Flipper Posted August 7, 2011 Posted August 7, 2011 Or teenage years or 50's? What do you think and why? Which is overall better? Which is more meaningul? I don't want to be anything outside my 20's....
smudge21 Posted August 7, 2011 Posted August 7, 2011 I think as you get older you want it to be more meaningful, but in truth it's all about the ages of both parties. If you're much older or younger than the person you're sleeping with then that will affect what you want or get out of sex. Personally, as I sit here in my thirties, I can honestly say that I get less sex now than I did when in my late teens/twenties, but it's a lot better sex. Quality over quantity.
ThsAmericanLife Posted August 7, 2011 Posted August 7, 2011 Tons better as I've gotten older. I'd never, ever want to go back to being in my 20's or even 30's. It is nice being around people my own age who are similarly experienced and emotionally mature. The 'drama' that so often accompanies relationships with younger people I find is much less prevalent now. Many people (if they aren't bitter) end up being much better communicators... which translates to being a much better lover/friend/dater too.
bac Posted August 7, 2011 Posted August 7, 2011 Or teenage years or 50's? What do you think and why? Which is overall better? Which is more meaningul? I don't want to be anything outside my 20's.... It depends on you. As a generalization, the first love is the best. The second love is good. The third love is Ok. IMO, after 1-3 times, you cannot love anyone anymore but you can fake it easily if needed. IMO Sex is great for men in 20s because they do not have too much experience and their sex drive is highest. A man in 40s has very ridgit skills and he has no fresh feelings about sex, therefore, it feels on an emotional level like he is just m....bating. IMO sex is great for women around 40s because they do have more experience and their sex drive is highest. A girl in early 20s is not very horny, therefore, sex feels very different for her and for her partner who is much more hornier than she is. But, the most important difference is that all quality people are taken by the time when they are around 36-40. So, if you are in 40s, you should accept the fact that all people available around your age are difficult/defective somehow. You should also accept the fact that if younger people agree to have sex with you, the younger people have problems/weaknesses as well.
olivec Posted August 7, 2011 Posted August 7, 2011 I found my 20s were easier due to the fact that i wasnt sure what wanted and just wanted to have fun and hang with my friends. Now that i'm in my early 30s its been harder because i'm at the stage where i expect more when i meet somebody and especially if it develops into a relationship. However this last relationship that i was in has taught me that i need to be more patient and dont expect too much because in the end you'll be disappointed if you do so. Honestly i'm more confused now and have more questions than answers right now at this stage of my life. I'm sorry if this didnt really help you with what you were asking.
thatone Posted August 7, 2011 Posted August 7, 2011 for a man, 30s are the best years. you're not too old to get women in their 20s if you so choose, and you're better off in most ways than men in their 20s so the competition is a pushover. alternatively women your own age are still physically attractive because age hasn't caught them completely yet, and as olivec pointed out, those women who have remained single into their 30s find themselves more motivated to meet men for relationships due to the pressure of time.
grkBoy Posted August 7, 2011 Posted August 7, 2011 Or teenage years or 50's? What do you think and why? Which is overall better? Which is more meaningul? I don't want to be anything outside my 20's.... Depends on the person. For me it is my 30s. 20s were a mess and it was nonexistent in my teens. Some other have better times in their youth. Some have nonstop good times.
Emilia Posted August 7, 2011 Posted August 7, 2011 My 30s are the best so far. Not the easiest but the best in terms of quality and adventure. I have experimented most from my mid30s onwards and have also been most confident and relaxed
motive2002 Posted August 7, 2011 Posted August 7, 2011 So far the 30's have been the best. Partners I had in my 20's were hit and miss. I like women with more sexual experience. They know what they want and aren't bashful to say so.... and I'm like that too Good times!
Easyguy14 Posted August 7, 2011 Posted August 7, 2011 my mid to late 20s have been good, but no relationships though. I just hit the 30 mark this year so I have no idea what's waiting for me yet.
KathyM Posted August 7, 2011 Posted August 7, 2011 Or teenage years or 50's? What do you think and why? Which is overall better? Which is more meaningul? I don't want to be anything outside my 20's.... I think people are often more skilled at sex as they get older, because they have more experience and practice at it, and have learned more techniques, etc. I think dating at middle age is a mixed bag--people tend to have a better idea of what they want in a mate, but they also have acquired a lot of baggage by then in terms of past hurts, past bad relationships, etc.
Dorie Posted August 7, 2011 Posted August 7, 2011 Hearing it can get better is motivating. My 20s were abysmal.
Cee Posted August 7, 2011 Posted August 7, 2011 The in love feeling was most intense in my 20s. Sex was good, but unoriginal. In my 40s love is less intense, but more satisfying since I'm not full of doubts. Sex is confusing at 40. I have more experience, but my tastes keep changing. I don't really know what I like anymore. My boyfriend and I are experimenting. I think life does get better, but there's no guarantee that life will be long. So live the best you can at whatever age you are.
FitChick Posted August 7, 2011 Posted August 7, 2011 (edited) It's better as you get older. You know who you are and what you want and don't want. You also become more tolerant of some things and less tolerant of other things. Your priorities change. The only down side is men get hung up on numbers -- age -- when it comes to women, assuming all of us become old hags after a certain age, when that is clearly not true. They, of course, insist that age is just a number when it comes to them, discounting their paunches and bald heads. So finding someone I find physically attractive has become a challenge. I'm not interested in cubs looking for cougars. Edited August 7, 2011 by FitChick
olivec Posted August 7, 2011 Posted August 7, 2011 The in love feeling was most intense in my 20s. Sex was good, but unoriginal. In my 40s love is less intense, but more satisfying since I'm not full of doubts. Sex is confusing at 40. I have more experience, but my tastes keep changing. I don't really know what I like anymore. My boyfriend and I are experimenting. I think life does get better, but there's no guarantee that life will be long. So live the best you can at whatever age you are. Well atleast I know from other people that once in their 30's things get better. Honestly this last relationship it was a confidence blow for me and i've had to do some self reflection on what i want and need in a woman. But now that i'm in my 30"s hopefully i'll figure it out and find what i'm looking for.
Eeyore79 Posted August 8, 2011 Posted August 8, 2011 In my teens, love was new and exciting, but also quite shallow and short lived. By my twenties the excitement had worn off; I was jaded and relationships were quite boring. By the time I turned thirty I had matured enough to be able to establish a deeper connection with someone and have great sex. So I really think my thirties have been best for me.
Easyguy14 Posted August 8, 2011 Posted August 8, 2011 It's better as you get older. You know who you are and what you want and don't want. You also become more tolerant of some things and less tolerant of other things. Your priorities change. The only down side is men get hung up on numbers -- age -- when it comes to women, assuming all of us become old hags after a certain age, when that is clearly not true. They, of course, insist that age is just a number when it comes to them, discounting their paunches and bald heads. So finding someone I find physically attractive has become a challenge. I'm not interested in cubs looking for cougars. not sure what you're saying about becoming old hags? what age group in your opinion would that be? I think us men get leery around women of a certain age because she might be expecting too much where you feel like pulling teeth to loosen her up. don't think the number thing is that serious.
KathyM Posted August 8, 2011 Posted August 8, 2011 It's better as you get older. You know who you are and what you want and don't want. You also become more tolerant of some things and less tolerant of other things. Your priorities change. The only down side is men get hung up on numbers -- age -- when it comes to women, assuming all of us become old hags after a certain age, when that is clearly not true. They, of course, insist that age is just a number when it comes to them, discounting their paunches and bald heads. So finding someone I find physically attractive has become a challenge. I'm not interested in cubs looking for cougars. Isn't that the truth, that men have a double standard when it comes to age? My sister tells me all the time about much older guys hitting on her, and they keep telling her age is just a number, and they feel so much younger than they are, but then they go on to say they are not attracted to women their own age. So the older a woman gets, the smaller her pool of men are, because guys close to her age are looking for younger women.
Mme. Chaucer Posted August 8, 2011 Posted August 8, 2011 I pretty much never took to "dating," but I guess the whole thrill of it all was more intense when I was in my 20's and 30's. Love, however, is better now that I am old. I KNOW what real love is. I am fine with being on my own, I've raised my spawn, if love's not real and not a huge positive in my life - I don't need it. But, I have it. I can tell you that though I have been in love before, I have not experienced this depth, trust, and harmony. I'm able to give as well as receive all of this because of the lessons I've learned through all the more thrilling stages of my life. Now, just need to stay alive to enjoy it!
CatNtheHat Posted August 8, 2011 Posted August 8, 2011 Or teenage years or 50's? What do you think and why? Which is overall better? Which is more meaningul? I don't want to be anything outside my 20's.... I'm only 32 but from what I have experienced in my 30's, its better than 20's. In my 20's I didn't know who I was or what I wanted. Now I do and that makes everything more enjoyable.
fishtaco Posted August 8, 2011 Posted August 8, 2011 I feel the golden age for dating for men is 30's as well.
FitChick Posted August 8, 2011 Posted August 8, 2011 Isn't that the truth, that men have a double standard when it comes to age? My sister tells me all the time about much older guys hitting on her, and they keep telling her age is just a number, and they feel so much younger than they are, but then they go on to say they are not attracted to women their own age. So the older a woman gets, the smaller her pool of men are, because guys close to her age are looking for younger women. I laugh when I see the age range of women they want. Example: If a man is 58, the woman must be 18-57. If women their own age are too old, uh, what does that make them?
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