Crazydazy0409 Posted August 10, 2011 Share Posted August 10, 2011 I have been with my high school sweetheart since high school. I had gotten pregnant when I was only 17. I graduated in 1997, and we moved in together in November 1997. We had two kids by age 21, and we are still together. However we have been through a lot of bull crap, and we managed to stick it out. The past few years I have gotten myself to the point of stability. I am a recovering heroin addict, and am clean for 3 & 1/2 years, but in my addiction I did go outside the relationship, but not in an emotional way. I just needed to get my next fix. Anyway his sister use to party with me, and I had told her like a fool about my infidelity. She waits a year later to tell him, and all he'll broke loose. We eventually got to a good place, and I found out he was having contact with a co-worker for 6 months behind my back. I confronted him and the other woman, and eventually it ended. However I can't seem to get past it. I think because she was a wack job, and he disclosed stuff about me that wasn't true, and that were my secrets. She was only 20 and he was 30, and that made me feel like he was trying to get one thing. However back when I got pregnant in 1999 with our daughter. He was acting out, and I left to move in with my parents, and took our son. I came back about 6 months later, because I am one for mending it not ending it. We have been together for 15 years, and now he wants to get married next June. My question is why now? Am I a fool for waiting so long? Link to post Share on other sites
limelily Posted August 11, 2011 Share Posted August 11, 2011 I think it sometimes take a lot of bull crap to get to a better stronger place in a relationship...in any kind of relationship! It all depends on how you get through it and grow from it. Do you and him think you have grown from your past mistakes, seperately and together? With the trust issue, you do have to keep in mind that he stuck by you as well through your mistake. Yes, it wasn't emotional, but it still happened. Cheating is always circumstantial and never right. Do you know his reasons for wanting to get married now? Have you talked to him about this? Link to post Share on other sites
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