Author alexlakeman Posted August 4, 2011 Author Share Posted August 4, 2011 Don't get me wrong, she looks fine as F)CK with her nice tight jeans and tight top, or like in the wknd short shorts, with a cute tight tank top(I think that's what they call it) and all that extra skin just disappears under the clothing lol... She's a great lady, and I will likely stay.. That's my problem.. I don't find it all in ONE package and then leads me to easily cheat; woman 1 - has a, b, d, f qualities and woman 2 has qualities c, e, and g... but I am not for that any longer; I want it all in ONE package .. Although I am the first to always say that at our age you will NOT find it all in one package; guess I have to practice what I preach now, lol... Link to post Share on other sites
sally4sara Posted August 4, 2011 Share Posted August 4, 2011 Stretch marks and cellulite accumulation are genetic. If it runs in your family then you will be more susceptible to it. But get this... I use to work next to this cake shop and this short round elderly woman worked there. She was very sweet and nice to talk to and way hipper than you'd have guessed. Her husband, also an elderly fella and not much better than she in the physical dept. He had injured himself on the job in a permanent way about 10 years prior. He would come up every day she worked and they would get lunch together. They were so cute. One day he told me it was their anniversary that day. I don't remember exactly which anniversary but they had been together a long long time. I asked him if they had any hot plans for later. I'll never forget what he said. "Ahhh our plans are more the warm variety these days ever since my injury. I know. It sounds awful to someone your age; you'd rather anything but that right? But its nice, you know. You go home and eat dinner with the one person who knows all your BS and still sticks around. Neither of you look like superstars anymore but who does after so many years? I like warm. I like curling up together and watching our shows. I like that all my flaws and all my good points, all of it, everything I am and everything I was is still alive because she was there and is still here. You'll be lucky to have warm when you get to our age." Think about it man..... Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted August 4, 2011 Share Posted August 4, 2011 That's my problem ... I don't find it all in ONE package and then leads me to easily cheat interesting comment, alex ... do you think it's really less about being so picky how your partner looks and more about having a handy escape route? Because in the normal course of things, when two people are attracted to each other, and deep feelings like love blossom, all those things we thought were unattractive become non-issues because we realize they're something minor and we can live with them. when we're not ready to be in a committed/long-term relationship or feel insecure about ourselves, we tend to look for anything to get out when it starts becoming truly intimate. I mean, there's some guy out there thinking Heidi Klum has ugly toes or Elle McPherson has crooked teeth simply because he's looking for reasons to keep from getting too involved. Remember the Jack Black movie, Shallow Hal, how his friend keeps meeting these gorgeous chicks who adore him, but he always breaks it off with them? Link to post Share on other sites
misssmartypants Posted August 4, 2011 Share Posted August 4, 2011 Its not selfish to not want to have kids. I have kids and I love my kids, but I wouldn't force anyone to have kids they didn't feel ready to love and raise. I think the op is being silly personally. I used to work in the medical field as an aid in a hospital and I've seen a lot of people naked. None of them were perfect. Not the 20 something in for the flue, the businessman's wife in for testing and certainly not the old, senile farts, the alcoholics on detox or the corrections camp inmates who faked sick to get a day off. None of them were flawless. None of the women I grew up with, partied with, and shared a gym changing room with were flawless. None of the men I've bedded or seen undressed are perfect. Alex has problems with relationships. He admits he cheats. I think he cheats because he can't or wont commit to a relationship. I think he finds flaws in order to feel justified in his very selfish and self destructive behaviors. The girls he's dating sounds like a lovely human being, she deserves someone who is loyal, discreet and who thinks she's absolutely awesome. He should break up with her so she's free to go find that person. Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted August 5, 2011 Share Posted August 5, 2011 That's my problem ... I don't find it all in ONE package and then leads me to easily cheat interesting comment, alex ... do you think it's really less about being so picky how your partner looks and more about having a handy escape route? Because in the normal course of things, when two people are attracted to each other, and deep feelings like love blossom, all those things we thought were unattractive become non-issues because we realize they're something minor and we can live with them. Not only live with, but sometimes these flaws become something we adore about them, because they are part of what make the person you love uniquely them. When deeply in love, that is. And if you cheat, it is not because of the qualities women do or do not have. Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted August 7, 2011 Share Posted August 7, 2011 That's my problem.. I don't find it all in ONE package and then leads me to easily cheat As for the women that are thankful they dont have kids, I guess some women are more selfish and think only of themselves vs.others. Wow, just wow. Pot, meet kettle... Link to post Share on other sites
AThoughtfulMan Posted August 7, 2011 Share Posted August 7, 2011 Heh if you didn't realize it already, you should've known you wouldn't get an overly positive response to this thread. Especially from the women, who would be very upset if they were in that situation with a guy. Refraining from all the verbal lashes and questioning of your character. I'll just cut to the chase. If it's a serious struggle to overlook certain things, all you're doing is stalling a deal-breaking issue. The right thing to do is to end it before she gets more attached. Not to mention if she catches on to the fact that something about her body turns you off... she's likely to feel insecure to the point of withdrawing from physical intimacy. Somewhere out there is a guy who would want to be with her. You'd be doing her a favor by letting her move on and hopefully find that guy. At least in my opinion. Link to post Share on other sites
Kelemort Posted August 7, 2011 Share Posted August 7, 2011 I'm female but if a woman came here complaining about a man's body, I'd tell her the same thing. The guy lost weight, for God's sakes. In this particular woman's case, she both lost weight and was pregnant, and both are going to do numbers on your stomach - either from excess skin or a high body fat percentage. She can get into strength training to try and tone her stomach up and reduce the appearance...and stretch marks do fade over time. But really, I think it's worth your while to continue getting to know this woman you say is great. No matter what, she will NEVER be perfect. You -cannot- have it all. There will be downsides in every woman you meet. Yes, I get everyone's point, "You can't ignore the physical attraction part!" But if you get to know her better - even fall in love with her - you may find yourself more blinded to what you perceive as an unattractive feature. You suggest that you're otherwise happy in your relationship. So...why not go with it and see where it takes you before you say, "Nah, busy," and throw her out? You may well meet other women who are super-hot...but they might also have poo for brains, terrible personalities, annoying habits, and on and on. You have to settle at some point - I don't mean on the first woman who comes along, but you realize not everyone is perfect and decide what you can or can't live with. You may be a person who can't live without a smoking body - but at some point you'll have to adjust, as unless you're a Playboy fella, it's unlikely you'll be bagging super-hot 20-year-old women when you're 70 or 80. Link to post Share on other sites
CatNtheHat Posted August 7, 2011 Share Posted August 7, 2011 Let this woman go find someone that loves her for who she is. You obviously don't. Link to post Share on other sites
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