Crazy Azz Familiez

[losinmymind]

I have two families to comment on...the first being my own:

 

My mom is driving me crazy. She literally YELLS about everything--not just YELLING I mean CRZY yelling like at the top of her lungs, cussin, etc. The remote will be lost and she'll start yellin "where'z my fkn remote!" She has said things in the past "I'm going to slit your fkn throat you fkn b*tch" NO LIE.

 

She doesn't say that particular comment anymore but she says stuff like "I'm just going to get a gun and kill either you or myself" WTF. I don't even do anything to deserve this..I mean ok..sometimes my room gets a lil messy but to hear that kind of stuff??? IMO that doesn't deserve this treatment. And I just can't take this yelling.

 

I feel like I'm going to go crazy, everytime she comes home from work my stomach just twists all up because I know i'm about to hear yelling....I've tried talking to her seriously about this but she just brushes it off and apologizes..but then 5 minutes later it's back to the yelling..it's like Jeckel & Hyde. The thing is, she wasn't always like this..just in the past 3 or so years. I think she needs some prozac or something (not trying to be funny). Any comments???

 

The other family:

 

I have a friend who is bisexual. His family treats him like CRAP. His two brothers (both younger, one in his teens, the other 12 years old) constantly call him names like faggot. And his mom allows this, even laughs when they say it. She will let the older brother get away with EVERYTHING but if my friend tries to do the stuff he does, he gets locked out of the house, punished, yelled at, etc. This is causing him a lot of pain..I would go so far as to say his brother in his teens & his mother are EVIL..I really would. Any thing I could tell him??? Thanks in advance!

[Embee]

I am so sorry that your mom is so emotionally abusive. My mom is bi-polar and she had a nasty temper. I had some really bad days where shew would throw a fit about nothing and I would leave the house and walk for hours, just so glad not to be home.

How old are you?

[Pyrannaste]

Originally posted by losinmymind

My mom is driving me crazy. She literally YELLS about everything--not just YELLING I mean CRZY yelling like at the top of her lungs, cussin, etc. The remote will be lost and she'll start yellin "where'z my fkn remote!" She has said things in the past "I'm going to slit your fkn throat you fkn b*tch" NO LIE.

 

My mother used to be like that for quite a lot of time.

On minor issues she would scream, yell, say awful things.... like "I'm going to split your head open, you bitch" (notice the similarity).....

Losing (not finding in a minute) a lipstick (she owns 40!!!!!) would be enough to throw on the floor half of the contents of her drawer, crash things, yell at me AND at dad, she would go into a frenzy. I'm so ashamed of this I am always afraid about what neighbors will think.

Also, I refuse to go anywere with her because for minor things she will become very rude to people. A few times she went in a frenzy because she tought some people was rude to her. she a couple of times kicked a dog because she got angry at the owners not keeping it on leash. Once she kicked a lady in the street. I and father were so ashamed, luck was that that lady didn't report her, she probably just dismissed her as lunatic.

Also, when she is in a frenzy, she won't listen. You can't tell her whaat she is doing is wrong because she'll get even madder. You can't tell her afterwards because she'll get angry again.

She will then come back to her mind and apology (but you either say it is okay and hold grudge for more than 3 minutes or she'll get mad again saying you are making the victim and you are a spoiled bitch).

I'm not allowed to snap back at her, to try to talk some sense into her, to yell or to cry when she's in a frenzy or she'll get madder.

 

I think both our mothers have the very same problem: they get angered very soon with no real reason and cannot manage their anger.

First thing I want to tell you, when she is yelling horrible stuff at you SHE DOES NOT MEAN IT. It's like when you are over-angry and tell people horrible stuff you don't mean-did it ever happen to you?

I'm sure your mother loves you...... she just goes into a frenzy, she says evil things SHE DOES NOT MEAN, then feels like sh*t about it because she didn't want to hurt you and it's just her having problems.

It's awful having to deal with that kind of stuff , it would be great if both you and your dad could talk her to go into therapy. What does your dad say on the matter?

She is probably very stressed, my mum used to be when this used to happen all the time, now she is more relaxed and things got way better.

is there any major problem your mother could have that has triggered this behaviour? do the two of you have a good relationship?

Perhaps it could help if you showed love to her, it is not easy be nice and listen when your angry/sad at her being abusive, but perhaps feeling that you love her might help her and improve her anger management.

Could she be stressed/depressed because she feels lonely? does she have any friends she can hang out with? does she have any hobbies? does she like her work? do your father and you help her with housework?

Hope things will get better ...

remember that her yelling bad things has NOTHING to do with you, I'm sure she loves you and does not mean anything she said.

[vashmash]

i dunno man...my mom is in her mid-forties and going through menopause and it's some crazy stuff!

 

i mean no one in my family can do anything right...if we take out the garbage she gets mad because the bag wasn't filled completely to the top...so the next time if we leave it she gets mad because she feels she has to beg us to take out the garbage...grr...or if we are in the car and we turn the radio loud on a song we like she will swear we are deliberately doing it to get on her nerves....it's like she thinks the whole family has this conspiracy against her or something...

 

as i said before NOTHING we do is right...everything is wrong...we put too much pressure on her...we make her do too much...we tote things around the house and leave them for her to pick up...we are just evil people out to make her life hell...

 

man, i don't know what's up with that...i'm just glad to know she isn't the only one...i am about to snap like a twig though...i mean i have mouthed off to her and stuff and risked being beat to death...but when i snap someone will have to send me to a looney-bin...i can not take her anymore, man...she hates everything i do, everyone i know...a person can only take so much of that....this is NOT the woman my mother used to be....