tillyc10 Posted August 8, 2011 Share Posted August 8, 2011 Hi, There has been a tragic and horrifying death in my family very recently, Its unbelieveable and its completely shocked everyone...I dont know what to do, what to say. My uncle was murdered by his own son and my entire family is crushed, he was a kind funny soul and no one can quite accept it. I feel like im on auto-pilot, giving out drinks making sandwiches, anything to keep busy. I just dont understand anything anymore....I feel like everything is coming apart and everyone Ive ever depended on to keep it together are falling apart with it........ Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted August 8, 2011 Share Posted August 8, 2011 My condolences. Perhaps this is a good time to reach out to friends. I found my friends to be a wonderful asset when dealing with my mother's death last year. Part is their compassion; part is distraction with other thoughts and activities other than those pertaining to, in your case, a tragic death. In my own case, I had prior planned to meet up with my best friend and his wife and travel for a couple weeks in their RV while on the other side of the U.S.. I kept my plan, leaving about a week after my mom's death, and we commiserated together, besides my enjoying showing them NYC, a place I love to visit, amongst other activities. Sometimes things work out for the best; sometimes it takes willpower to push through and find a healthy path. Your path will be your own. I wish you well. Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted August 8, 2011 Share Posted August 8, 2011 *hugs* death is a very hard subject to deal with, even when it's something expected, as with someone who's been ill awhile, so throwing murder into the mix ... I can't even begin to imagine what you're dealing with, or how your family must be reeling. however, I do know that the best people are the ones who are a bit distanced from it, friends of yours, as carhill points out. They can step back, yet still give comfort and listen because they aren't as closely involved, and that helps the healing process. in this case, because of the nature of death, I'm guessing that the grieving period is going to drag out because of so many unanswered questions and because there is going to be legal action involved ... your family is in my prayers, especially your uncle and his son ... Link to post Share on other sites
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