Author Cosmo14 Posted August 9, 2011 Author Share Posted August 9, 2011 Can't wait to see you back here in a few months when you cheat again and don't know what to do. I'm an adult who learns from her mistakes... Sorry you won't have the pleasure. Link to post Share on other sites
rafallus Posted August 9, 2011 Share Posted August 9, 2011 Me bitching about how my fiancé ended it with me? Nah. That being said, your nervousness amuses me. Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted August 9, 2011 Share Posted August 9, 2011 Like I asked before... Whose BEEN in this situation? I've BEEN in that situation before! I was the one cheated on and my heart torn out and stomped on. I KNOW what your fiance is feeling right now. But the difference is, I had sense enough to walk away and I'm better off for it.. You know what? whatever.....good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Cosmo14 Posted August 9, 2011 Author Share Posted August 9, 2011 Probably because there's more to it than just walking away. You prolly got cheated on for the same reasons I cheated. These responses make me believe people who sit on here are bored, overweight and hate their life because wahh no one love them... I came on here to see who was in my shoes. For those who had constructive feedback props and good looking out. As far as I'm concerned this thread is over. Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted August 9, 2011 Share Posted August 9, 2011 Uh no... in good shape, good carreer, and make a decent living as a College Professor. I found a loving and committed relationship after the hell I went through and I offer up advice for people looking for help to get their lives back on track. Guess you don't know everyone. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Cosmo14 Posted August 9, 2011 Author Share Posted August 9, 2011 So what's wrong with giving advice to the guilty party? We have emotions too and I do have a conscious otherwise I wouldn't have spilled my guts. Link to post Share on other sites
rafallus Posted August 9, 2011 Share Posted August 9, 2011 (edited) So what's wrong with giving advice to the guilty party? We have emotions too and I do have a conscious otherwise I wouldn't have spilled my guts. What's the problem, though? You got plenty of advice. I'd imagine, you didn't really want to hear some of them, because it wasn't convenient to you, oddly enough, resorting to petty insults when you did. Good luck (you may need it) and have fun. Edited August 9, 2011 by rafallus Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted August 10, 2011 Share Posted August 10, 2011 So where in my posts have I've been bashing. I may have been stern, but yet constructive with my advice. i.e. giving you props when you did the right thing and came clean. I STRONGLY recomended that you cancel the wedding UNTIL you figured out why you did the things that you did and advised you to seek individual counseling to find those answers. Now, have I ever cheated on anyone? No I haven't. However, I had been on the receiving end of a cheater and I know what your fiance is feeling. I offered you a warning of what to look out for with the emotions that your fiance will, most likely, display. To prepare you for the coming storm. You hit him square between the eyes and he's still in shock. When it wears off, you'll know what I'm talking about. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted August 10, 2011 Share Posted August 10, 2011 Guy #2 sounds extremely undesirable and unsuitable as a partner. He dropped out of high school, has a dead end job, fights, drinks and smokes pot. He may say that you can be a housewife and he'll provide, but the fact is that in his situation he probably isn't capable of providing for a wife and a family even if he wants to. You should run away from Guy #2 as fast as you can, even if means being alone. I heard truck drivers make close to $100,000 a year. Not too bad. I wouldn't want to get involved with someone who is a heavy drinker. Guy #1 sounds like a much better catch than Guy #2, but it's pointless if you don't love him or feel attracted to him. Plus he sounds like a decent guy who deserves better than to be with a woman who cheats on him. Since you clearly don't love him, you should let him go so he can find someone who does. OP says Guy #1 wants to take care of her financially but expects her to work for the rest of your life. I don't understand that. OP please break up with Guy#1, he doesn't deserve to be cheated on but to find a new girl who wants him sexually. Trust me, if you drop Guy #2 you will not be over the loss of good sex with him and will take it out on Guy #1. Choose Guy #2 or no one at all. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted August 10, 2011 Share Posted August 10, 2011 OP don't you have another thread going about this exact same thing. Why two threads? Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted August 10, 2011 Share Posted August 10, 2011 Ummm. when she went to guy #2's house that evening to break it off with him he was high as a kite and complaining that he had to be at work at 3AM, as in ON THE ROAD! I live in Chicago and I'm scared as hell knowing there's a stoned trucker on the roads. And if his work figures out he's been driving while stoned, he won't be a truck driver for long. Link to post Share on other sites
Layzie89 Posted August 10, 2011 Share Posted August 10, 2011 OP don't you have another thread going about this exact same thing. Why two threads? She probably figured two is better than one. In case she wasn't getting enough attention in one thread she'll have the other one to fall back on. =] And for the record, people that come here and bash on the people that were here before them for giving their honest opinions don't get too far. You're making your issues public by posting it here yet when we tell you something you don't wanna hear you flip the switch and say WE are overweight losers? Come on now. You asked for people that have been through this, well guess what? I have. My ex cheated on me, I took her back, she cheated again. Like I said earlier, once someone knows what they can get away with, their more prone to do it again and again. And judging by your character, just from what I know about you by reading your posts, I'd bet my left nut you're going to cheat on him again evenutally unless you take our advice, end the relationship and work on your personal issiues first and foremost. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Cosmo14 Posted August 10, 2011 Author Share Posted August 10, 2011 I completely agree with chitown. I'm from Chicago also and the dangers of driving a truck stoned are insane. I was at fault for getting high last night but I don't make it a ritual. #2 has a problem smoking his brains out and playing xbox. I'm a fool for thinking that was somewhat desirable... All there was between us was a sexual attraction. He is going nowhere fast and I almost went down with him. Link to post Share on other sites
Jynxx Posted August 10, 2011 Share Posted August 10, 2011 Kind of entertaining none of you seem to realise you're being trolled. And op is doing it in a way and with a flair other trolls could learn alot from. Kudos Link to post Share on other sites
Author Cosmo14 Posted August 10, 2011 Author Share Posted August 10, 2011 What the **** is a troll Link to post Share on other sites
Bryanp Posted August 10, 2011 Share Posted August 10, 2011 A troll is a person who comes to a message board like this with a made up story to get a rise out of other people and waste their time. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Cosmo14 Posted August 10, 2011 Author Share Posted August 10, 2011 Well I wish this was a made up story. Why the **** would people spend time making up a story... I don't get it. Too much time on their hands. Link to post Share on other sites
Lucky_One Posted August 10, 2011 Share Posted August 10, 2011 No further comment is required. Actions say it all. A couple of posters have been upset that the Fiance "made" OP get an abortion. I suspect that many, many people would ask their GF to terminate when said GF has admitted to being a alcoholic drug addict for the past 8 years, and the pregnancy was two years ago. (Not to mention the fact that she says she is sorry she can't continue her promiscuous lifestyle, and gets tested for STDs every 3 months. I mean, WTF gets STD testing every 3 months when they have been in a monogamous relationship for 2.5 years?) Link to post Share on other sites
Memphis Raines Posted August 10, 2011 Share Posted August 10, 2011 He told me that. And as far as the pessimistic responses how lonely are you that you need to read about someone elses misery... That's what you were hoping for right? no, what we are hoping for is that you ended it with our fiance since you have to pretend to be happy with him, as you have already admitted. I'm a big girl and I don't need a lecture on what to do with my relationship now. I asked for advice on the infedelity part and now that's in the open I can sleep at night. I'm sure someone like you can. Link to post Share on other sites
Memphis Raines Posted August 10, 2011 Share Posted August 10, 2011 I'm an adult who learns from her mistakes... I'm sorry, I didn't know the definition of an adult was someone that chooses a man for what he can give her in the way of security, and that has to put on a "happy face" to be with him. Link to post Share on other sites
Memphis Raines Posted August 10, 2011 Share Posted August 10, 2011 Probably because there's more to it than just walking away. You prolly got cheated on for the same reasons I cheated. ah, so you just justified your cheating. therefore you haven't learned a thing. Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted August 10, 2011 Share Posted August 10, 2011 There is nothing wrong with giving advice to the guilty but let's not sugercoat things. What are you are doing is wrong. The best thing would be to dump both of them and get some serious help for yourself. There is help available for people with your issues so seek it out. Link to post Share on other sites
Scorpio6913 Posted August 11, 2011 Share Posted August 11, 2011 Kind of entertaining none of you seem to realise you're being trolled. And op is doing it in a way and with a flair other trolls could learn alot from. Kudos I finally got to the last page of this thread and totally agree with this! Nice one OP, you fooled a lot of people here, myself & Jynxx not included. Have fun trying to write your "Sex in the City" for teens script... No disrespect towards all the kind Lsr's who honestly replied to the Op... But She/He didn't quite add up. P.S. Feel free to pm me Op, I'm curious as to what you may have as a ulterior motive than a book/script Link to post Share on other sites
Author Cosmo14 Posted August 11, 2011 Author Share Posted August 11, 2011 You must be retarded. That's the only reason I could think of that a bastard like you would think someone made a story like this up. Other peoples lives are probably more entertaining than yours- accept it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Cosmo14 Posted August 11, 2011 Author Share Posted August 11, 2011 I feel like Scorpio is the type of guy who dates people stuck in a virtual world playing RPG's because they wanna forget the reality that he's a boring sob. Link to post Share on other sites
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