imsorryms.jackson Posted August 4, 2011 Share Posted August 4, 2011 I was with my girlfriend for 3 years... but then she moved to california (Im from Canada)... We tried long-distance relationship for 6 months and we both agreed that it wasn't going anywhere when she came to visit me during christmas break, however we still deeply loved each other. This relationship meant a lot for both of us. We continued to talk but i wanted to alienate myself from her, because it was hurting too much to be in between (with her but not with her).... Even though the right thing to do at that time was to have a definitive break up, i did not do it neither did she. Anyhow... the main point, while i was trying to separate myself from this relationship, is that she ****ed someone else (a few month after christmas) while she was telling me how much she missed being with me and still love me.... Id never thought shed go this far so quickly, sex is a big deal to me. I felt so betrayed, mad, confused or whatever it is....and i still do 6 months after. We were indeed single and had the right to do see other people but i did not do **** for the love i had and all the blabla she was telling me...She was sorry afterward but always asked me to move on and stop referring to the subject. I still talk to her but my anger towards her actions are always there. She is coming back visiting her family and "me the sort of exbf" this week. I have no idea how to react with her... I dont call it cheating but it hurts everytime i think about it Am i a looser overreacting? Anyhow thanks for reading, tell me wassup Link to post Share on other sites
Mongo787 Posted August 4, 2011 Share Posted August 4, 2011 Man that sucks, the best way to handle it is to be respectful but distant. She has to feel that she doesn't effect you anymore, because she is expecting that you come running to her. The most powerful thing you can do is ignore someone's ego Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted August 4, 2011 Share Posted August 4, 2011 You're not a loser for feeling this way. I obvious that you still have some feeliings for her. Even though you aren't together, you invested your love into her only to find out that she slept with someone else. It hurts, it's going to hurt. So, she still telling you that she loves you. This is called stringing you along. Keeping you on the leash until someone else comes along. This isn't fair to you at all! If she's coming back to Canada in a week, I wouldn't go out of my way to see her. If she happens to reach out to you, be polite; yet distant. Don't let her tell you that she loves and cares for you. Or I should say don't buy into it, and don't reciprocate it. Once she leaves, you need to do a hard NC with her. I don't know who broke up with who. But, if she chose to end the relationship, then she needs to know what it feels like to have you out of her life. It was her choice and she has to live with it. Link to post Share on other sites
Professor X Posted August 4, 2011 Share Posted August 4, 2011 Yeah, I agree with the above poster, it sure does look like as if she strings you along! Meeting up with her in the upcoming week is a really bad idea IMO, I'd suggest you to cancel your meeting with her and go NC (No Contact), from the little you wrote and from the impression I get from you, I think NC is the best solution for you to truly get over her and move on with your life; Of course it's easier said than done, but than again, we've all been there before. Best of luck champ, I feel ya'. Link to post Share on other sites
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