5 years in and he cheated on website while I was in Vegas.

[MissVegas]

My ex-boyfriend and I were together 4 years before breaking up in January we got back together the end of April because we had booked a vacation that could not be canceled and we decided to work things out. Basically I said I wouldn't go on the vacation unless we were together so I guess it was kind of coerced..?? Anyways I learned a lot the 4 months we were apart and was much more chill. During our break up he had a Plenty of Fish account and I asked him to delete it. It seemed to disappear but the problem is..

 

I found out yesterday that he just "hid" his plenty of fish account and while I was in Vegas last week *being completely faithful despite much attention from men, shopping for him and missing him* he was messaging girls telling them how hot they were etc on plenty of fish and asking for their numbers and to take them on dates! One even in a nearby city that he travels to..He said he'd take her to the zoo/amusement park. Anyways I confronted him about this and he had nothing to say face to face and then when i left he sent me a few texts saying sorry and i didn't deserve it and he was jealous so was acting out on that. I told him I didn't want to talk about something so serious via text and haven't heard from him since!

 

Do I run run run run run? Or is there any hope?

[cutily]

I you forced someone into getting back with you, I don't know what else did you expect.

[Chi townD]

Yeah, fine line with computers with me. If he was just visiting porn sites and viewing pictures or movies, then I really don't see the harm in that. There would be worst things he could be doing than looking at images on a screen. However, if he's chatting with these ladies online. Whole different ball of wax. He's devolped a relationship with someone on the other end. He's getting responses to his flirtations from someone that is very real.

 

You need to put a stop to it or break up with him.

[make me believe]

You guys got back together for the sake of going on a vacation, NOT because either of you truly wanted to. Or maybe you truly wanted to so you used that as your excuse to basically force him into a relationship, but yeah.... I agree with cutily that you shouldn't be surprised by his behavior. You guys need to break up for good. And I don't know why you couldn't have taken a friend on the vacation instead, or he could have used it & gone with a friend. That's gotta be the strangest reason for getting back together that I've ever heard!

[dreamingoftigers]

God, he's totally avoidant of the whole thing and then has a really lame excuse.

 

Drop and run. This one is not to be trusted.

[Woman In Blue]

I concur with all the other posters.

 

It's called a 'breakup' because it was broken. Not that people can't ever try for a second chance and not be successful - but it usually doesn't work out in a positive way. There was a reason you broke up the first time and you both seemed to do fine going your merry ways without each other for 4 months.

 

Then a planned vacation forced your hand to play 'couple' again, and it just wasn't happening for him.

 

Back away graciously and stop beating the dead horse, MissVegas. I'm sorry it didn't work out for you.

[MissVegas]

he sent me a huge beautiful bouquet and has been very apologetic..he wouldn't do that if he didnt want to be with me.. hmm

[2sunny]

he sent me a huge beautiful bouquet and has been very apologetic..he wouldn't do that if he didnt want to be with me.. hmm

 

so he avoids talking about his cheating and how he feels about you an the R - but the flowers make everything all ok?

 

he has issues... the fact that you would want a man that avoids conflict that way, cheats on you, is purposely deceitful, and causes that much harm - is really more concerning than what he is doing.

 

flowers? that's all it takes for you to overlook bad behavior? sheez.

[Rita86]

flowers? that's all it takes for you to overlook bad behavior? sheez.

Go look at her past threads. This Guy has zero respect for her yet she keeps going back. He knows he doesn't even have to try with her...

[dreamingoftigers]

You are DATING.

 

That is an audition to see if the idiot is worth casting in the role of life-partner.

 

He totally failed the AUDITION.

 

God, my husband didn't even fail the audition and you should see how f-ed up my marriage is.

 

I can't even imagine how this is going to go.

 

Flowers, seriously?

 

I'll send you 3 bouquets to stop seeing this moron.

[road]

and he was jealous so was acting out on that.

 

 

A small red flag, well a really big red flag in your post why was he jealous?

Why did you break up?

Did he date during the break up?

Did you date during the break up?

[MissVegas]

He says he's jealous because during the break up I got way better looking *lost tons of weight, perfect body, worked on my skin etc* and he got really...big.. Like he has a huge belly now. And while I get tons of attention he gets actually made fun of by everyone for his belly. Friends,family etc it's like the main topic of conversation. So he was feeling insecure I guess while I was in Vegas *i looked on the website and the messages were only sent while I was pretty much in vegas* and i did get a lot of attention in vegas basically i was drinking for free the whole time off being invited to guys bottle service but never crossed any lines or boundaries at all..And for the record before we broke up I was what one would call "crazy" basically he was not allowed to do much of anything due to my jealousy and uptightness and insecurities i had. I was so so insecure and controlling. the break up gave me a lot of insight into that. We both went on like 2 dates during the break up. We both didnt sleep with anyone else.

[Hot Chick]

If you got hot, then you can easily find another guy. So don't take him back. It doesn't seem like a good match.

[Woman In Blue]

You're so busy telling us how HOT you are and how many opportunities you constantly get and blah blah blah.... but you don't take 3 minutes to actually READ all the replies that other posters have taken the TIME to type to you. I don't deal with youngin's and you sound like you're 18 years old. I'd rather watch paint dry than deal with this silly immature stupidity.