angie43 Posted August 4, 2011 Share Posted August 4, 2011 i need some really gd idvice hubby prob my husband is asscusing me of seeing other men whenever i pick up the laptop im doing things i shouldnt be im not the one that can go shopping 4 times a week and take 4 to 5 hrs he is allowed to have female friends but im not allowed male friends so scared of being on my own i dont know what to do i love him so much but he doesnt see this please help Link to post Share on other sites
IfWishesWereHorses Posted August 4, 2011 Share Posted August 4, 2011 He sees it just fine. He's projecting. Accusing you of what he's doing. Sorry you are hurting. Let him know that you will assume that whatever he does is ok for you. Link to post Share on other sites
KathyM Posted August 4, 2011 Share Posted August 4, 2011 i need some really gd idvice hubby prob my husband is asscusing me of seeing other men whenever i pick up the laptop im doing things i shouldnt be im not the one that can go shopping 4 times a week and take 4 to 5 hrs he is allowed to have female friends but im not allowed male friends so scared of being on my own i dont know what to do i love him so much but he doesnt see this please help I think it's a really tricky situation when married people have friends of the opposite sex that are not couple friends. I think it's important that these friends, if they are allowed to be friends of the couple, that they are seen by the couple, and not individually. If you wish to keep these male friends, I suggest you see them only as a couple. That would ease your husband's fears. He should do the same. And there should be no private Emailing or phone calls. If you insist on having that contact, make sure your spouse has access to your Email account so that he can be satisfied that everything is above board. You should expect the same from him. Complete transparency is the only way to keep these suspicions from happening. I'd suggest you both take a marriage course by Mort Fortel, entitled "Marriage Fitness". He has a lot of wise advice about how to handle friends if you are married. You do have to be careful, because friends can become more than that, and could potentially be a threat to a marriage. It's important that, if you are going to have these single friends, that you make them couple friends, and see them as a couple, and not on an individual basis. That would be my advice. Link to post Share on other sites
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