Three years gone down the tube?

[paleboy]

So here is my situation. I have been in a long distance relationship with my fiance for about three years. I visited her in October of 2010 and everything seemed fine. We used to call each other and Skype with each other up until two weeks ago. She lives halfway across the world, so seeing her as much as I want to isn't feasible or cheap. Not to mention its a 16 hour flight. Well she had gone to see her family for ten days. She found out that her brother was going into the army and that her parents were getting a divorce. Everything was fine before she left, I had no doubts at all about the relationship. But as soon as she had gotten back, the calls stopped. She won't answer my phone calls or her phone is off. The time I had actually got in contact with her she said that she would call me, and not to call her. Now, we were used to talking everyday up until this point which put me at some unease. One night I was on facebook searching for friends and I had found her by accident. Now, I did not know she had a facebook and noticed a lot of unusual things. Most of her friends had the same last name. I know I was a bit underhanded when I did this but, I went through the friends with the same last name and found that someone had posted that they were engaged. Well as you can see this would put anyone at unease. I called her up and got a hold of her. She said that she had told that person that she was engaged to me and that he was leaving the country in about a week. She had also told me that as soon as he leaves she would change her number, and that the status of that person who said they were engaged was just because he liked her a lot. She also said that I shouldn't call because she wants to make sure her friend's last days were good memories instead of bad ones. She is very pretty and she gets hit on a lot, I know this because it's happened in front of me and she's also called me numerous times about guys hitting on her. Her response was always that she was engaged and she wasn't interested. I had also told her that I had also bought plane tickets to leave to see her in about a week, she said it was fine but to make sure I arrive after he leaves for some reason. Right now I'm debating on whether or not to take the flight. She hasn't called me back, and all I really want to do is talk to her and have her tell me the truth whether good or bad. I mean I love her so much that I would let her go if she thinks that will make her happy. I also don't want to go see her if see doesn't want me to or if she doesn't love me, as that would probably exasperate the situation. Also that I need to know whether she is going to be there when I arrive, whereas i don't live in that country and don't have a place to stay if she is not going to be there. I'll basically be a hobo for a month and a half. Another thing that bugs me is, if we were talking everyday and she had told that person we were engaged why would she tell me not to call her, that she would call me? Should it matter if called her or not? This situation is wreaking havoc on my mind. Maybe I'm over thinking things, but I need some help. Any thoughts would be appreciated. Sorry about the thread, i know it sound like a rant.

[FitChick]

Why have you waited three years? You should be married by now. She probably doesn't want to move to your country and has met someone locally. Her family probably wants her to marry someone of her own race. Break all contact and you will see how long it takes her to contact you, if ever.

[paleboy]

We waited because well....I'll just say that she's been married before and its got to do something about the paperwork.

[crazylove]

Any news yet? Maybe it's better to wait for her to call you. Very strange what's happened and i really feel for you. It's awful not knowing what's going on . . good or bad. Hope you hear from her soon.