smartguy Posted August 9, 2011 Share Posted August 9, 2011 I want to start an relationship but she lives in another state. I meet this girl about 5 months ago she from my city but she moved. I crazy how this happen I think I found the girl I really want to be with she everything I been looking for in a women. We get along real good with have allot in common. Its just the distance. to see her I may have to take a plane I cant just get up and drive. I finally told her I had feeling for her, I was wondering if i should pursue her into making something more? I think she knows that I like her now she now playing the hard to get game which is normal thing females do. I don't want to let this pass me by I fail many times trying to start an relationship watch I think sometimes hold me back because I try not to make the same mistakes by going to fast or just waiting for her to make the move. the girl I use to talk to i gave so much energy and time that now im just all burnt out, but I dont want to pass up on this. I want to be that confident guy I use to be.. any suggestions that can help I really appreciate it Link to post Share on other sites
Casablanca Posted August 10, 2011 Share Posted August 10, 2011 Don't go for it...LDR almost never work and to start a relationship in a LDR situation is just emotional suicide. I've been in short term semi-LDR....she was from the Cincinnati area and would return home during the summers and even just a couple months and an hour and a half drive was tough, but was manageable because we knew it was short term. If you are going to have to fly and are just starting the relationship, it pretty much has no chance. I know how you feel. I dated a girl end of last year start of this year, but it turned out she was hating her new career and was going to move back home which is 6hrs away from where I live in June. I really liked her a lot and she had everything I looked for in a relationship and I could be very open and vulnerable with her, but we knew it just wasnt worth it, by the time she would have moved we would have been together 7 months, not worth it...we ended it at 2 months when she knew she was going to leave Link to post Share on other sites
Edition Posted August 11, 2011 Share Posted August 11, 2011 Life is really too unpredictable for any possibility to be ignored, but girls won't play hard to get if they are interested in you. If she is ignoring you or dodging the subject, she doesn't want to hurt your feelings by coming out and saying it, but in the end the result is all the same. LDR's are just tough to maintain. I'm thinking that if she liked you when you were together as friends before she moved, she would have made an effort to push the relationship forward if that's what she wanted, despite moving. Honestly, I would keep the possibility open but don't get your hopes up. I would just move on. Link to post Share on other sites
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