diamondette Posted August 4, 2011 Share Posted August 4, 2011 Hi everyone im 27/F and really think i need therapy because i think im addicted to snooping. Is this something that can be helped? because it really is outta control, i look into everything and anything, I even make stories up in my head and believe them even when im proved wrong! i drove my ex away with it and now its back again with this BF and i cant let it happen. Its like an addiction-we can be sat on the sofa the second he leaves the room to go bathroom im lifting up his sofa cushions and searching thru the drawers and when i hear him coming back downstairs i sit backdown as if nothing happened. and yes i no its wrong but i cant stop! What do i do and what happens in therapy? any been for similar issues? Link to post Share on other sites
tink08 Posted August 4, 2011 Share Posted August 4, 2011 wow, this sounds so crazy!!! what kind of entitlement do you have that makes you feel you can snoop in the first place...what satisfaction do you get out of snooping??? how would you feel if someone snooped all through your personal stuff??? Link to post Share on other sites
FitChick Posted August 4, 2011 Share Posted August 4, 2011 What are you expecting to find? Link to post Share on other sites
TrueColors Posted August 5, 2011 Share Posted August 5, 2011 What do i do and what happens in therapy? any been for similar issues? Hi Diamondette. Well, the first step is actually admitting you do have a problem - which you've just done! Secondly, as someone who is currently in therapy, I would say that maybe looking for someone who specialises in treating addictive/compulsive behaviour might be a good place to start. It sounds like you also have issues with trust, so you may want to think back to any incidents in your past that may have caused you to not trust someone due to deception. There are many different types of therapies, so it's important to research what one works for you. I would say that if you have no idea how, why or where this snooping behaviour is coming from, then talking therapy will help to pinpoint where in your life you picked this habit up. That would be helpful in understanding. Next step is to focus on how to change your thought processes and to get you to stop doing the behaviour. I would ask a potential therapist if they can give you practical exercises so you can put the therapy into 'action', as talking can only get you so far. And don't forget that there's loads of books you could read to find out more. Hope this helps. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
FitChick Posted August 5, 2011 Share Posted August 5, 2011 It sounds like The Lefkoe Method would help you rather quickly. You have a few core beliefs that you need to eliminate and the problem will resolve itself. Link to post Share on other sites
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