wilsonx Posted August 5, 2011 Share Posted August 5, 2011 So I hooked up one of my friends tonight with a guy because she recently is going through a breakup just like everyone else here on the forums. This is purely a one time wam bam thank you man type thing that she needed. So guess how she repays me, by telling me my ex posted on her fb that shes now in a relationship with that 37 year old cook she left me for. At first she put in a relationship until my friend commented on with who and he responded MEEEEEEEEEEEE. She later probably changed it due to pressure from him but never responded to my friend. I laughed at first but reality settled in later on tonight after a few drinks and it felt like someone stabbed me in the chest with a knife. ****ing friends, i told her never to tell me anything about her again Link to post Share on other sites
sleepykitten Posted August 5, 2011 Share Posted August 5, 2011 Hey Wilson, I am sorry to hear that, but remember it will pass, you've been doing brilliantly! And you knew she was seeing this other guy, u know youre better than both of them and deserve a huge dollop of lovelyness from someone who is worth your time and effort, and you will get that. Think of this as the last bit of news that will hurt. I remember when i found out my ex husband(not who i was posting about) was having a baby with his g/f a yr after our divorce came through, although i knew they were together and this would happen one day i was waiting for this news it still hurt like hell, but a day later all that pain was gone and i felt totally free, like it was the final pull of a really painful plaster, just a small healed scar underneath. Link to post Share on other sites
Author wilsonx Posted August 5, 2011 Author Share Posted August 5, 2011 oh i know it will pass and thanks for your kind words, i had to write my feelings somewhere because i had been drinking. =) i have been thinking about hanging out with a friend i spent the last 3 days with and had not once thought of my ex today until another friend told me this... ugh bitches be crazy Link to post Share on other sites
ScienceGal Posted August 5, 2011 Share Posted August 5, 2011 My friend tells me my ex has been jogging, lost ten pounds and is seeing someone new. Like that information does anything good for me! WTF was she thinking telling me that?? To her it was gossip that rolled off her tongue, and even after clearly telling her to not to mention him to me again... she says he actually mentioned my name in conversation, nothing good or bad. USELESS information! I'm not mad at her though, Some people just don't understand what you're going through. Its made me more aware and I will be sure not to do that to any friend going through coping! Link to post Share on other sites
amethyste Posted August 5, 2011 Share Posted August 5, 2011 "It takes your enemy and your friend, working together to hurt you to the heart; the one to slander you and the other to get the news to you." Link to post Share on other sites
radiodarcy Posted August 5, 2011 Share Posted August 5, 2011 geez - - you would think when you're going through a break up it would go without saying that your friends shouldn't be mentioning your ex let alone informing you of their every move. i can't decide if people who do this are inconsiderate or just plain clueless. so far i've been fortunate to have any news of the ex get back to me via mutual friends. i'm hoping it stays that way. Link to post Share on other sites
antinko Posted August 5, 2011 Share Posted August 5, 2011 Hm, I saw my ex a few times and she's really looking after herself, even getting tanned, making herself up to look beautiful etc. Sadly, I think we've been competing a bit. I'm hitting the gym a lot more, finally got round to putting in necessary HIIT training and am now ripped. Her loss. I am in pretty darn good shape now; however, I still feel a bit jealous over her progress. I know it's awfully childish, but I guess that's the point. It's all just superficial and we needn't care what our exes are doing now. If they're happy, great...whatever. When I asked myself 'Well would I want to see her alone and miserable?' Honestly...honestly, I had to say 'No' to myself. I am upset 'we' 'us' didn't work, but I want her to be happy even though I know she'd feel slightly better about her insecure self if she knew how much anguish I'd been through! Well...she does a bit. Anyway, the point is, they move on and so should we. Wilson, you seem so good at giving advice to others and it's always sound advice. Make sure to follow it yourself. Our exes weren't 'meant' for us and I don't mean that in a spiritual pre-destined way. They're simply incompatible. Even if they give the impression of being 'better' now than when they were with us, that's irrelevant. The point is that they couldn't be that way with us and, in my case, I wasn't like I am now when I was with her, so swings and roundabouts. Just gotta keep on truckin'! (ok that was a feeble attempt at sounding manly... ) Link to post Share on other sites
without Posted August 5, 2011 Share Posted August 5, 2011 I told my friend not to tell anything about me to my ex and vice versa but guess what?she told him all that i'm sad and can't cope. and I KNOW she sounded like I have told her to tell him. Link to post Share on other sites
shortee143 Posted August 9, 2011 Share Posted August 9, 2011 ugh- unsolicited info about the ex is never good! Ex and I are in the same crew, so I know way too much, plus people say things that I dont needa hear (they say its to keep me informed and help me get over him) ha, still, no thanks! Link to post Share on other sites
SCG_Sasa1111 Posted August 9, 2011 Share Posted August 9, 2011 i am going through the exact same thing man. My gf of 4.5 years left me for a guy the same university program as her (who i knew and met through her back in 2008). We ended in november of 2010 and she was invested in him long before than. we broke up in september and til november it was on and off we didn't kno where we were. she couldn't pull the cord on me but she didn't know what to do with him. I have never felt more pain in my life for anything and I know shes not worth it to leave 4.5 years behind and to go to someone else just like that but it happened and she has truly shown her colors so to speak. it sucks how its been almost 9-10 months and im still here with the same feelings going back and forth in a circle. They are in a relationship and recently I found out through my sister that they went to dominican and stuff and it really hurt cuz that was we were planning to do eventually but go figure. My point is I guess both of us just have to keep on getting through this. I got through 9 months I can keep going. It just really has a huge hold on you. I would love to wake up and completley erase her from my mind and those 4.5 years because i do regret ever being with her after what she did to me and i know you aren't suppose to regret anything but I hate living with the fact that I was so invested in her and she ended up doing this to me. Her sister tells me that she called the cops a few months ago on her new bf and that they are arguing a lot and stuff but what I can see is that even if that is the case she will never break up with him because she will have no one than. She wil be literally alone and I PRAYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY for that day to come when she finally can't take it and this whole HONEYMOON stage ends. I really want her to see how it feels and I KNOW she will come crawling back to me after that its just only a matter of time. I know i will have the full satisfaction than becauese as of now she feels in heaven she could care less but when its all said and done I really hope karma bites her back 9999 times harder and she realizes what it was like for me. " Don't leave something good to see if you can find better..because Once you realize youu had the best the best found better" Link to post Share on other sites
0hpenelope Posted August 9, 2011 Share Posted August 9, 2011 Please include one particular "stupid" friend of mine in your kick pile, wilson. Link to post Share on other sites
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