Plotline..."The Notebook"

[luvbits23]

I'm 16 years old and really mature for my age. I have only loved two men in my life. Lets say the guys names are Seth and Carter. I have currently been dating Seth for 6 months and we are perfect for each other. He never treats me badly, loves me with all his heart, wealthy, and to top things off we met in one of the most beautiful countries in the world, Italy. Seth and I have been talking about taking our relationship to the next level as soon as he turns 18 and all I can think about is who my first time was always supposed to be with, Carter.

Carter and I were always labeled the cutest couple in school since we liked each other since 4th grade but dated on and off since then until I started dating Seth. I made the mistake of flirting with Carter again recently and sparking our feelings for each other once again. We both still love each other and want things to be the way they were again. One problem, I don't have the heart to leave Seth.

I'm still not 100% sure Carter will really commit to me since he hasn't in the past. Seth would never leave me. He already knows he wants to marry me and he wants me to have his babies. This sometimes sounds great but also scares me. I'm 16 and as mature as I am, Seth is even more mature then me. He has his life planned from now until the day he dies. Carter is laid back and could care less what happens tomorrow.

As I was talking to Carter I mentioned that we could try some things without me leaving Seth. I know how bad cheating is but I feel its the only way I can have both things that I want. Carter to be my first and Seth as my life long partner. Thinking about this I feel I'm in the movie "The Notebook". I'm Allie, Carter is Noah and Seth is Lon. Even though Seth could do nothing wrong would I still be happy once I was old and gray or risk going back to Noah...again. I know there are several problems with this equation and I just really need some advice. Carter or Seth?

[rafallus]

I'm 16 years old and really mature for my age.

 

Heh, heh, heh, almost believed that one.

 

I say, do Carter, leave Seth, you don't need his commitment. Because you know you wanna tap that ass.

[Professor X]

My initial post was consisted mainly of "hahahahahahahahaha" and "HAHAHAHAHAHA" (note the caps).

 

So I will rephrase: You are not mature for your age and you're fooling only yourself by saying that.

 

Now, go do Carter, than tell Seth.

 

You're merely 16, so don't talk about commitment and life long plans AND CHEATING in the same sentence, than come and tell us how "mature" you are. You just have NO idea what you're talking about.

 

And comparing your situation to the notebook? Are you for realz? You gotta be a troll.

[Woman In Blue]

I know how bad cheating is but I feel its the only way I can have both things that I want.

ROFL! Spoken like a true teenage kid.

 

Drop all the, "I'm so mature for my age!" nonsense, because you're thinking and acting just like a teenager should be acting - it's all about YOU, YOU, YOU.

 

So you've got a boy who isn't even 18 yet, and you're already talking about getting married, having babies, and "growing old together for life?" Check back with us in a year or two - by then you'll have gone through at least 2 or 3 more boyfriends.

 

Thinking about this I feel I'm in the movie "The Notebook". I'm Allie, Carter is Noah and Seth is Lon. Even though Seth could do nothing wrong would I still be happy once I was old and gray or risk going back to Noah...again. I know there are several problems with this equation and I just really need some advice. Carter or Seth?

Ummm, "mature" people don't try to compare their lives to a silly chick flick...unless they're 16 year old teenage girls, that is. :laugh:

 

Do yourself a big favor and DON'T become one of the MANY teenage girls getting pregnant at 16 or 17 and forcing your mother to raise your kid while depending on us taxpayers to support it. It's getting damned tiresome.

[MusicMan1234]

I agree with all the above posters, you are definatly not mature for your age. Basically, what's going on is that Seth offers stability and protection while Carter offers excitment, which, at your age, is what you should really be after. I mean, have some fun while your young, you don't need to get into a serious commitment at this age. BUT, DO NOT CHEAT. Seriously, cheaters are lowest of the low, when you said 'The only way I can have both things I want', that's called cake eating and it's very very bad. Have some integrity and make a decision, trust me, you wouldn't like it if someone cheated on you.

[road]

Do cater all you want every way you can.

 

But you must break up with seth first.

 

Otherwise you would be nothing more then a "mature for your age" slut.

[perpetual_illusion]

I agree with all the above, however harsh some of them were. I especially agree with MusicMan on the cheating stuff.

 

You may be mature for 16, but you're still just 16. Take it from someone who's recently been through that stage of life, you have NO IDEA how much you will change in the next decade. Enjoy life for what it is, it's okay to have a committed relationship, but don't take it too seriously. Like all others said, break it off with Seth and go for Carter.

[luvbits23]

Thanks perpetual illusion. I mean I probably am wrong to say I'm mature I just feel I am compared to everyone else I know. I guess thats not enough. But does anyone feel it would be wrong of me to stay with Seth and just talk to Carter for now (no more than that)? I mean would that still be dishonorable on my part?

[MusicMan1234]

Thanks perpetual illusion. I mean I probably am wrong to say I'm mature I just feel I am compared to everyone else I know. I guess thats not enough. But does anyone feel it would be wrong of me to stay with Seth and just talk to Carter for now (no more than that)? I mean would that still be dishonorable on my part?

 

OK, wow, am I talking to a brick wall? Simple answer, NO! I know what going to happen, it will start off just you and him talking and then something will 'just happen' and PRESTO, you're a cheater. Look, just break up with Seth the poor kid. Spare him the frustration of having such a weak willed indecisive cowardly girlfriend.