Emme Posted August 11, 2011 Share Posted August 11, 2011 :bunny:HUG:bunny:, I can honestly say that one thing some people don't consider is that the AP might be hurting even more than you are. Not only from the affair being over. But also the suffering of being labeled the cheat in the relationship. Just imagine it, it is possible. So your emotions could be correct. You just never know. Try and think of it that way and maybe it might bring a smile to your face. It's not easy and I congratulate you on your one year. You are a strong woman. Link to post Share on other sites
Under The Radar Posted August 11, 2011 Share Posted August 11, 2011 Chalkfarm, I am sorry to see you hurting like this. Sometimes our recovery can take longer than even one year. Like some people have said keep working on yourself so when the right guy comes along you are ready. You are worth a lot more than being the OW of a MM. It's only a matter of time before you are snagged up by someone who will treat you well without the lies, lack of commitment, and de-prioritization of you. Link to post Share on other sites
TurningTables Posted August 11, 2011 Share Posted August 11, 2011 Hiya Chalk. I am sorry for your hurt and pain. You've gotten some pretty good response so far, all I have to add is dont waste any more of your precious time on someone who isnt worth it. I dont know your back story, but he is probably is *still* in the same place you left him at. Sad, pathetic and miserable. Congrats on the year mark. Celebrate that. Hugs. Link to post Share on other sites
Owl Posted August 11, 2011 Share Posted August 11, 2011 An example of the unhelpful. One who is willing to sympathize but with strings attached. Sorry Chalk...but if it makes you feel any better I don't believe in unconditional love either. If you want help...you don't lash out at those that could help you. And recognizing that just because someone says something that you don't like, makes you feel uncomfortable, or you don't immediately...that doesn't make their post unhelpful or not useful. There was useful advice in my first post to you, as well as this one. If you consider my post carefully, you'll realize that it's indeed meant to be helpful...and contains some advice you might consider, as it's likely to improve your situation and increase you ability to get more support/help from additional sources. Link to post Share on other sites
Gentlegirl Posted August 11, 2011 Share Posted August 11, 2011 Hi Chalk, I do get what you are saying. Days like that attack from time to time. I am 8 months NC . It's xMM's birthday today and I'd like to give him the gift he's never forget in my fantasy. i.e. turn up at his house with a card and a gift in front of his whole family at the party. Never will of course. Tomorrow will be another day with another milestone gone... it will pass. good luck, genltegirl Link to post Share on other sites
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