Patty Posted April 28, 2004 Share Posted April 28, 2004 I feel sad right now.The guy friends,I have on the internet,I thought were my friends,dont act like they like me,just cause I dont do what they want the minute they want it.They are always pressuring me to take my clothes off which I did,so now they should be happy.I dont know why I did it.I thought maybe afterwards they wouldnt ask me if I did it. Today he was real mad cause I wouldnt give him my phone number.He was very demanding about wanting my number.I told him we could talk from the computer.But he said "whatever" after I said that so now I'm going to loose a friend.He promised me he would never pressure me into anything that made me uncomfortable.I told him many times,"I feel guilty" "I already have a bf". Link to post Share on other sites
bluechocolate Posted April 28, 2004 Share Posted April 28, 2004 Maybe you're not losing friends, just losing users. Perhaps there is a problem with expectation here. Are you looking/finding friends on sites where people are predominantly looking for sex? Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted April 28, 2004 Share Posted April 28, 2004 Patty - I wish you would stop talking to these men. They are not friends, Patty. They want to see a naked woman and they are persuading you to be that service for them. You should never, ever, ever talk to any of them again. They are not friends. Patty, they could be saving your cam shots and sending them to friends and everything. Please, please stop doing what these men ask. Make women friends who don't want you to show them your naked self. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Patty Posted April 28, 2004 Author Share Posted April 28, 2004 They are people that find my nic name on yahoo then they IM me and start talking to me.Then after we become friends,they all want the same thing,sex.Even if they say they wont pressure me then they always do. Patty Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted April 28, 2004 Share Posted April 28, 2004 Well as soon as they want sex, cut them off, block them, and don't look back. Link to post Share on other sites
JessiNuemonic Posted May 8, 2004 Share Posted May 8, 2004 hey, Patty ... she's right. There are decent people out there ... get rid of these idiots. Link to post Share on other sites
LILUIL Posted May 8, 2004 Share Posted May 8, 2004 Those bastards. They take advantage of a situation and they expect you to hang around? Real friends wouldnt wanna do that to u. One point all true friends have.... they truly care about you as a person and your opinions, rights, feelings. These people dont. Click the ignore button next time they appear! Link to post Share on other sites
meanon Posted May 8, 2004 Share Posted May 8, 2004 Patty, you are discovering that you can not believe what these guys say. You trust people to be straight with you, you are being used. Your current method of making friends is not working. Maybe from now on you should do the choosing. If someone approaches you, don't respond. At least until you get better at spotting the users. The way to spot a user is to pay attention to how you feel. If you feel pressured, that person is trying to get you to do something you do not want to do. They are not listening to you when you say you don't want to do it. A friend wouldn't do that. Why do you feel you have to do as they say? Is it because you need the contact with them to continue? I think maybe you need to get to know people better before you begin to think of them as a friend or maybe you need more friends generally so that if someone proves themselves to be a user you have other people you can talk to instead. Patty, this has happened before hasn't it? It's caused you a lot of distress. You are letting it happen. You can stop it. Choose a few of the suggestions in this thread, try them and stick to them for a while. See if you feel better about yourself. Please do something or it will keep happening again and again and one day your boyfriend may find out. Link to post Share on other sites
ziggue Posted May 16, 2004 Share Posted May 16, 2004 Originally posted by moimeme Well as soon as they want sex, cut them off, block them, and don't look back. That's what I have done. On Yahoo Messenger I have made myself invisible. Sometimes when I go on the Net I get Instant Messages at random that pop up. It would get really annoying if I wasn't in the mood to chat that is why I have blocked myself. If I got asked out by any of the guys on the Instant Messages I would always turn them down. You don't know who they really are. Link to post Share on other sites
dudesomewhere Posted May 16, 2004 Share Posted May 16, 2004 you need to value yourself a bit more. They are not your friends and you should have never done anything to give in. Yes there are few real friends out there and especially men to women friends. But the numbers aren't all that skewed to make men any worse than women. I know I could prove to you what a real male friend is but I have issues right now so I'm just saying <--- my little bit of levity I use for when I need it. On the other hand, looking at your post...if you had a bf and took your clothes off for some I'd really take issue with that. It's all about the code...bushido!!! Link to post Share on other sites
faux Posted May 16, 2004 Share Posted May 16, 2004 Originally posted by Patty They are people that find my nic name on yahoo then they IM me and start talking to me.Then after we become friends,they all want the same thing,sex.Even if they say they wont pressure me then they always do. Patty I want you to read what you wrote over again twice, slowly. Please realize that if these people were your friends, even if they are only online friends, then they would not pressure you, try to use or take advantage of you, or treat you like this. A good online friend is someone that you can just talk to, pass the time with, and maybe trade some nifty links and such with. It really sounds like these are just guys who try to get in, act nice, and then hope that they will soon get a free show. These people are not your friends, and are not treating you respectfully. I hope that you will find more online contacts that you can just have good conversations with, and not guys who are going to try to get a peep show! Link to post Share on other sites
Jacksin Posted May 17, 2004 Share Posted May 17, 2004 Patty I am not sure if you can do this, but why not change your nic to one that could be either male of female? Using your current nic is a magnet for perverts. If you read the names of other posters in this forum it should give you some ideas. What these so-called friends of yours are asking will only make you dislike yourself and lower your self esteem. Cut them adrift Jack Link to post Share on other sites
Jacksin Posted May 17, 2004 Share Posted May 17, 2004 Oops that should read "male or female?" Jack Link to post Share on other sites
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