Spark1111 Posted August 18, 2011 Share Posted August 18, 2011 As a voracious learner, I personally and whole heartedly endorse any site or authority or pop culture preacher that imparts information which may help someone heal from pain.... even this one! Take what you need and leave the rest. Link to post Share on other sites
Author NoIDidn't Posted August 19, 2011 Author Share Posted August 19, 2011 I guess I've come to the conclusion that I have because I've been there before and because I did love the guy, it made it hard to see it for what it was. I've had guys come on strong before and it be an immediate turn off. But when its someone you actually want a future with, it can be just what you wanted to hear and then some. When a person really loves the fast forwarder, its hard to see it for what it is. With single guys that we have no emotional connection to (yet), we usually do see it as the creepy behavior that it is. But when he love the person, we end up second-guessing ourselves and trying to buy into it because it seems like they really mean it when they get upset at our breaking in with reality. Link to post Share on other sites
MissBee Posted August 19, 2011 Share Posted August 19, 2011 When a person really loves the fast forwarder, its hard to see it for what it is. With single guys that we have no emotional connection to (yet), we usually do see it as the creepy behavior that it is. But when he love the person, we end up second-guessing ourselves and trying to buy into it because it seems like they really mean it when they get upset at our breaking in with reality. Soooo very true! It's easy to have firm boundaries and recognize BS with those I have no interest in, but with those I do, I found it another matter entirely...smh Link to post Share on other sites
Silly_Girl Posted August 19, 2011 Share Posted August 19, 2011 It is possible, but difficult, to pinpoint the times when you are WANTING to believe. I learnt it during my last relationship. I wish I'd learnt it prior Link to post Share on other sites
carrie999 Posted August 25, 2011 Share Posted August 25, 2011 Is something up? I don't get it. I wouldn't want to see you actually trying to put someone down rather than just "being direct", as you say. You post basically just to say MissBee is always hocking other people ideas, maybe getting paid for it, suggesting she doesn't have any ideas of her own? That's not a putdown on MissBee? And have you even read many of MissBee's posts? And what's to sympathize with? The thread topic is fast and furious. From your first posts here, I would have thought you maybe could contribute on topic to this thread if you wished. Is that what is behind this or is it something else? Okay, fair enough. It wasn't meant as a direct putdown on MissBee, and no, I haven't read many of her posts. I reacted only to the style of the OP. It really wasn't personal. MissBee, I'm sorry that I offended you, and I should have been more open-minded. Link to post Share on other sites
woinlove Posted August 25, 2011 Share Posted August 25, 2011 Okay, fair enough. It wasn't meant as a direct putdown on MissBee, and no, I haven't read many of her posts. I reacted only to the style of the OP. It really wasn't personal. MissBee, I'm sorry that I offended you, and I should have been more open-minded. I don't understand how your accusation against MissBee was not personal or a putdown and what being "more open-minded" has to do with any of this. But, I'm understanding less and less of your posts these days, so, I guess I'll just go with the "I'm sorry" part and ignore the rest. Link to post Share on other sites
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