lady_rain Posted August 3, 2011 Share Posted August 3, 2011 it all started last year, i met this incredible guy, he played the piano, could discuss about art with me, funny, could make a rock talk, and he was handsome too. black hair ,tall slim... we went out in 3 dates between the 2 and the 3rd we had communication issues, so before the 3rd we talked and he said he would really like to continue this but he was moving that is i would be able to try things out, and i asked him if he was sure and he said yes. so we went out on the 3rd date which went great. and he left for a small business trip. when he came back he told me that he thought things out and that if it was better if we kept as friends. i really dint want to lose contact with him since i haven't met a guy like him before and i said we could, since i was going to my masters the following year. and then i didn't hear back from him, i asked him if he needed help with the move or even if we could see each other before he left, but he said he was out of town again.... so we lost contact for some months but i couldn't stop thinking of him. so oh got my gut up and send him an e-mail asking how he was , and he was friendly and said that good, and we e-mailed back a couple of times, then we started chatting a bit heavily flirting, and he went missing for a week or so, but i thought he was busy or something. when he came back he said he went to a trip with his family and that it was fun. and i said cool. a week later i was nervous because of a meeting so i chatted with him, i asked him if he had been out of town or something and he said no last time he went out was to that trip with a girl and his family. of course this crushed me a bit but i thought he was joking since he continued to flirt with me.. and yesterday i found out by the social media he is in a relationship with a girl... im crushed...i mean if in a year i can't let go...what is in store for me.. i think i love him still... how do i move on? i already have full time job and im taking extracurricular activities my schedule is full i cant add anything in it. and i really believe that this is not the end of us. but still.... i dont know i feel so lost... Link to post Share on other sites
light_vader Posted August 3, 2011 Share Posted August 3, 2011 Hi there. when he came back he told me that he thought things out and that if it was better if we kept as friends. i really dint want to lose contact with him since i haven't met a guy like him before and i said we could, since i was going to my masters the following year. That's the very end of it, isn't it? Why would you want to pursue something with someone that clearly stated doesn't want a relationship with you, just a friendship? And given the fact that you feel attracted to him, what's the point? To wait forever for him to really want to be in a -romantic- relationship with you? That seems like a lot of waste, doesn't it? I reckon I'm not like other guys. The kind of regular 99% of population guys that would drool over a girl and then stay as "friends" just because they think a chance might come up in the future. To me, that seems like lying to themselves and their female "friend", and faking + hiding feelings. I don't like being dishonest that way. .. i think i love him still... To be honest, I either missed something, misread or simply quite don't understand. Love? How could you possibly love someone you never even had a relationship to start with? how do i move on? i already have full time job and im taking extracurricular activities my schedule is full i cant add anything in it. The first thing you need to start with, is your self-love. From what I see you just want to be hanging there like a keychain on his pocket, and wait indefinitely to see if you get a chance with him, when there are so much great guys out there waiting for you... There is no point on pursuing something that keeps running away from you, so to speak. Link to post Share on other sites
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