job to stay away .and no she couldnt divorce nor would i ask her too .hubby was former policeman who suffered brain damage on the job.shes taken care of him for ten years plus .i couldnt handle that kind of karma. i thank you all for your input. Link to post Share on other sites
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