irish21n Posted August 10, 2011 Share Posted August 10, 2011 My husband and I hae been married for 2 years and have a 15 month old boy and I am 5 months along with our second. My husband told me 3 days ago that he was unhappy with how I have been treating him and had been for quite some time. He has tried totalk to me about it in the past and I have not been receptive to it. In fac I have been terrible to him. He is broken and hurt now. He left the night he told me this and I have been devestated since. Both of our parents are urging him to come home and give me another chance. He is too hurt and angry to do so yet. I made an appointment for counseling for tomorrow morning but I don't know that he will go. I plan on going myself to fix my issues for him. He still comes around a lot, we are able to talk to eachoher and be totally honest. Yesterday morning he was sure he didnt want to try anymore, last night he said there is hope for our future together. I am terrified of losing my best friend. I need help!! Link to post Share on other sites
cos_raq Posted August 13, 2011 Share Posted August 13, 2011 A few long talks with him will help. Try together to understand why is this situation and more important search the solution to make it better. Your kids deserve from both of you to make your best and solve the situation. Try not to judge and accuse, just view the problem and find the right solution. Tell your husband that you will do everything you can to make it work and do so. Expect nothing in return. Work harder for your relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
TBH Posted August 13, 2011 Share Posted August 13, 2011 all you can do now is go to councelling with the intention of changing for the better. you realise how you have treated your husband and are sorry for that. its difficult to trust again when your partner has been unkind to you, there is no quick fix or way of knowing if you will work it out but the main thing is you are now attempting to change. you can do no more than this. one thing i found about about councelling, i went to a councellor a while ago for a relationship issue and it was awful. she was no help at all and basically said she didnt see what my problem was. that made me feel very hopeless. BUT a few months later i instead sought out some CBT therapy, and was offered EMDR which is a scientific therapy which has been absolutely amazing. it all depends on where your problem stems from as to what kind of treatment is best for you. so even if you dont have much success with your first councellor, there are other forms of help out there. its just about finding the right one for you. good luck and well done for trying to get help and dont give up Link to post Share on other sites
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