cupcakekk Posted August 4, 2011 Share Posted August 4, 2011 i broke up with my ex boyfriend of five years for my new boyfriend now. everythibng is going great except he is very over protective of me and seriously jelous. hes upset because i left my boyfriend for him and thinks it could have been anybody that i left my other boyfriend for. but it wasn't i love my current boyfriend so much and i would never hurt him. i cheated on my ex boyfriend but only because he had cheated on me. he doesn't understand that the relationship i had before was soooooo bad... i've told him so many times that i would never cheat on him but it's getting really bad. he gets up set when i talk to guys at work thinking that i will cheat on me with them. and if i explain good enough he is still upset because he thinks that they will do whatever they will to get with me. it's like i have no control of myself?? ****ing bull ****. how do i get him to realize that i will NEVER cheat on him. the last time this happened i stood up for myself and got mad at him for this. i explained that i cant keep putting up with accusations that will NEVER happen. he eventually called me from work apologizing and said i should never have gotten treated like this. i was happy but then today i had to break into my window because i was locked out and the first thing he asked was were you wearing a skirt?? and seemed upset with me. what the **** was i suppose to do?! he said he wasn't mad but was just upset with the whole senererio that he had forgotten to tell me he took my key. what should i do if he is upset with me? how do i begin to start this long winded discussion of how insecure he is? if anyone could help me. and i dont want to hear dump this guy i want real advice as to what to say i am in this for the long run and am willing to talk things out with him. Link to post Share on other sites
aisle_seat Posted August 4, 2011 Share Posted August 4, 2011 I think I'd tell him to chill out a little. How old are you both? You seem as though you may be in high school. Is he much older? Link to post Share on other sites
Rinas Posted August 4, 2011 Share Posted August 4, 2011 How long have you been together? If it hasn't been long id see this as a red flag. Link to post Share on other sites
Author cupcakekk Posted August 4, 2011 Author Share Posted August 4, 2011 i'm starting my second year of college. 19 years old. he's 26 so yes much older. i have noticed this may be a red flag but how can i get help with this. i love this man sooo much and he actually is very good to me. it's not that he doesn't let me hang out with people or anything. i still see my friends. and we have both quit drinking because we both used to have a problem. i just feel like he cant trust me because of what i did before. hes worried that if i go out drinking without him i'm going to cheat on him beccause thats what i did with my ex. ( he actually witnessed me do it once...) i feel horrible and thats why we have both decided to quit drinking. but how the hell do i get him to beleive me that i would NEVER cheat on him. the only reason i ever did with this other guy was because he was the WORST boyfriend ever... like seriously so bad and he had done it to me. Link to post Share on other sites
Woman In Blue Posted August 4, 2011 Share Posted August 4, 2011 I'd be more concerned with the fact that a 26 year old guy is dating a teenaged girl. He obviously has issues because he apparently doesn't (or can't) relate to women his own age, for starters. Add in his over the top jealousy and insecurity (created, in large part, by the fact that he KNOWS what you're capable of doing behind a boyfriend's back) and you have a recipe for disaster. This isn't going to last. Link to post Share on other sites
Author cupcakekk Posted August 5, 2011 Author Share Posted August 5, 2011 thanks for your optimism! did you not hear what i had wrote before? i dont want to hear your points on if the relationship is going to last... i just want help on how to make my boyfriend realize i will never cheat on him. Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted August 5, 2011 Share Posted August 5, 2011 Because you left your Ex for this guy. Therefore, it leads me to believe that you were having and affair with this boyfriend if not physical then emotional. Therefore, subconsiously he knows that if you were capable of doing that to your Ex, then you can just as easily do it to him. Just my opinion. Link to post Share on other sites
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