Whatever happens to spouses that leave for someone else?

[AudentesFortuna]

Are there any stories of what happens with spouses that leave for someone else? Anyone got any stories? Maybe their own?

[Logik]

My ex wife seems happy as a pig in sh*t. This is just an assumption though because we only have LC because we have kids. She tells me nothing. Didn't even tell me about OM. Had to find out from my son when he accidentally called me by his name one day. So she's obviously carrying on blissfully in a life where I don't exist, except of course as a baby sitter every other weekend and a child support payment every month. Oh the life of a WS. They do what they want and get what they want, regardless of who they leave lying in the trenches.

 

Sorry. 2 Years along and I'm still bitter.

[2.50 a gallon]

My used to be best friend, and now Ex BIL cheated on my sister and married his OW, who was also getting a D. Ex BIL was allowed weekend custody, for his two girls, the one who was 18, said no. the one who was 16 had to endure two more years, when she too said no more.

 

His new wife got custody of her two kids, the boy joined the Army as early as possible, the daughter ran away and got pregant, they married.

 

Once he was relieved of having to pay child support, and after selling the house they had enough money to purchase a small ranchette, with barn and horse privileges. They bought 3 horses, one for each of them and the third a gentle plug for the grandchildern to ride. It never happened

 

Neither of her kids every brought out the grandkids to visit. My oldest neice married and had two kids, the boy is now grown and graduated fro high school and now in trade school.

 

My second niece, my ExBIL's youngest daughter finally married two summers ago. Her good christian new husband insisted that she invite her father to the wedding. Being as at one time he and I had been best friends, we caught up on times. This was only the second time that he had seen his two grand children. The only other time he had seem them was on the day of their christening. His grandchildren, one now a senior in high school had to be introduced to their grand father. In talking with my ExBIL, he knew nothing of his grand children, he had no idea that his grandson had been a three year starter on his high football team, and and his sister made top grades, that his grand son was now working and owned a car that he paid for, etc. He saw him once as a baby and 17 years later at the wedding, and has not seen them since.

[2.50 a gallon]

I helped her through college, and we married shortly after she received her degree in electronics. She was recruited and hired by a Fortune 500 company

 

I caught my EX kissing a company guard on our six month anniversary, called her every name in the book and not to come home. So she went home with the OM.

 

That weekend, my next door neighbor held a party for my Ex and OM while the neighbor's wife was out of town nursing her sick mother.

 

The neighbor's wife got wind of what had happened, and prior to her taking off again for the weekend with her mom, we had wild monkey sex, making her husband listen on our shared wall

 

The next evening the neighbor again threw a party for my Ex and her OM. She came by early, knocked on the door claiming she needed to find some things she had missed, and to play with our cats. I had about an hour of her rubbing my nose in her OM, until she put two and two together and realized that I had shared my bed with a lady friend the previous night.

 

At that point she went ape $hit crazy, "you screwed some slut in our bed", followed by we can fix this, "I'm so sorrys, It was a mistake, I want you backs". with big crockodile tears. The funny part was when she went outside and at the top of her lungs belittled the pretty boy muscle bound OM was in bed to the whole neighborhood.

 

That was the start of a campaign to win me back that went on for almost 4 years. For me it was over.

 

She then went on at drinking binge and turned to drugs. Which lead to her being fired from her Fortune 500 job. And with drug abuse on her sheet her degree was worthless, and nobody would hire her.

 

She finally settled for a semi job working for a puppy factory, to get a place to stay and make a few coins.

 

Runour has it she did remarry about 4 years later and that didn't last either, with maybe a couple of kids.

[andyg99]

My ex left me for a guy who could "better provide for her"... in the 15 years they were together she managed to alienate our two sons and show my daughter what not to be as a woman... she ended up with another failed marriage, broke (yes her provider didn't provide so well - where as I moved on and am financially comfortable) and pretty much nowhere to go...

 

Now she is leaving her 12 year old behind to "start over" (translated: she found some sucker half way across the country who is willing to let someone he has known for about 5 minutes to move in with him)...

 

My thread titled "My Story" is more detailed but in short I'll be parenting this little girl with her dad, her primary residence will be with me and sadly another one of her children will have major issues with her...

 

I'm sure some of the ex/OM relationships work out, but I'd bet it's a small %... as a whole I would think that they either get themself into something that is very similar to what they had with us or they create a complete disaster....

[mark982]

my ex came home, handed me a pint of jack for my birthday, said happy birthday, i'm leaving you. And she did, for my uncle! time marched on, had absolutely now contact, except when passing on the street. he had surgery,died on operating table. Has 5 kids, 3 which say she's nuts and won't even talk to her.

[askmeplz82]

My ex wife left me 1 month ago. She left me for someone else who already have a wife and kids. I loved her more then anything. She said she still care about me but as a friend/brother.

 

her stuff still in my house. she came twice in last 30 days to collect some stuff she left and also to meet me. She cried when she hugged me and me too but i know we will never be together again.

 

She want me to find someone but it's really difficult to trust another woman at this stage.

 

she cheated twice before this separation not with the same guy. but i was always honest and available.

 

N.B: english for me 2nd language so, there will be mistake

Edited August 5, 2011 by askmeplz82

[coolheadal]

Mine just told me she was unhappy at Chilies back in May 2011. Strange to for her to come out with it. What she has done behind my back really makes me wonder who is this person I've been with for 13 years? Oh well things like this happen not much you can do about it. I left her and gone to my own home about 1,400 miles from her in mid July 2011. I feel much better without her. She on the other hand can miss me or not or cares really.

[Damia]

My xH moved in almost immediately with his AP.

She is 19 yes his junior .

They have been together almost a year now.I have only heard that she is very jealous of his time and I can only assume that is part of why he has no time for our children, sadly.:(

He does not seem to meet with many of his old friends anymore and from the outside looks to be on a very short leash!

I am watching with interest

 

I'm also watching this thread with interest to see others experience