joer77 Posted August 2, 2011 Share Posted August 2, 2011 Ok this is the story. Ive been with my wife for 7 years and had our ups and downs. she took a job working nights and I worked days which only gave us the weekend to spend time together. As time went on I found a new hobbie and got more into it. With the schedule difference I started to mentally and some what emotionally seperate myself from her but still putting forth a effort to keep the relationship going. I eventually lost all physical attraction for her and went months with out sex. We ended up getting married 2 years ago, even though I felt some what pushed into it by her and her family and all the while second guessing it. Our marrige so far has been ok, alot of arguments and immaturity on her part which she would say i want a divorce. But about a month ago I started noticing a change and her attitude got carless and come to find out she cheated on me with a co-worker. When I sked her why she said I didnt give her enough attention. So now Im confused as to what to do, Do I stay or do I go? When I look at her I feel disgust and devistated. Ive been with her so long and have alot invested (house, Cars, her family) but I know I will never trust her again and I have no urge to have sex with her. Can anyone give me some advice? Link to post Share on other sites
teerockness Posted August 3, 2011 Share Posted August 3, 2011 You give a mostly facts-based telling of the story. Obviously, the affair will color things more than a bit, but let me ask you a question- Do you feel anything for her? Any emotional, any caring, any affection, anything? Do you feel an emotional bond with this woman? Your straightforward telling of the story seems to imply "no" - the house, cars, and family are important I guess - but you don't give us much more than that on the bond you two shared. Sounds like you've grown distant from her, partly your own choice, and maybe were pushed into the marriage which you didn't want to do? I dunno man, it looks like you're stacking the cards against the relationship from jump. Anyway, stay strong and good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
2.50 a gallon Posted August 5, 2011 Share Posted August 5, 2011 Is there something here that I am missing? You have found another love in your hobby and have chosen to emotionaly and sexually abandoned your wife. As wives in such situations are wont to do she has found your replacement and now that you discovered that you have been replaced, you finally begin to try and sort out your hurt feelings. You don't sound as if reconcilation is truly in you heart, and that you are more concerned with your investments, house and cars. And probably rightly so as in most states I beleive that they would be considered marital assest, and she possible entitled to half Do I have this right? Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted August 5, 2011 Share Posted August 5, 2011 It sounds like you need to see an attorney and get a divorce. Link to post Share on other sites
coolheadal Posted August 5, 2011 Share Posted August 5, 2011 Kick her out and change the locks if you own this house and she's not on anything for it. Why be unhappy with her in your presence. In my case I had to move out and go to my own house. She has her house and I have mine. She gone in 10 more days and then there won't be a house for her. I am have my place here 1,400 miles away and I am glad I am gone from her. Once they cheat they always will cheat and can't be trusted ever again. Even if you did decide to go back to her what type of wife would you have. A CHEATER LIER NO GOOD WORTHLESS PIECE OF TRASH! Link to post Share on other sites
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