fooled once Posted August 11, 2011 Share Posted August 11, 2011 Just to clarify, I was in the process of getting a divorce when I met him. He said he was going to leave his wife but was wanted some more time with his youngest child (10 yo) before he left. I get what you are saying though. Thanks for the advice about the phone calls etc. I've wondered how to handle that, but I don't think it will be an issue. I told him goodbye last night and I meant it. How are you doing? How are you feeling? Are you sticking to your guns? Link to post Share on other sites
Holding-On Posted August 11, 2011 Share Posted August 11, 2011 OP. You write well and I wish you luck. I wanted to let you know that you can click on any unhelpful poster (those that are just here to vent/bully) and put them on your ignore list. Link to post Share on other sites
Lostinlife4now Posted August 11, 2011 Share Posted August 11, 2011 Thanks White Flower and Holding On! Yes Mm did bank on the fact that I loved him...unconditionally! but that was then and THIS IS NOW!!! I actually look at xMM as Pathetic......He needs that ego boosting and telling him how hot he is...Wonder who is going to do that for him now? NOT ME.... I do deserve better and I know that....we all come to revelations and I have come to mine..... I don't have to block anyone out...this is a public forum...and everyone has an opinion....and ya know that old saying "Opinions are like Ass....., Everybody's got one! Love to you all, you ALL make my day happy........:D:D Link to post Share on other sites
Lostinlife4now Posted August 11, 2011 Share Posted August 11, 2011 Oh and By the Way!!!!! Forgot something..... XMM said HE WOULD NEVER GET A DIVORCE!!!! because of his children...Well ya know what dude....you are hurting your boys more than anything else....The best thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother! ...don't think this is the case here.....He calls her the glorified nanny and maid....wtf? I feel sorry for his w....I really do.....she has no idea what he has been doing for 7 years........I hope she has a boyfriend!!!!!:laugh: Link to post Share on other sites
Author So Very Confused Posted August 11, 2011 Author Share Posted August 11, 2011 How are you doing? How are you feeling? Are you sticking to your guns? I'm doing okay. I feel good about my decision. I'll miss him and I'm sure I'll get lonely but that's okay. He's emailing and texting and says he will agree to "share" me if that's what it takes to keep me in his life. I admit that I talked to him over lunch and now I feel bad about backsliding. I have a busy weekend planned and I know staying busy is the key to not pining away for him. Next week may be new drama but I'll deal with that then. Link to post Share on other sites
Author So Very Confused Posted August 11, 2011 Author Share Posted August 11, 2011 Oh and By the Way!!!!! Forgot something..... XMM said HE WOULD NEVER GET A DIVORCE!!!! because of his children...Well ya know what dude....you are hurting your boys more than anything else....The best thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother! ...don't think this is the case here.....He calls her the glorified nanny and maid....wtf? I feel sorry for his w....I really do.....she has no idea what he has been doing for 7 years........I hope she has a boyfriend!!!!!:laugh: I've tried to explain to my MM that he's hurting his kids more by remaining in a marriage and cheating. What kind of role model is that? Honestly, I don't think it's about the kids. I think it's about having a convenient excuse so he can screw around and not have to make a choice. Link to post Share on other sites
donnamaybe Posted August 11, 2011 Share Posted August 11, 2011 he will agree to "share" me Oh, wow. That would make me feel not very cherished at all. I'm sorry he's been such an arse. But at least you know. You'll be fine, by the way. Just fine. Link to post Share on other sites
Silly_Girl Posted August 11, 2011 Share Posted August 11, 2011 Oh, wow. That would make me feel not very cherished at all. I'm sorry he's been such an arse. But at least you know. You'll be fine, by the way. Just fine. I agree. You WILL be fine. Thing is however, MM can't win. If he asks you not to date, it's wrong; if he says it's okay to date, that's wrong. If love is involved it's not going to be 'clean'. It's going to be messy. Link to post Share on other sites
Lostinlife4now Posted August 11, 2011 Share Posted August 11, 2011 Hi So Very! You are so right on this one! The kids are an excuse! AND they will someday find out what their daddy has been doing! Everything comes out in the wash! I feel sorry for his boys........not too good of a role model is he! He thinks he is doing them a favor by staying....I don't think so........... Link to post Share on other sites
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